tom1607307597 Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 Today I went out with the girl I mentioned in a previous thread about players and it was really good for the most part. No too many awkward silences, alot of talking, conversation going back and forth, etc. We got some ice cream since it was so hot outside and then walked around for another hour talking. She actually wasn't too surprised when I tried showing her a turtle pond nearby b/c she had already seen it. Oh well. What else... we spent some time underneath a shaded tree and talked about living in china vs the U.S. Then we spent some time at a bookstore browsing books and deciding on what book she should try reading in the future. Afterwards I was going to try walking her back to her car or her apartment but she walked me back to the bus stop instead. She said she had fun and we hugged at the end. That's a quick summary of how my date went. I feel so alive though! To all the people who said that I should just ask her out and not worry about all the player stuff, thank you guys. I'm glad I asked her out instead of thinking all was lost. Hopefully she thought of it as a date rather than us hanging out, maybe I should have tried touching her hand more. If not it was a good learning experience. I had to improvise sometimes to break the silences which I'm not used to. I'll try asking her out in the next couple of weeks on a 2nd date. She mentioned she wanted to visit my house to check out my parent's garden so that could be my chance right there. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted June 5, 2011 Share Posted June 5, 2011 CongrAts, Tom! Great post, and she sounds lovely. My best, Cat Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted June 7, 2011 Author Share Posted June 7, 2011 Actually I'm feeling nervous about this next date. What should I ask her to do? I have some ideas: 1.) go to the gym for rock climbing or swimming together (she mentioned she likes swimming) or 2.)have each of us pick a movie and watch them together. Bowling maybe. I'm not really sure what to do. I plan on borrowing my friend's car so she doesn't have to walk next time and we can go somewhere further away from campus. Link to comment
catfeeder Posted June 7, 2011 Share Posted June 7, 2011 I would only do movies after getting to know someone well. You can't really talk or experience anything 'together' with those. Plus, not knowing what the other might really enjoy risks making one of you sit through something that feels like watching one of Grandpa's golf shows... Link to comment
tom1607307597 Posted June 10, 2011 Author Share Posted June 10, 2011 Going to the movie theater wasn't what I had in mind. I was thinking each of us picking a movie and watching them together on my laptop. I'd have to see if she's comfortable with me visiting her apartment or her visiting mine. Link to comment
Solo Pilot Posted June 11, 2011 Share Posted June 11, 2011 No no no heh. Watching a movie on a laptop would be bad especially if it involves getting her to your apartment or vice versa. Now if your the type who's just out to get her in bed then go right ahead. I don't get that vibe from you so I assume you don't want to do that. Bowling, rock climbing, or swimming sounded fine. Like everyone says no movies at all. Just do something that involves some kind of fun sport like activity. Also you better not end the date with a hug. You have to seal the deal with a KISS. Link to comment
beatlesfan77 Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Congrats on the first date. Depending on what you learned about her during the first date I would use that information to plan the second one. Link to comment
TSandullo Posted June 12, 2011 Share Posted June 12, 2011 Nice one tom and congrats. Select to do something you are both comfortable with and take it from there. Above all, have fun. TS Link to comment
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