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[90_hour_sleep]

serious resignation to the prospect of shaving.

 

considering maybe...the Shavo beard. hahaha!! the thinking man seems so appropriate.

 

 

 

a year is a long time...but not so long.

 

 

[tiredofvampires]

Ahahaha, sleepy!!

 

Don't forget -- there's always the Fu Manchu style as well:

 

 

 

Psycho meets hippie -- why would you want to ruin a streak like that? Lol. "The John Muir frontiersman who'll chop you up into little bits and throw you into the rapids." Um-hm.

 

But no....I'm interested: what is it about that kind of mass that you enjoy? And that is MASSIVE. Have you ever tied it in a ponytail, at least to eat? Something I'll never be able to do...men have so many choices!

 

I always wondered if I was a guy...if I'd hide from the world this way. You know...disguise myself a bit. Lay low. Or is that not even anywhere close to how it feels?

 

May I suggest a ritual? Precipitous hair-cutting undertakings usually involve a ritual of some sort for me.

[tiredofvampires]

(Also, I have to say, I thought the guy in the video seemed to be YOU -- ha! From memory, and your overall vibe, I almost wondered if that was your own video creation, starring you! )

 

Really enjoyed it a lot...even while being a bit sugary...it's really so funny how this is exactly what I think about when I'm parking! I often laugh to myself when I say, "Do you validate?" or especially, "I need validation." It just cracks me up.

 

I actually have a card on my fridge (under a magnet that says, "I have one nerve left, and everyone's getting on it") saying, "VALIDATION -- You are not crazy. You are having a normal response to a crazy situation. Your feelings have just been validated." Haha. So a propos, I think.

[90_hour_sleep]

^^ hmmm

 

i don't remember his name...but the guy from 'kill bill'...i have a vision of myself like that. not sure the fu manchu would really work for me. may reserve that for later years of life...should i get that far.

 

psycho meets hippie!. funny you mention that. i was browsing THE INTERNET today...and came accross an article -- something cosmoesque -- talking about what the beard says about the man. apparently i can relate to joaquin phoenix's new look...which borders on madness? well that's appropriate. it's also been described as lazy...shy...and apparently speaks to virility?!? right. suppose i'm all of those things in equal parts at certain times.

 

i'm not sure what it is for me. always starts out innocently enough. might relate to embracing my bachelorism...because in a lot of ways i think a mess of facial hair is a turn-off for many women. but that's beside the point. it's more to do with my own state of mind. i feel 'unavailable' in this state. it's like a reminder that this is all a conscious choice. whenever i shave...my singledom ends!! ha!

 

so for me...suppose it's a bit like hiding (depending on your interpretation of the word). it's never been in a ponytail...but it's been beaded and braided (in the past). it's been admired and scrutinized.

 

i really like your suggestion though. to be honest...i'm not sure it needs to be all that formal. in the past...it's always been a bit of ritualistic experience by default. a transitioning. it's not just the face...it's also the head. the two work in tandem!! think that's why i'm leaning for the Shavo look. lol. just seems like fun. get to enjoy the 'clean' look with an exotic twist.

 

 

[90_hour_sleep]

(Also, I have to say, I thought the guy in the video seemed to be YOU -- ha! From memory, and your overall vibe, I almost wondered if that was your own video creation, starring you! )

 

Really enjoyed it a lot...even while being a bit sugary...it's really so funny how this is exactly what I think about when I'm parking! I often laugh to myself when I say, "Do you validate?" or especially, "I need validation." It just cracks me up.

 

I actually have a card on my fridge (under a magnet that says, "I have one hair left, and everyone's getting on it") saying, "VALIDATION -- You are not crazy. You are having a normal response to a crazy situation. Your feelings have just been validated." Haha.

 

 

 

someone should start a fridge magnet thread.

 

one of note on my fridge: two clowns...one's on the phone and he's saying, ''screw laughter...what's the second best medicine?"

 

i have NO idea what it means. it's like a koan to me! i have a feeling kids get it...

[tiredofvampires]

Well, for what it's worth, I think you can do better than Joaquin Phoenix in the long run...but I see what you mean! With the madness bit!

 

Ha, you know it's funny, I have a pic somewhere in my files with almost the exact same "flavor" to it...only I'm wearing a black leather jacket and brandishing the Devil sign with both hands, gnashing my teeth, face crimson with fury -- "ROOOWWWWRRRRRRR!!!"...but we could definitely have a psycho-off with that, lol. So I get where you're coming from.

