DrKitten Posted October 3, 2013 Author Share Posted October 3, 2013 I know, right? I love the cut of #1 and the color of #2. Sighhh, decisions. New guy at work is alright, nice enough. He eerily reminds me of my brother. In my head, I kept wanting to call him by my brother's name. They don't look particularly alike but have many of the same mannerisms. I also probably just miss my brother who I'll be seeing in about 2 weeks! He (new guy) has another job which is also beer-related, so he knows his stuff thankfully. I have no idea how old he is (over 21, obviously) but his mom came to pick him up after work last night? Haven't seen that among my peers in a while. But both he and the other weekend person have other jobs they spend more time at, so I am still going to ask about working an extra day. I am going to flip out at my wedding venue people. They said they would call Monday or Tuesday, and I haven't heard a thing! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted October 4, 2013 Author Share Posted October 4, 2013 FINALLY they called and we have the price. And I just ordered invitations, squeeeeee! And just 3 more days of work before I get a day off... BF and I are both exhausted lately. At least we will have a semi-weekend together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted October 7, 2013 Author Share Posted October 7, 2013 Updated wedding checklist: -book ceremony date (December) -find out our ring sizes (asap) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (late November/Early December) -buy shoes/dress/rings (asap) -get boyfriend's suit resized/tailored (asap) -apply for marriage license (November) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (???) -Brew wedding beer (asap) -Bottle wedding beer (December) -Design beer label (asap) -Print labels and apply to bottles (Dec/Jan) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) Finally a day off, and for once I feel relaxed and refreshed. Still have lots to do today though. I gotta stop by my parents house and try on my dresses! And clean this gross, dirty apartment. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted October 9, 2013 Author Share Posted October 9, 2013 I found a yoga studio in my town which is very affordable. I'll probably go to a class tomorrow morning. I feel like I NEED to be active, but having trouble finding the motivation. Doing Youtube workouts at home is boring and repetitive. Boyfriend and I ran together but we both hated it, and our schedules don't match up anymore. I haven't take my bike out in over a year? This city is not bike friendly at all, and I'm terrified of riding in traffic. I'm intimidated by gyms and turned off by the price. Love yoga and pilates but prices turned me off on those too, until now. I have the time and spare income now, no more excuses! So I guess my ex got married last weekend. I only know because a friend who is still FB friends with him texted me saying "Did you know _____ got married on Saturday?" I replied, "Who?" She said, "T! Your ex!" I said, "Oh yeah. No, I kinda forgot he existed, haha." But I did get nosey/curious and found their wedding website pretty easily. They look happy and stuff so good for him. It's DEFINITELY a good thing I didn't marry him. Their wedding absolutely not what I would've wanted at all. Catholic ceremony and very traditional. He's definitely a more traditional guy, but I wonder how much of it was her decision and him just being a Yes man. Neither of us were religious when we dated (I'm still not) and he said he didn't want kids either (I still don't). But he was also a pretty big doormat, so it wouldn't surprise me if his tune changed whenever he dated someone different. Oh well. He has his perfect little traditional American Dream life now, so good for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 Updated wedding checklist: -book ceremony date (December) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (November) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (asap) -buy rings (asap) -get boyfriend's suit resized/tailored (asap) -apply for marriage license (November) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (???) -Brew wedding beer (asap) -Bottle wedding beer (December) -Design beer label (asap) -Print labels and apply to bottles (Dec/Jan) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) Wedding planning is moving along! About 3 months to go. Starting to deal with some work drama.... The new guy we hired told me a bunch of negative things about our other coworker, who was hired at the same time as me. She works weekends, so I haven't seen her since our training day. New guy works with her sometimes and basically said her job performance sucks and multiple people have complained. Well, I got to work with her Sunday and she's a total rockstar! We worked flawlessly together, had each other's backs, did a super efficient job, clicked really well, etc. I honestly enjoyed working with her a lot more than New Guy. She did everything perfectly as far as I could tell and I had no critiques for her (unlike with