Delete ex off facebook?

[cherryberry123]

I'm debating on whether to delete my ex off facebook...

Reasons why:

-I've deleted exes off facebook, and I can never check up on them again. Everyone checks up on past exes just for the heck of it even though you're over them. I am moving on with my life. It would be a different story if I was still obsessing over him. I am getting over him little by little each day.

-I want to post up amazing pictures of myself on my profile, and I want him to eat his heart out. He's never seen me dressed up, and all made up. I'll be going to a party in a couple of months and I want him to see how hot I can look. Sort of a revenge and strangely, it will help me move on. You want to flaunt yourself and say, "Too bad you can never have this again!"

[Mustachio]

Most people in this forum would probably tell you straight up to delete him. But if you dont mind possibly seeing his updates or being able to check up on him then who cares.

[mouseno4]

Yes, i would delete an ex off facebook. (maybe i am biased as i only use facebook to read, not post) Deleting an ex from your profile is a step to getting over them.

 

I would never advocate vengeance, and as such i would never do it myself or say it was a good idea. Vengeance never results in what we would consider being justice. To me, personally, it feels like i am lowering myself to a level below where i want myself to appear. Again i am probably biased on this as well as i believe in Karma.

[DanDee]

It sounds as though you're not fully over him, so it might be a good idea to. Helps with the progress... 'out of sight, out of mind.'

[Live-N-Learn]

Cherry, delete him. You do not want to see him with another woman, it would kill you. Please don't play this game. It's over, just go be happy without him.

[dramallama]

Just delete them and read the two threads in my signature. It will bring you relief and you can't move on until you do it.

[manicdogbert]

If one of your reasons for not wanting to delete him is because you want to "show him what he's missing", that all the more reason to delete him. Don't worry about him or what he's thinking of you. You want to move forward with your life and leave the past behind.

[ForumGuy]

Your motive is real clear for not wanting to delete him. If you can handle whatever you might see on his page -AND- you want a means to possibly get him to "eat his heart out", you'd better not delete him yet. However, if you want to get over him and move on with your life, you had best delete him and start doing our own thing without regard to him.

[allsunny]

delete, give it a few years. and when you can look at his page, and not feel anything when you see pictures of him kissing another girl, then you're ready to add him again.

[Yaz]

I would delete facebook altogether. Facebook is the DEVIL.

[donpeel83]

In a word, yes, delete him. I had the same thought logic too......use facebook to post status updates so my ex could see me out enjoying myself etc. However, it backfiredwhen she posted on with her and a guy (albeit the guy was gay, how was I to know?) So, i deleted her, our mutual friends and all her family. I find it easier this way and Im moving on (albeit slower than I wated to). For your recovery do it, delete the ex and move onwards and upwards. Trust me its for the best. In time, when you are where you need to be and are over him and can stomach the sight of him posting his wedding pics etc without your stomach jumpining into your mouth, then by all means explore friendship and re-adding him. Until then....delete delete and finally....delete xAx

[donpeel83]

**doh, that should have read she posted a picture on there with her and a guy xAx

[Silverbirch]

Cherry, something is wrong here Hon. Please don't think I'm coming down on you. I've read quite a few of your posts and seen your pics. You're a beautiful young woman who could likely have her pick of men. With your ex,it seems like when you are with him, you don't want to be with him, but when you aren't with him, you are obsessing about how to get him back. Even if as you say, you just want him to eat his heart out, isn't that a way of getting him to fall for you again?

[dodgedabullet]

Why on earth would you play this game by trying to make him jealous. If he wanted you, he would be with you and not her. It is very likely that he will just see through your game if you posted glamorous photos of yourself. It will be very transparent.

 

Delete DELETE!! I did this on the 1st day of NC. It would just seem really weird and creepy to have an ex on Facebook.

[italiannmf24]

It's probably not a good idea to attempt to make him jealous by posting pictures of yourself on FB. I'd just delete him and move on. I know, easier said than done.

[jimmajam]

Don't do it unless you mean it. It's funny how much weight people put in facebook, but if you do it, your ex will take note. Then if you decide otherwise, you look like an idiot re-adding them, or you torment yourself because you did it and wish you hadn't done it.

[iBroken]

Delete him - you seem to be taking a while to get over him. Perhaps not being able to see his feed or profile might be what you need to push you through the finish line.

 

You can always re-add him later.