Guy at work

[megastar]

There's a new guy at my work that I am into. I have been making casual conversation with him for the past few days, just trying to get acquainted with him, but I want to start sending him hints that I might like him. I don't know what to say to send that message. I've tried flirting with guys in the past and then they would later admit to be that they didn't really see me as ever actually flirting, just friendly conversation. They would always say, "Wow I didn't know you liked me the whole time. You didn't really show it." even though I felt like I put in a lot of effort to come accross as interested. So maybe I just need to come on stronger?

[katzenjammer]

I'd say (since I am guessing you are not living in Japan like I am, and having a similar issue), that yes, you should come on stronger. Have you tried exchanging emails with him after work hours?

[xyzzzz]

There's a new guy at my work that I am into. I have been making casual conversation with him for the past few days, just trying to get acquainted with him, but I want to start sending him hints that I might like him. I don't know what to say to send that message. I've tried flirting with guys in the past and then they would later admit to be that they didn't really see me as ever actually flirting, just friendly conversation. They would always say, "Wow I didn't know you liked me the whole time. You didn't really show it." even though I felt like I put in a lot of effort to come accross as interested. So maybe I just need to come on stronger?

since apparently these guys got to know that you like them in the end ,did they go out with you? is it possible that they use this as an excuse as to reject you? also cuz they arent interested in the first place,they give too little care to read signs from you? just my guess.

what do you do to flirt with them?

[neocorp]

just like xyzzzz mentioned, I guess you don't know the boundaries as being friends or flirts. First, you have to come up with some strong suit like getting your game face on; make some solid action like emailing him getting his number etc...

[Deejmonster]

Sending emails or texts after hours from work should do the trick.. laugh at his jokes, touch him on the arm, complement him... ask him out?

[mouseno4]

Sending emails or texts after hours from work should do the trick.. laugh at his jokes, touch him on the arm, complement him... ask him out?

 

Though i thoroughly hate the idea of a girl interested in me laughing at a joke that isnt funny... if it aint funny... rofl dont laugh at it! Seriously! Yeah, besides that, you shouldnt be afraid to take charge/control and do the asking out. I am a full believer in girls being empowered to steer the dating boat. Lasso that guy! (though how to actually go about doing that... yep no idea! Ask a gir.. oh wait!)

 

Good luck!

[megastar]

Thanks for the advice guys. I can tell this guy is a little on the shy and quiet side but he always seems interested in talking to me when I have been initiating convo.

 

I've been trying to make it a little more obvious without coming on to him too strong, and I've been doing that by initiating plenty of conversations with him, smile and giggling, making eye contact, complimenting him, etc. I'm positive I have his attention because no one else at work has really talked much to him, and I'm about 80% sure he has been picking up on my flirting signals because yesterday he brought up a couple of convos on his own, or he will sigh like he wants to strike up convo but doesn't know what to say. OH and I also handed handed him a box at when I did, he looked up at me right into my eyes in a way that I normally don't encounter.

 

So here's the thing: I found his facebook profile. Would it be creepy to add him? I've only been talking to him for about 2 weeks now. OR I was thinking about trying to initiate some sort of convo about facebook or youtube and try to break the ice that way. Good idea?

 

Another thing, He is listed as single but he also has listed that he graduated in 2010 so he's probably only like 19...I'm 26. I thought he would be older than that BUT he is really mature acting for a guy who graduated a year ago.

 

Thoughts?

[neocorp]

Fuat facebook thing is quite fine; people sometimes add ones they don't know or even met before, right! So just add the guy. And you gotta Put some moves on, if you wanna be with this guy; push it hard a little to what he's gonna come up with. Waiting to hear the news, let us know!

[megastar]

Thanks. I was going to but I posted this to another forum and they seem to think it's too creepy. I still want to though.

[megastar]

So I sent him a message and he didn't reply to me. He's been on facebook since I sent it to him because he updated his status, but still no reply. I'm kinda bummed. Does it mean he's not interested?