I think I did it!!

[KJ2008]

My ex-girlfriend left me two months ago and its been a rough two months to say the least. But today, I found some things of hers that she had from when we lived together. I contacted her, asked her if she wanted it or if I could just toss it, she came over, picked them up and to my surprise....I didn't have that feeling of "boo-hoo come back!"

 

I THINK IM FINALLY OVER THE BREAK UP!

 

She did comment on my new tattoo and I kind of just shrugged it off and didn't really respond to her. I feel I was a little cold but I guess I just dont care anymore. It feels kind of good.

[Ms Darcy]

Everyone's timeline is different. The end of an 8-month relationship many years ago took me 6 months to get over. Later one, I got over a 2-year relationship is one month.

 

Point being, no matter how long it takes, it feels soo good when you are over it. You may have a slip or a thought in the future, and that's ok. That's normal, just keep in your mind that you are moving on. Best!

[italiannmf24]

That's great! I'm glad to hear that your taking it well and you didn't over analyze the situation you were put into.

[Deejmonster]

Congrats man! Keep working on yourself and in no time you will be back out there in the game! Its good to hear that your healing process is reaching an end. Keep us posted!

[KJ2008]

Yea it feels great! I think I could reconcile with her if she wanted it bad enough, but I won't initiate it. She has sent me a few texts already today about me doing well and wishing me well, but I don't need to analyze anything anymore and it's awesome. I really wish all the best to everyone out there who is going through the process. It's worth it in the end!

[DreamSeller]

For me, it took 3 months and it is such a great feeling. It was when I let go of any hope we would have of getting back together was when I started to heal. I've been feeling so good for the past 6 weeks or so. Looking back, I can't believe I was so down and someone had that much control over my emotions. Now I don't even think about him anymore. He rarely crosses my mind now and even when it happens, it's only for a few seconds. Now I just can't imagine myself with me. I wouldn't get back with him even if he was the last person alive.

[motleylou]

Awesome and congrats man, I'm in the same boat. Got broken up with 5 weeks ago after a 7 months relationship which we lived together for a month. The first 3 weeks were brutal always checking my phone and so on. The last 2 weeks were better but I still was depressed and angry. Then all of a sudden it just happened I went out to the bars for the first time since the break up this weekend and had a great time. Flirted with some girls got my confidence going again and now I finally would say I'm about 90% over her. It's nice to see that someone else is in the same boat as me and it feel GREAT to be freed from the relationship and the struggles that come from being broken up with.

[KJ2008]

I think we all can agree that its a great feeling to not have that kind of "emotion" anymore. It is weird how it just happened today. It was right after she picked her things up and left. I couldn't believe myself! I looked at her and just didn't have those urges of feelings of sorrow anymore and I finally realized I had moved on. It is refreshing to see others are doing well too. We can only do whats best for US.

[KJ2008]

Well something odd happened last night.

 

When we first broke up, I wanted her to sign some documents about us paying off each others debts we had in each others name (we have a cell phone plan in her name and she has Credit Card debt in my name). I did this as a way to get to see her and such, obviously. The interesting thing, we never did and were on good terms with the whole thing and didn't feel we needed it. But after seeing me yesterday and then me telling her I was thinking of move my plan, but then realized it might take to much time and was just a big hassle I'd have to see her about, she now wants to sign the same agreement in "paper". Im not sure why, but I think its fishy, but maybe I'm just reading into her to much. Regardless, Im still in a good place with myself I feel I may have turned the tables on the break up into my favor now but it just doesn't really matter anymore. Like I said, if she wanted to reconcile, I'd be down for it, but I'm not going to put myself out there and try, SHE has to. I am going to her house today to sign this "agreement" and then meeting my dad for lunch (who I haven't seen/talked to in 5 years!)

 

Today should be interested. Will update back when I can.