I knew this day would suck

[Arabella314]

Today is my ex boyfriends bday and maybe fifteen minutes after midnight, I check his facebook page to see who posted on his wall and I see this b**** wrote "Happy birthday Babe! MUAHHHH!" Now this "whatever" lives here and was talking to my friend before cause he wanted to have her for a booty call. My ex went and became friends with her on facebook and told her that my friend has a girl and messed his game up. Now she's calling my ex "babe"?! Now I'm going crazy wondering did they see each other when he was here and that's why I didn't stay with him at the hotel like he said I was. I'm so mad. Now I don't know if I should text him or write happy bday on his page. If I don't say anything which my anger is keeping me from doing it, I don't know what I would say IF he messages me tomorrow asking why I didn't say happy bday to him. I can't tell him the real reason cause he broke my heart & I think he's a a$$hole for doing that to me cause he'll get mad at me. I don't even know how freaking old he is anyway. He says 34, I heard 37, but read online 44. Some guy left a comment calling my ex a old fart & saying they were the same age & that guy looks old. Now I'm like what the hell?? I can't ask him either, I got yelled at the other day for bringing up his age. Then I'm soooo stressed wondering if the plan b thing worked cause if it didn't & I'm knocked up by him, I'm soooo screwed.

[Ambiguous X]

Go NC. Take control of the things you can. That drama laiden paragraph was painful to read.

[Nearbot]

Stop looking at his Facebook, and completely delete him from your life. You don't even know his age. I know getting heart broken can damage your ego, but it's him, not you. The guy is a creep and will mess with the next girl, too. Please try your best to forget about him.

[onemoretime]

You're his fb friend? The day didn't have to suck. You have control of this you just have to exercise it.

[Arabella314]

Yea, I still got him on my fb, that's where we met. I know it didn't have to suck. I thought about deleting it just so I didn't have to see his name on my homepage all day. I seriously feel like some lovestruck sucker who's being led around on strings cause I do everything he wants & trying to be the way he wants me to be & I can't break away. Since he came down here last week, it's been nothing but stress. I'm stuck on what to do. I don't know if I should mail him the CD he left here instead of having to see him again when I go back up there this month OR do I suck it up and go and work for him like he wants and have to find out about all this stuff and keep quiet. I feel bad when I think I should just cut him off cause I promised him after we broke up that I wouldn't. Right before he got here he said he hopes I'm still with him and he understands if I tell him to F off and I said I would never do that to you and he said good cause I wouldn't do that to you either. Then when he was here , he spends the night, we had sex, he didn't pull out & he said if I lose my job, I'll come down here and live with you, but on friday he says he needs to find a girlfriend to ride on the back of his motorcycle. I'm like what the F!! He keeps playing these stupid a$$ games with me.

[Nearbot]

It's just a CD. I'm sure he can do without it, but mail it if you feel you need to. It doesn't sound like things are going to get better, and I think you should ignore him. I know it's hard, but you'll be WAY happier. Don't feel bad because you told him you wouldn't. Look at how he's treating you. And he's not going to go live with you if he loses his job. There are plenty of guys out there who will treat you right and not play dumb games.

[Arabella314]

He paid for the CD and it is autographed to him, so I feel I should give it back. I know he's gonna start asking me why I'm mailing it when we're supposed to see each other when I go back, but I know he's gonna start kissing me and calling me baby and I'm just gonna fall right back into his b.s. I don't even think he knows how I feel. After the breakup in January, even though we talk everyday, I stopped saying I love u, well when he left my house one time last week, he said he loves me & I said it back but I have to act like we're just friends but when no ones looking, we're kissing and all over each other.

[Ambiguous X]

Right now you are playing by his rules. Going NC would stop all that. Stop with the guilt, slow down, and start focusing on you. I'd mail his CD or put it in the garbage to be honest with you. You'll start getting your self-esteem together when you start treating him and this drama like a drug and kick the habit.

[Arabella314]

I'm not gonna message him first that's for sure, which I haven't been doing much lately. I usually let him say hi first now. Haven't wished him happy bday and I'm not. Kind of feel bad cause he texted me happy bday & he took me out after he got out of work, but I'm upset at him so nope. And if I am pregnant, it's gonna make it so much worse. I should of already been feeling the signs of my period...I feel nothing. Now I'm really stressing cause I procrastinated on taking that plan b all because it would be his...stupid stupid stupid