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My girlfriend and I have been having sex for about 5 months now and it seems like we can't have sex the next day after we've already had sex. It's simply too painful for her.

 

If we wait about a week before we have sex then she's usually pain-free on the first round. We usually go at least 2-3 rounds in one night (within 1-4 hours). On the second round she begins to feel sore and depending on the severity of her soreness we can go one more round or not. The next day, if we attempt to have sex, it hurts her from the get-go. We use Astroglide, but it still hurts her.

 

She says it feels like she has a cut inside, but she's been checked and had test run by her gynecologist and her doctor told her that there is nothing wrong with my gf. Her doctor even suggested that the pain may be a result of me being uncircumcised, but after conducting more research and consulting with my own doctor, we ruled that THAT was not the reason.

 

Could it be possible that this is simply a result of her being sore and not being able to have sex more than 1 consecutive day?

 

I'm curious whether there are any women out there who are unable to have sex the next day after having had rough sex the day before. It seems like if we wait one day in between, she's able to recover and have sex without pain.

 

I feel like my gf and I are the only couple experiencing this at the moment. Any input is greatly appreciated.

 

Thanks

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It's absolutely possible. Some girls get sore down there way more than other girls...I dunno what it's about exactly, their skin is more sensitive maybe? I don't think it's your circumcision status that causes that because I know a girl with uncircumcised boy friend who has the same problem.

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I've got the same issue. Just don't harp on this 'problem'. It'll make her feel like a freak. Accept her the way she is and do it once a week.

 

The thing is she's never had this problem before me, which made us feel like it was my problem. So after she got checked and I spoke with my doc and found out that there was no obvious problem we were back to trying to figure out what it could be.

 

You say you have the same issue. What exactly is the issue?

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The thing is she's never had this problem before me, which made us feel like it was my problem.

 

I wouldn't really even view it as a "problem". Despite her needing a little time, it seems like you 2 still have a very healthy sex life. Don't worry too much about it. I doubt there is anything wrong with either of you.

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Have you considered body hair? I think for some people the hair down there rubs on sensitive skin and causes soreness. Some men have hair on the lower part of their organ, when that part goes in that hair can be irritating (even with lube).

 

Also try cleaning her area gently when you finish, make sure not to use anything irritating like a lot of soaps can be for that area. A bit of witch hazel applied externally can be soothing to the skin.

 

Could try cutting back on how much activity happens in one night, so she feels better faster. Then give it time. Her skin may just need to get used to the activity.

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I wouldn't really even view it as a "problem". Despite her needing a little time, it seems like you 2 still have a very healthy sex life. Don't worry too much about it. I doubt there is anything wrong with either of you.

 

Well, it kind of is a bit of a problem because we both want to engage but can't. I don't mind not having sex more than once a week (although I would have it every day if possible) but I wonder if there is something that can be done to improve recovery time or possibly "heal" this.

 

Sparkly Eyes, how do you deal with this and have you been able to heal from this?

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Have you considered body hair? I think for some people the hair down there rubs on sensitive skin and causes soreness. Some men have hair on the lower part of their organ, when that part goes in that hair can be irritating (even with lube).

 

Also try cleaning her area gently when you finish, make sure not to use anything irritating like a lot of soaps can be for that area. A bit of witch hazel applied externally can be soothing to the skin.

 

 

Could try cutting back on how much activity happens in one night, so she feels better faster. Then give it time. Her skin may just need to get used to the activity.

 

 

 

 

I'm clean shaven like a porn star. Wait a minute, I also do give it to her like a porn star. Not trying to be funny here, but we do have pretty intense sex. We have great sex when she's not in pain.

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No, I accepted that this is just how I am. So I try not to push it when I'm too sore. My ex was very understanding, so we tried to do it slowly every time and see if I can handle it or not. We usually stopped if it was too much for me and did oral instead. You don't have to have sex just once a week...just make sure you are not doing it when she is in too much pain.

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No, I accepted that this is just how I am. So I try not to push it when I'm too sore. My ex was very understanding, so we tried to do it slowly every time and see if I can handle it or not. We usually stopped if it was too much for me and did oral instead. You don't have to have sex just once a week...just make sure you are not doing it when she is in too much pain.

 

Okay, I feel like you can def. relate with my girl. Now one question for you. You mentioned this was with your ex. Have you experienced this pain with another guy after your ex?

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I'm clean shaven like a porn star. Wait a minute, I also do give it to her like a porn star. Not trying to be funny here, but we do have pretty intense sex. We have great sex when she's not in pain.

 

Okaaay. How about her? I suppose if your bits are shaved she does the same. I don't need to know lol just her own hair can also cause irritation if she is keeping any of it by the entrance.

 

Try the witch hazel thing. Google "pain after sex witch hazel." Some people use it after having a baby to soothe the tired girly bits, and for diseases that cause vaginal irritation.

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If you cut down on the amount of sex in one day, that could help. Why not just once every second day or something? I would get sore, too if I was having sex 4 times in one day, every day.

 

Also, just because you can't have intercourse every day, doesn't mean there aren't lots of other fun things you can do with each other... just saying!

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The thing is she's never had this problem before me, which made us feel like it was my problem. So after she got checked and I spoke with my doc and found out that there was no obvious problem we were back to trying to figure out what it could be.

 

You say you have the same issue. What exactly is the issue?

 

Just because you're not having sex as the 'typical' couple doesn't mean it's not normal. People say this or that is normal but it's up to the couple to decide what's good for them. If you and her are fine once a week, then that's normal to the both of you.

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I recently got the Kyleena inserted and am now struggling with this myself. I used to be able to have sex whenever I wanted but now I need at least a day in between. Idk if it has to do with the Kyleena but I think it could just be the body changing. I highly doubt anyone with the same problem has any infection, if it's just friction burn type of hurting anyway but maybe a check up would be helpful anyway. But yeah if anyone else got a IUD insertion it could just be that messing with your body for the moment. 

Replying very late but just incase anyone else stumbles across this I hope it helped 🙂

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It’s because you have rough sex several times a day. Also, if you’re well endowed like a porn star, you're probably hitting her cervix repeatedly, which really hurts after a while. I know from experience. 
 

My advice is, tone down the rough sex. I find I can have sex once everyday, given proper natural (not artificial) lubrication, which means I want to have sex, not just the guy, and also if the sex is not rough or so deep that it hits my cervix. Be gentle and do more foreplay and cut down on the porn antics. I feel bad for this poor girl. Please don’t pressure her to have sex with you when she’s in pain. Since you’ve had this issue with other women in the past, it’s your issue to solve by using the tips I’ve outlined. Rough sex is not good sex in this case.

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