Closed off,appearing to be sad and lack confidence

[ChicoShadow]

Today I was at the store and i'm walking down the main aisle and I see an employee. He's around my age and really cute and in my head i'm like "oh, please don't let him try to talk to me" (which is stupid bc i've been single for forever and definitely ready to date.) Anyway, as I am approaching him, I can feel my posture and facial expression closing off and getting kind of stony. Then when he's right on the side of me he says, "why are you in here looking all sad. Don't nobody need to be here looking sad, unless they think they're ugly. I know you don't think your ugly..." So I am mortified at this point. The thing is, I know that I am not ugly, however I don't smile a lot and when I don't smile, I look very bored, sad, and not friendly. I don't know how to have a neutral, i'm just walking around, not having the best time of my life but not sad, expression that is not like a creepy smile. I find that when I walk around smiling people look at me kind of weird, my sister says its because I look like I am about to say something to them and then I don't. I mostly have this problem around guys because I am too nervous to actually look at them if I think they are attractive. I don't know what my question is but does anyone have some advice?

[InLimboForEver]

Lol what advice would you like? Go back to that store that guy was obviously into you and let him get your number!

 

I have the same problem as you, but I come accross as angry all the time, Im not, people just presume I am. Ive got use to it now...

 

I think you should stop worrying, if your facial expression was that bad the guy wouldn't have approached you, most people would be happy!

[IStandoutI]

Lol what advice would you like? Go back to that store that guy was obviously into you and let him get your number!

 

I have the same problem as you, but I come accross as angry all the time, Im not, people just presume I am. Ive got use to it now...

 

I think you should stop worrying, if your facial expression was that bad the guy wouldn't have approached you, most people would be happy!

 

haha I have the same thing, I looked pissed the hell off when I'm just walking. But as for the advice, just try keeping a small smirk on your face, that may help!