husband saids he loves me but not in love with me

[psyo]

I am losing my mind but I guess that is what he wants. my husband of almost 6yrs been together total of 11yrs has change over the past couple of years but it has really showing badly the past year. He has stop all affection, no sex for 15 months then the verbal abuse has gotten so bad, that I feel worthless. When he started this new job a year ago he would come home and talk about this one girl, then one day there was a long blonde (bleach) hair on his face when he came home. Then he would refuse to help out on the bills and hide his checkstubs. All my money would go for bills. Then she calls his cell phone which I had because I was at a hospital in another state for test, and saids, got the wrong number. Then I found the phone bill, texting (which he claims he don't know how) then she text him at 6:30 a.m., to say she miss him. I pick up his phone by mistake and read it, and Iwent off. I call her she didn't answer but I left her a nice message.yea nice, he denies anything, so she calls me to tell me he has been after her and he wants them to get a place together, she said she innocent her boyfriend was listening. They work at the same place. I have caught them together in the laundry room he said nothing was going on but they were too close together. I told him I was leaving and told my landlord I wasmoving out. He doesn't believe me, he has been trying to be nice but I don't response back, I have had enough, but why am I the one feeling like I did something wrong. He said he wasn't moving out that he would have to get a second job, he is giving me the guilt treatment. Oh get this, I was in auto/tractor tailor accident, that morning he got pull over for a dui, the officer said, aren't you concern about your wife and his actions was like he could'nt careless, this upseted the officer, he didn't come to the hospital because the truck had a dead inspection and he didn't think about asking the neighbor he was more concern about the truck this was his respone. Help I am losing it!!

[coolgirl]

Sorry to hear that you are going through this. But why would you want to be with a person that is treating you this way ? dont you think you deserve better than this. sweety, people change in time and they dont stay the same. I dont know what you plan to do, but all I can tell you is that try to get as much as support from your family and friends and see what's the next right step to do. If you want to separate then do that , if you think you want a divorce then do that. do know this you have not done anything wrong. if anyone here needs help its your husband. you've done your best as being his wife and partner maybe you should take a step back and rethink that if this is the kind of person you still want to be with. people divorce after 30 years. it's going to be hard at first but you will be much happier that your out of this. Do you really want all this drama in your life at this point ?