What would you do?

[mouseno4]

Hypothetical situation that ive never been able to personally answer (nor been in). Ive also heard intense debate from both sides of the fence over the years.

 

Your best friend; male/female (no interest from you or vice versa); is in a relationship with X (no interest etc).

 

However it happens, you learn for a fact that X is cheating on your best friend. Be it X is sleeping around (female) or trying every hole on the course (male). Whatever it is, they are being very unfaithful to your best friend.

 

The arguments for and against have always been 50/50 on this topic. This is a generalised question with no real background information.

 

How would you personally analyse the situation and come to the conclusion that you do, and therefore what would your actions be (if any).

[elcie]

If you knew your best friend well enough, as you should, you would know what to do.

 

I know that my best friend would want to know if she was being cheated on. She's a brave woman and not afraid of facing realities; and I also know that she wouldn't blame me for telling her. What I wouldn't do is advise her what to do unless she asked for my advice.

[alli]

I think the best situation would be if you could somehow get your best friend in a situation where they can see the facts with their own eyes, minimizing the amoung of information you have to tell them to get them to see that situation. Tell them what you have to, and get them to see the rest. Either way they need to know though. If there was no other option, I would tell them.

[mouseno4]

Ive been thinking about this topic ever since i first heard of it happen many many years ago.

 

I am so glad i have never been put into a situation such as this. Whilst a best friend is a best friend for a reason, you dont want see them hurt. But at the same time, you dont want to recklessly interfere in their business, nor be drawn into it.

 

The best answer i came up with over the years, is to 'pass the idea accross' to them. The least hurtful method i have found of helping your friend, whilst not putting yourself under the axe.

 

I think the best situation would be if you could somehow get your best friend in a situation where they can see the facts with their own eyes, minimizing the amoung of information you have to tell them to get them to see that situation. Tell them what you have to, and get them to see the rest. Either way they need to know though. If there was no other option, I would tell them.

 

Actually, this was the very first idea i had when i first came up with the conundrum. But then i put myself in their shoes. Would i really want to see my gf red handed? How painful would that be to me? /shiver