This made me smile

[Scotty123]

This morning I was walking to work in a wee world of my own. When I turned a corner a woman was walking towards me who looked a bit sad. She must have been about 60 ish. When she saw me her face light up, she smiled and winked at me lol lol It was so funny. There aren't many lesbians where I live but we still manage to communicate without saying anything !!

 

It made me smile, just the way humans interact sometimes, one stranger to another

[alli]

That's funny! I've heard that people who are attracted to the same sex just "know". I'm not sure if it's a signal or a certain look, but since I'm attracted to the opposite sex I've never felt the need to dig into that too deep. How do you think you know? Is it a certain look or something?

[iBroken]

Gaydar - Its indescribable....

 

Before I cut my hair short, I got winks from smiles from girls on the street all the time LOL. Like you said, when they know, they know.

 

Now that my hair is short, its a dead giveaway

[DarkSoul]

That's super cute! I have a number of gay and lesbian friends and they have shown me this in action. It's so interesting that there is this ability to sense. They have also said they just KNOW, inexplicably. Elderly people smiling always manage to make my day, anyway!

[Scotty123]

Somebody once told me it was the way woman walk, but I'm not sure about that one ! I think it is most probably that when I walk about I tend to look at women directly in the eye. If they look back directly then it's possible, after that it is probably down to the way a woman carries themselves and what they are wearing, or some strange combination of all of the about. But the speed at which this all happens is pretty amazing ! Winking is a dead give away tho lol

[BiCurious2011]

o.O Just so you know, gaydar isn't exclusive to gay people and not all gay people have it. That's just like saying all gay men like fashion, or all lesbians like sports. It's simply not true. You all are being very offensively stereotypical.

 

I'm bi, and couldn't tell you a straight man from a gay man from a bi man without asking them their sexuality and then simply taking their word for it. I know straight men who act gay, and gay men who act straight.

 

There really is no sure-fire way to tell someone's sexuality -- even winking. Straight guys wink at me. If you think you have gaydar, and you happen to be right the majority of the time, then you're just extremely lucky.

[Elisian]

This story made me smile, the little exchanges like the one you described brighten my day. Thanks for sharing.

 

@ BiCurious2011, what's so offensive about it? If "gaydar" is such a great thing then why be offended when someone assumes you have it? Seems kind of cool to me. And it's not luck it's skill Haha, no but seriously, I just get a gut instinct of whether or not a guy is gay from first impressions, and so far I'm usually right. Its all in the eyes, which is why I sometimes am wary of how I make eye contact. I'm afraid others will read me the same way, but hey, you've got to move out of your comfort zone if you want to better yourself, right?

[BiCurious2011]

Its offensive because it's a stereotype. And I don't have that skill that I'm "supposed" to have just since I'm not straight, so I struggle with not knowing whether people are gay or not.

[Conifer]

This topic is great

 

I was on the train yesterday after work, and I was stood up near the doors. accross the carriage, there was a woman stood at the other set of doors, and when I saw her, we exchanged nods. But I never met her before in my life, and never will again! It was knowing greeting between two like minded individuals

 

I've experienced this a few times before. Once I was walking down the street with my other half, and two ladies were coming towards us, and it was like all four of us just seemed to know, and as we passed we exchanged THE NOD of knowledge

[Nikki_]

Its offensive because it's a stereotype. And I don't have that skill that I'm "supposed" to have just since I'm not straight, so I struggle with not knowing whether people are gay or not.

 

Yeah, it's a stereotype.... So what? Not every stereotype is offensive or negative. Some of them are just humorous and fun.

 

I'm gay and i don't have "gaydar" but i've got nothing against the concept of it or those who claim to have it.

 

Don't be too sensitive about these things. It'll just annoy you unnecessarily.

[Meken]

There are some guys I see and I just get this feeling that they are gay. Like in my group f friends out of all of em I only get the feeling from one guy. They just need a gaydar built into a watch and make life so much easier for some of us.