charis32 Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 This guy I was talking to was really attracted to me (at least he told me so). we would talk over msn and text. He would always make jokes about sex and I asked him that was all he wanted. He said no and that he was just joking and wanted to get to know me. So I gave him the benefit of the doubt because I really liked him. He said he was shy so I would initiate texts and he always responded. I have only initiated twice (its very new). I sent a third text this weekend asking when he wanted to meet up since he suggested before he wanted to go to a movie. he never responded so when I saw him on facebook messenger, I messaged him and asked if he was ignoring me. HIM: Yes, your up my flow haha ME: thats a joke right HiM: Yes, wanna ME: I assume thats a joke too right HIM: Yes -1 for no sense of humour ME: to be fair its hard to understand humour over messaging HIM: Its okay you probably lost your humour as you got older haha ME: - 10 for you HIM: So Im at O Me: no way below zero (I was also joking) HIM: okay than ME: Okay sorry to bother you. I was just wondering if you werent interested. I was trying to give you the benefit of the doubt but it seems your not so I wont bother me anymore I went offline He messaged me: Benefit of the doubt. Ya right you didn't even wait for my response. If you must know my phone was stolen or lost at the bar I was playing at this weekend. Sorry if I don't respond to every text you sent me (I have only sent 3 texts in total). Cya around He than blocked me and deleted me so I cannot reply. Isn't this a bit of an over reaction? Why is he so upset. I just said it seems like your not interested so I'll leave you alone. If he wasn't interested wouldn't that be a relief to him. I really dont get * * * happened. He is 28 and Im 32. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 I get a bad vibe from this guy. Consider the way he is talking to you, joking or not. Do you want to f***? How disgusting is that? I would not even give this guy a second thought! Link to comment
lukeb Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 I would have kept sex chats to an absolute minimum. I think it would have been better to actually meet up first and see if you had chemistry in person. Link to comment
charis32 Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 yes i did change the subject when he joked about sex. i think its innapropriate so early on...i guess im a prude. i was trying to get us to meet up bc i dont believe in texting alot before you meet. i just don't understand his reaction Link to comment
FairyGodmother Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 This guy def doesn't even seem worth your time. Consider yourself lucky he removed himself from your life so you didn't have to do it for him! Rude, vulgar, and prone to overreaction... doesn't exactly spell out dream guy. In any case sounds like it was never really serious, so no big loss. Link to comment
charis32 Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 you are right it wasnt serious. I guess Im just hurt about being blocked. I've never been blocked before and its not like Im going to bug him. Link to comment
DanDee Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 You didn't do anything wrong so don't feel hurt. He was either only after one thing (and knew he wasn't gonna get it) or enjoys messing with girl's heads. Either way no great loss, and he did you a favour in blocking you. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 He was clearly only interested in sex. My concern is that you kept texting him and you even asked if he was still interested. Please do not pursue a guy with all that initiation. Also do not ask if he is still interested ... It sounds a little insecure. Link to comment
BriarRose Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 He was clearly only interested in sex. My concern is that you kept texting him and you even asked if he was still interested. Please do not pursue a guy with all that initiation. Also do not ask if he is still interested ... It sounds a little insecure. I agree, never ask "are you still interested". Anyways, for what it's worth, he did overreact, which is always better than indifference. I suspect you will hear from him again. But I wouldn't pursue it, he just sounds like a horny ole' dog with all that sex talk so early on. Link to comment
LennonAid Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 Even if he was joking, there is very good possibility that he was testing the waters so to speak to see how you'd react. When you asked if he was joking, he took the opportunity to bail out by saying "yes." If you had shown interest in his "proposal" I'm sure he wouldn't have said he was joking anymore. Link to comment
Silverbirch Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 You offered to go to the cinema with a guy you have texted 3 times!!!!! Yes, the guy is a creep, and he is just looking for some action, but I think you should be more cautious about plans to meet up with members of the opposite sex. It was probably fortunate you found out what he was about before you did put yourself in a position which could have become really unpleasant. Link to comment
Ariel85 Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 Your mistake was in "giving him the benefit of the doubt because you liked him". What that meant is that you were willing to tolerate his mistreatment because you liked him and you were hoping he'd change. You knew he was a dirtbag and just enjoyed toying with you and being abusive, but you need to really examine why you held in there as long as you did. That's your take-away from this. Link to comment
chitown9 Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 Charis, this was a learning experience for you. I am sure you will be more discerning in the future. Link to comment
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