 

Oh, how little people know the real me.

 

And it's also kind of funny that I understand what you're saying with this (that sentence in bold's pretty funny):

 

i'm not sure what it is for me. always starts out innocently enough. might relate to embracing my bachelorism...because in a lot of ways i think a mess of facial hair is a turn-off for many women. but that's beside the point. it's more to do with my own state of mind. i feel 'unavailable' in this state. it's like a reminder that this is all a conscious choice. whenever i shave...my singledom ends!! ha!

 

Actually, I know EXACTLY what you mean. As strange coincidence would have it, I'm going to have my hair cut next week...after about 2 years of letting it "go." It's not that I don't love my hair as long as it can be...but given it's thinned and damaged at the ends...it's not quite the dream head of gleaming, rolling locks I'd like, and who am I fooling. It's low-back now, but the bottom half-foot or so is just me investing myself with the symbolic sense of "unviability" and "unavailability" that would be cut into with a scissors. After a certain point was reached, it then became about taking myself off the table as extremely as I could take it. I was at the hairdresser's last week, just for a consultation -- a new guy I had a sixth sense would be a good match for me (since a woman I know [from one of my favorite circles] whose hair is always so masterfully cut goes to him). He took a lot of time running through my hair with his fingers, talking about what he saw....and then said, "Hair tells a story," holding the whole length of my hair out in his hand. I just really liked that for some reason. Anyone who sees poetry in hair is gonna be the one to do it for me.

 

I'm kind of nervous...because yes, there are some implications that come along with it. I'm not even sure what they are. It feels like an effort to crack the door a bit. I think I've been embracing the garden that's gone to seed...and this feels like the wilingness to at least consider something new, not just with hair. With other things, too.

 

But I think if I could have hidden half my face with this, I would have readily done it. Something about being revealed, or not wanting to be revealed (unavailable).

 

And, seconding the fridge magnet thread! Actually, I had written that wrong and went back to edit it -- it should be, "I have one NERVE left (not 'hair') and everyone's getting on it." I typed "hair" instead of "nerve", I think as a Freudian slip, given this conversation, hee hee.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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[90_hour_sleep]

Well, for what it's worth, I think you can do better than Joaquin Phoenix in the long run...but I see what you mean! With the madness bit!

 

Ha, you know it's funny, I have a pic somewhere in my files with almost the exact same "flavor" to it...only I'm wearing a black leather jacket and brandishing the Devil sign with both hands, gnashing my teeth, face crimson with fury -- "ROOOWWWWRRRRRRR!!!"...but we could definitely have a psycho-off with that, lol. So I get where you're coming from.

 

Oh, how little people know the real me.

 

reveal Thyself to me...

 

...a new guy I had a sixth sense would be a good match for me (since a woman I know [from one of my favorite circles] whose hair is always so masterfully cut goes to him). He took a lot of time running through my hair with his fingers, talking about what he saw....and then said, "Hair tells a story," holding the whole length of my hair out in his hand. I just really liked that for some reason. Anyone who sees poetry in hair is gonna be the one to do it for me.

 

lol. hair tells a story. seems it would be the case...and i probably agree...although i'm not sure i'd align quite with what this guy was thinking (but i'm open to the possibility). did he elaborate on that? or was it one of those vague and enigmatic statements...designed more for dramatic effect than anything else? seems he lured you in.

 

I'm kind of nervous...because yes, there are some implications that come along with it. I'm not even sure what they are. It feels like an effort to crack the door a bit. I think I've been embracing the garden that's gone to seed...and this feels like the wilingness to at least consider something new, not just with hair. With other things, too.

 

But I think if I could have hidden half my face with this, I would have readily done it. Something about being revealed, or not wanting to be revealed (unavailable).

 

that's the general gist of it...for me too.

 

imagining you as dark haired...very dark. lol. seems i'll never remove the ''vampire'' association.

 

oh well.

[tiredofvampires]

reveal Thyself to me...

 

You be regretting that, boy.

 

I'll turn you to stone!

 

lol. hair tells a story. seems it would be the case...and i probably agree...although i'm not sure i'd align quite with what this guy was thinking (but i'm open to the possibility). did he elaborate on that? or was it one of those vague and enigmatic statements...designed more for dramatic effect than anything else? seems he lured you in.

