Direct or Indirect? what do women prefer?

[j2b]

Hey i was wondering what do women prefer, a guy who is direct or indirect?

By that i mean how to women prefer to be approached?

 

An example of direct would be:

Hey you look extremely pretty, we should go out sometime?

 

Indirect would be just playing it cool and not showing interest but casually flirting.

 

I've been successful with both approaches but I was wondering what women prefer

[elcie]

There's good aspects about both approaches:

 

-The direct approach is extremely flattering and I admire a man who is confident enough to say it straight out. You know exactly where you stand.

 

- The indirect way can be fun. I love the build up of sexual tension and the anticipation of when it's going to happen. But if it goes on too long, frustration sets in and you wonder if the guy likes you or if he just likes to flirt.

 

After carefully weighing up, I think the direct way is best!

[pinkelephant]

Indirect at first, direct after. Guys who are too direct at first scare the crap out of me. It's really the equivalent of girls telling guys they want to get married and have kids. I can't run fast enough.

[Confused123123]

Yeah when a guy is too direct....its dodgy. If a guy came up to me about said 'Hey you look extremely pretty, we should go out sometime?', I'd be thinking 'wow you must be used to doing this to a LOT of girls. Player.' I would see it as sleazy. Indirect is better.....and THEN maybe be a bit more direct if she starts to seem interested in you.

[Confused28645]

The direct way would scream player to me. I would say indirect at first.

[reboundstudent]

Indirect for like the first decent* conversation you have with a girl, direct in the second one.

 

*Decent being more than just "Hi" "Hi" "I like rice" "Me too." Like, first substantial conversation, as in, Now I can say we are acquainted.

[benderman]

Hey i was wondering what do women prefer, a guy who is direct or indirect?

By that i mean how to women prefer to be approached?

 

An example of direct would be:

Hey you look extremely pretty, we should go out sometime?

 

Indirect would be just playing it cool and not showing interest but casually flirting.

 

I've been successful with both approaches but I was wondering what women prefer

 

Approaching women this days is not a question of DIRECTNESS OR INDIRECTNESS grasshopper, it's a question of how the law in your state distinguishes between stalking, romancing or serenading a woman who doesn't know you from jack.

[Jetta]

I prefer the direct method. If you want to date me ask, I hate game players.

[Alezia]

I prefer the indirect method if I don't know the person well. I prefer to have the relationship build up slowly without explicit intentions. I guess I don't like the 'pressure' of dating, where one person may like you more than you like him and try too hard etc...

 

I like romance, subtle moves etc... until you get to a date. After 2-3 dates, then I think it's fair game to be more honest and open.

[Massari]

1st date -------> Marriage (go indirect)

 

after marriage (Direct)

 

any other way, your heart would be like a doormatt and walked all over.

[CarnelianButterfly]

I don't mind the guy being a little playful or indirect when he's trying to get my attention. I do prefer direct approaches, though. If we're in a relationship I absolutely want directness.