Difference Between Insecurity and Facts

[reboundstudent]

Where's the difference between a fact and an opinion/insecurity? I get told a lot by friends when I state things that I believe are just facts that I am being insecure. I really don't see them as insecurities, I see it as just a statement of reality.

[annie24]

A fact is something that is true. It's objective. The sky is blue. Grass is green. I have 30 cents in my pocket.

 

An insecurity is something you feel. It may be true to you, but it's not necessarily true for everyone.

 

What do you say to your friends? can you give an example?

[reboundstudent]

What do you say to your friends? can you give an example?

 

The example that prompted this question was a discussion I and my friend were having about a mutual acquaintance. This girl can step into any conversation I'm having and immediately draw all attention to her. All she needs to do is smile or say a single sentence, and it's like I suddenly don't exist. I've seen it happen over and over again with multiple people, but my friend claims this is an insecurity. I really don't think it is... the other person literally forgets I'm standing there, their attention is entirely focused on this other girl.

 

My friend also said my assertion that this acquaintance is seen as better looking and more fun than me is an insecurity, but I think it's a fact because, really, she just is. I guess I don't understand why it's insecurity to observe that someone is regarded as more popular and attractive.

[Day_Walker]

When you are doing more than stating something that is true, then that is an opinion for example:

 

I weight X (lbs/kg) = fact

I'm fat = opinion

[annie24]

All she needs to do is smile or say a single sentence, and it's like I suddenly don't exist.

 

So, you and your friend are sitting, this girl comes up and starts talking, and then you say, "let's get an ice cream" and no one at all hears you or listens to you? That sounds like an exaggeration.

 

To say someone is attractive - well, that's an opinion. that's not a fact like, 'she has blue eyes.' beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

[onemoretime]

The example that prompted this question was a discussion I and my friend were having about a mutual acquaintance. This girl can step into any conversation I'm having and immediately draw all attention to her. All she needs to do is smile or say a single sentence, and it's like I suddenly don't exist. I've seen it happen over and over again with multiple people, but my friend claims this is an insecurity. I really don't think it is... the other person literally forgets I'm standing there, their attention is entirely focused on this other girl.

 

My friend also said my assertion that this acquaintance is seen as better looking and more fun than me is an insecurity, but I think it's a fact because, really, she just is. I guess I don't understand why it's insecurity to observe that someone is regarded as more popular and attractive.

 

I can see where you're coming from. If you wanted to state it as a fact you'd have to say that the person "appears to lose attention to me" or "looks in her direction". You can't say loses all attention because you don't know what the other person is thinking. When you state it more factually you may realize that there's a reason behind what's going on. If the person starts looking in her direction in might be because she brought up a new conversation topic. It's possible that she's more assertive and when someone else starts talking you quiet down and withdraw.

If you stated "the person started looking in her direction and when I talked loudly the person did not look in my direction and did not acknowledge what I had said".

Your friends would have to admit that you're being factual and I think you'd have more of a point. When you leave out specifics it's much more open to interpretation.