You know what? NC really isn't THAT hard. How I pump myself up!

[GrowingIn]

It's not hard at all actually. I am two months from officially being broken up and I actually have lost contact since the exact time we last spoke, but it was something like 3 weeks or a month. I don't keep track anymore.

 

And I'm no different than some of you. I mean this woman that broke up with me, was the 1 in a billion for me. I was married before and had a soul mate, but this last one....the chances of me meeting this person under the circumstances we met and everything else.....dwarfs my only other soul mate. I mean she was THAT girl. And I know there is NOW WAY in hell I will ever meet someone like this....bla bla bla(you know the drill)........and you know what I say to myself.....so what? Yeah I lost my one and only...uhm....other one and only soul mate! Oooops!

 

I mean wait a freaking minute here. She left right? She sees no future with me right? What am I a freaking idiot to want to be with this person that flat out told me this? What would it have meant had I kept begging or trying to get this woman back? Would have I just liked being humiliated? I mean I can handle rejection, I was in sales...but really even for me...there is a limit cause rejection hurts like hell sometimes. I would have been thick in the head. And why the hell would I want to be chasing and pleading and begging? My "soul mate" had some serious freaking issues of her own. I loved her to death, but by no means was she perfect. I didn't screw this up all on my own. And besides....if this was really my soul mate, what do I have to worry about? If she's the one she isn't going to go anywhere .And if she is my soul mate....doesn't that mean she LOST ME too? Of course it does! I shouldn't be feeling sorry for myself. Heck, I hope someone's feeling sorry for her because she lost her soul mate too, and frankly I no longer have time to care!

 

Whatever the hell she's going to do, if she's the one, she's gonna be back...and if I'm still around I might give it another go providing I don't find some better soul mate or I decide I can't get over the fact she left me in the first place. And if not...well then does that mean she wasn't the one? Maybe, maybe not. For me it's just going to mean she was the one.

 

Honestly she was the one person I could relate to better than anyone else. I don't have any friends that could even come close to her. And I can't see myself with anyone else but either her or someone like her. And on top of it all, she's one phone call away or a short drive, and I KNOW if I did contact her, she would probably say what's up.

 

BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? I DON'T WANT TO! And I just don't care. You wanna know why? Because she left me. It's not my place to do that and I have to worry about ME now. I don't have time for all this drama. If she left and it's meant to be, she's got my damn number. You wanna change her mind you say? Screw that! I don't want to change her mind. If I wanted her back, I wouldn't want her back because of some amazing conversation and skillful use of words on my part. I would want her to change her mind all on her own.

 

Now it turns out I have to contact her in a week to say that I had paid her back a debt but in all honesty, I don't even want to do that. It's going to be late so I'm going to be courteous and let her know that it's going to be late, but if it wasn't for that I would just send the payment, keep a receipt and not even bother myself with a "hey I sent your payment" message. I HATE the fact that I am even going to HAVE TO contact her.

 

That is how much I DON'T WANT to contact this girl. I mean I want so little contact, she could be sitting in front of me and I would prefer to mime things to her. No contact is hard? Hardest thing I have ever done in my life? Pshhhhh...NO IT ISN'T! It's a hell of a lot easier than staying in touch with someone you care about only for them to reject you. It feels a whole hell of a lot better too!

 

Does that mean I don't care? Does that mean I'm not at all curious? Does that mean I don't miss her company? Or that I don't hurt from time to time? No it just means I have enough sense to know contacting her will do absolutely nothing good for me!

 

I hope this helps some of you!

[Danny77]

Agree 100%

I think about seeing her one day and shudder!

I'd just rather not talk again!

[Live-N-Learn]

What a great post! I wish I would have thought like this when my ex and I broke up. You are an inspiration to all dumpee's. I 100% agree with your mindset.

[Pnt8rshs]

I'm not even going through a break up, but I'm terrified of it............(because I'm crazy)............and this post helped me with my current relationship. Just to remember to Be STRONG! Be ME! Don't be weak for no reason.

 

Regardless, thanks.

[GrowingIn]

I'm not even going through a break up, but I'm terrified of it............(because I'm crazy)............and this post helped me with my current relationship. Just to remember to Be STRONG! Be ME! Don't be weak for no reason.

 

Regardless, thanks.

 

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