Am I leading him on?

[piggy_oink]

Ok, so I started sleeping with my friend just under 2 years ago - I told him from the start that I did not want a relationship - with him or anyone, which he said he completely understood. In the last couple of years we have grown very close and we do act like a couple when we are together (I now live 200 miles away). He is still aware of how I feel about relationships but is getting very attached and has said he does not want me sleeping with anyone else etc. He talks of our futute and gets very annoyed if I do not contact him everyday.

 

We are very close and do not want to lose him as a friend but he is getting too full on and I don't know how to tell him this without hurting his feelings

[ferna3069]

well he knows how you feel about it. u should stop sleeping with him.

[Melting]

You need to stop acting like a couple and sleeping with him.

 

No matter how you do it, you are going to hurt his feelings. He has obviously been living in some kind of hope (fed by yourself) that you will change your mind.

 

Even though you have told him you don't want a relationship, your actions are leading him to believe there is a possibility

[GrowingIn]

Honestly if this has been going on for 2 years that IS a relationship! Maybe not an official one, but it's a relationship alright.

[catfeeder]

It makes no sense to behave like a GF only to argue against him behaving like BF.

 

You can't have it both ways. Pick one way, then behave consistently in every manner to back up that choice.

 

Talk is cheap.

[HeartGoesOn]

The way I see it is, once you cross that line the friendship is never the same, and it's impossible to go backwards.

[Crazyaboutdogs]

It makes no sense to behave like a GF only to argue against him behaving like BF.

 

You can't have it both ways. Pick one way, then behave consistently in every manner to back up that choice.

 

Talk is cheap.

 

I agree. This is the typical outcome of an FWB relationship. Ambiguity, mixed messages, hurt feelings and drama.