 

Well, actually...he just said, "About 6 months ago, you had your hair colored (looking at the old henna remains), and before that, you changed your medications or something in your diet for the better (we noted how I'm losing hair because of my health issues, partially because I have anemia, partially my thyroid), and then you stopped." Lol....so it wasn't really all that enigmatic, it was more just that. And that I wear scrunchies too much, because it's roughed up my cuticles and frazzled them. Not very magical, har har. But accurate enough!

 

Well, my hair's dark, yes. You got that right...not as dark as all the rest. lol. But I'm glad to not be a blonde. It wouldn't suit me at all.

[90_hour_sleep]

^^

 

lol...so he actually told you the story of your own hair? that makes more sense. and my musings were WAY off.

 

it happens. hah!

 

so you're some sort of gorgon then? or...are we thinking more serpentine...basilisk maybe?

 

medusa has been depicted with a head of snakes. what an image. if you ever change your avatar...maybe you could change it to that?

[tiredofvampires]

I know, yeah? How mundane and prosaic and literal, eh? I wonder what your musings were, lol. So I'm not that poetry-inspiring after all.

 

MEDUSA -- yes! I am she, probably. I've depicted myself as her before, actually...but such would not be appropriate for this venue.

[90_hour_sleep]

I know, yeah? How mundane and prosaic and literal, eh? I wonder what your musings were, lol. So I'm not that poetry-inspiring after all.

 

MEDUSA -- yes! I am she, probably. I've depicted myself as her before, actually...but such would not be appropriate for this venue.

 

well...further to my rantings on 'i'm right, you're wrong, shut up!'...i'm thinking medusa would make for a great enforcer. so i see her presence as perfectly appropriate. imagine turning your 'enemies' into stone. how gratifying would that be. i can see having a disagreement...letting medusa wreak her havoc...and then basking in my self-serving satisfaction! I WIN!

[elcie]

Hi sleepy, Have you thought that if you shave off your beard, you could lose your power.......like Samson did?

 

I had a boss who had to lose his beard because he had a skin allergy. He walked in and we all gasped. The beard had become so much a part of him that he seemed, in a way, strangely diminished.

 

So, in a way, the biblical story somehow made sense to me after that!

 

EDIT: I know it was his actual hair that was cut off, (Samson that is!), but I can imagine it would have the same effect!

[tiredofvampires]

ANY man who cuts his hair loses all his power.

 

hah, j/k. Sorta.

[90_hour_sleep]

Hi sleepy, Have you thought that if you shave off your beard, you could lose your power.......like Samson did?

 

I had a boss who had to lose his beard because he had a skin allergy. He walked in and we all gasped. The beard had become so much a part of him that he seemed, in a way, strangely diminished.

 

So, in a way, the biblical story somehow made sense to me after that!

 

EDIT: I know it was his actual hair that was cut off, (Samson that is!), but I can imagine it would have the same effect!

 

ANY man who cuts his hair loses all his power.

 

hah, j/k. Sorta.

 

mmmhmmm. what an ominous ''sorta'', vampy.

 

so...does this mean that men with no facial hair have no power? ha. and of course...we're assuming that i have ''power'' to begin with. or are we talking ''power on vampy's terms''?

 

elcie, this shows how truly ignorant i am of anything bibilical. aside from the name...i know nothing of the story of Samson. a bit curious now though. the notion of power never really occurred to me to be perfectly honest. i've been through this transformation a few times. and the beard is not even a year old...so how much power could there be. and it's actually the head hair that really needs to go. it's been growing for longer than the beard...past the shoulders by now. i don't know how women do it...kind makes me mental after awhile.

 

maybe that's why i was considering the Shavo look. there's a bike rally coming up in my area...imagine it'd be pretty badass for that. even in it's infancy.

 

haaaahahahahahahahaha!!

[tiredofvampires]

so...does this mean that men with no facial hair have no power?

 

Haha, you HAVE to read the story of Samson. I've often enjoined men to keep their hair by appealing to this favorite character of mine from The Good Book, to give it the weight of an EPIC PLEA...but sadly, most men who have hair to be shorn, facial or otherwise, have little to zero interest in what TGB has to say about anything!

 

Buuut, as the story of Samson relates to the hair on his head, losing your beard go wouldn't count. No, no, I like powerful jawlines that can be seen. Or just seen. So the power is not in the chin, it's in the scalp -- you're safe!

 

and it's actually the head hair that really needs to go. it's been growing for longer than the beard...past the shoulders by now.

 

 

 

NO!!! NO NO NO NONONONONONO!!! You see, THIS would be where you'd be unplugged from the POWAH!! Have you not seen, heard of the wrath I have meted out upon those male posters who have defiled themselves with haircuts here?!?!

