sucky situation

[KronicMan]

i met a girl online about a month ago, and we instantly hit it off. maybe too quickly. i had a feeling it was moving too fast but we both confessed we were attracted and had some sort of feelings since we clicked. she spent weekends at my house and we would do things together and have a good time. last week she tells me she wants to see other people and keep her options open.

 

this is a sucky feeling because i feel i could have prevented it if i followed my own ground rules.

[oldenoughtoknow]

So, how did you respond? You guys were only dating a month. Did you ever talk about being exclusive?

[lana111]

things will fall into place. if you are her #1 she will let you know. if you arent, it will fade away.

[KronicMan]

yes we did talk about being exclusive, then a few days later she calls it off. i was pretty upset and told her that what she was telling me was opposite of what she had portrayed to me for the previous 3 weeks.

[oldenoughtoknow]

I would take a deep breath and step back. You're free to see other people as well, right? I suggest you get started. Sounds like it was probably going too fast for her. Like lana said, if you're the one for her, she'll let you know.

[hello678]

Run away. If she doesn't want to make you exclusive she is not worth your time.

 

Trust me I dated a girl exactly like this. She gave me the whole "Maybe sometime ill be ready but not now" bull * * * * . We hung around and wasted 6 months, she was screwing around the whole time and maintaining the 'relationship'.

 

Id honestly say "ok thats your decision no worries" and leave. No one deserves that.