 

No, I plead with you not to do this, lol!! Shave the beard, whack it clean off, then make it close as skin, leave it squeaky smooth as a baby's bum, if that's what you please -- but don't TOUCH a strand on your head!

 

And yes, these are orders. Per....per...whatever loose sense of authority I command by virtue of being 1 female out of 3,752,590,465,781,112,678,003,423 posting somewhere at this very second on the Internet. Because this is all about mememememe and my personal grooming affinities on men.

 

Summary: Hell no on the Shavo look, tbh. Completely reverse that hair set-up, and you're golden.

[ProtestTheHero]

I hear ya, man. I actually don't miss my hair at all.

[90_hour_sleep]

lol...Samson has officially made my list. and things rarely escape the clutches of my lists!

 

i'd actually rather keep the beard...or at least parts of it. i'm fairly certain long hair doesn't suit me at all. it's staight....and flat....and VERY fine. and in the 40 degree heat...it's the BANE of my existence!! i'll have to see if i can dig up a pic of the hair. my head's usually wrapped up in something...so the hair doesn't usually make an appearance from the front.

 

little curious about your fascination with hair. the word ''eccentric'' comes to mind...

 

wonder what mr. ''hair tells a story'' would have to say about mine. and not just a story of hair...but a real story...where hair is but a character!

 

lol...numbers really aren't your strong point are they. unless that was intended to be the most ridiculous use of hyperbole...EVER...hahahahaha...EVEEEEEEEER! mmhmm

 

anyway. if the barbers here kept half decent hours the deed would already have been done.

 

and aren't you considering a cut of your own? what are the stipulations here?

[90_hour_sleep]

I hear ya, man. I actually don't miss my hair at all.

 

hmm...thinking you're gonna hear about this, protest.

 

your cut was a bit more epic...wasn't it? you'd had the long hair for quite awhile? that was my assumption anyway.

[tiredofvampires]

@ PTH: Shut up! You're a bad influence.

 

Someone can be saved yet.

 

Edit: just read what 90 wrote. LOL! (I think we posted at the same minute!)

[90_hour_sleep]

@ PTH: Shut up! You're a bad influence.

 

Someone can be saved yet.

 

right on cue.

 

something priceless about your timing.

 

saved. this really has reached biblical magnitude.

[elcie]

Agreed!!!...it's just hair.....we're not talking about a lobotomy are we?

[tiredofvampires]

little curious about your fascination with hair. the word ''eccentric'' comes to mind...

 

NEWSFLASH!.....um....? It took you this long?

 

The only thing is...it appears I've become predictable. And that's not my bag, at least in trivial matters.

 

and aren't you considering a cut of your own? what are the stipulations here?

 

Yes, and the deed has been executed!

 

I'ma be a changed woman now. But my hair does look fine...and somewhat thin...and straight. It's good for what it is...but my hair isn't the pride and joy it once was. *sigh*

 

See, men can get away with anything with long hair and it'll look good. Frizz, bedhead, split ends, slightly matted or greasy, more split ends...I mean think about it, does Sir William Wallace storm the battlefield with product in his hair?

[90_hour_sleep]

NEWSFLASH!.....um....? It took you this long?

 

The only thing is...it appears I've become predictable. And that's not my bag, at least in trivial matters.

 

 

 

Yes, and the deed has been executed!

 

I'ma be a changed woman now. But my hair does look fine...and somewhat thin...and straight. It's good for what it is...but my hair isn't the pride and joy it once was. *sigh*

 

See, men can get away with anything with long hair and it'll look good. Frizz, bedhead, split ends, slightly matted or greasy, more split ends...I mean think about it, does Sir William Wallace storm the battlefield with product in his hair?

 

well done...WELL DONE!!!

 

way to appeal to the scottish nerve in me. some might call that tactic manipulative...i protest...and say only...well played. well played.

 

so...what exactly appeals to you about long hair on men? i'll be honest...i've never had positive feedback about mine. never. maybe i don't embrace it enough.

 

give me a dose of eccentricity. really sell it!! gotta make up for your bout of predictability somehow.

[90_hour_sleep]

Agreed!!!...it's just hair.....we're not talking about a lobotomy are we?

 

well...just hair. maybe we should refrain from trivializing the hair while the ticking time bomb that is tiredofvampires is still lurking...

[elcie]

....point taken.....sorry, TOV!!