New Guy, who's still making some rookie mistakes). So basically, his complaints are straight-up lies with no merit (I had my doubts anyway). He's been not completely honest about some other things too, so I am most likely talking to the owner of the company about this when I go in. I don't know what he's trying to accomplish, but it's definitely not right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted October 29, 2013 Author Share Posted October 29, 2013 Just ordered our RINGS! Getting excited! Updated wedding checklist: -book ceremony date (December) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (November) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (asap) -buy rings (DONE!) -get boyfriend's suit resized/tailored (asap) -apply for marriage license (November) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (???) -Brew wedding beer (asap) -Bottle wedding beer (December) -Design beer label (asap) -Print labels and apply to bottles (Dec/Jan) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 What do your rings look like? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted October 30, 2013 Author Share Posted October 30, 2013 They are titanium bands inlaid with meteorite. link removed Mine has very thin titanium borders on it, BF wanted his without the metal edges, so his will look link removed. This guy is a super popular Etsy jeweler. Our rings aren't expected to ship until Dec. 24th! I want to see them nowwww. Yoga today for the first time in weeks! Time to get back in the saddle. Bosses weren't around yesterday, so I didn't get to tell them about shady coworker guy. I'm working with him today, planning on just being cautious about what I say and careful to listen to what he says. Hopefully I can talk to someone on Thursday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted November 7, 2013 Author Share Posted November 7, 2013 -book ceremony date (December) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (November) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (DONE!) -buy rings (DONE!) -get boyfriend's suit resized/tailored (asap) -apply for marriage license (November) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (???) -Brew wedding beer (DONE!) -Bottle wedding beer (December) -Design beer label (asap) -Print labels and apply to bottles (Dec/Jan) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) So it sounds like I'm getting promoted at work!!! Finally a normal, full-time schedule with benefits and paid time off! I've never had anything remotely close to a "normal" job before. It's always been work my ass off at 2-3 jobs for too little reward, in hopes of one day getting somewhere comfortable. I'm finally there! This new year is going to start off amazingly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted November 22, 2013 Author Share Posted November 22, 2013 -book ceremony date (December) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (DONE!) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (DONE!) -buy rings (DONE!) -get boyfriend's suit resized/tailored (asap) -apply for marriage license (November) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (???) -Brew wedding beer (DONE!) -Bottle wedding beer (December) -Design beer label (asap) -Print labels and apply to bottles (Dec/Jan) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) Mailed invitations, finally. I am not looking forward to hounding people for RSVPs! Oh well. If they don't meet the deadline, they don't come. Fine by me. BF and I also gave more thought to our honeymoon, which won't be until later in the year, around September 2014. We're leaning toward Belgium and/or Ireland. Beer geek heaven, of course. Bahhhh, so I have a mini-crush on a customer from work. I've never really dealt with this in this relationship before and it had to happen right before I get married, lol. The guy is not my type physically (he is military, very clean cut, I prefer punkish, "edgy" guys) but he was nice and well-spoken, and did have quite a few tattoos so that might have done it for me, lol. He is only in town for the week. I met him Tuesday and he said he might stop by again later in the week. He leaves Saturday, so I've found myself wondering if I'll see him again today. It did feel like there was some chemistry, so I would not be completely surprised if he asked to keep in touch or "hang out" after work or whatever. But of course, I won't allow anything to escalate. Who knows, he might not even come and this will pass. OKAY NEVER MIND I JUST CHECKED FACEBOOK AND HE SENT ME A FRIEND REQUEST OH CRAP! And the message "Sorry, you were just so cool and knowledgeable I had to Facebook creep ya". Awww geez.... I can see part of his profile too and he's married, which I don't think makes him harmless unfortunately. I live near a base and have known a lot more scummy, cheating married military men than not. My gut is telling me not to accept it... Part of me thinks (or wants to think) he is harmless and just want to talk beer and be friendly. But I've thought naively like that before and have had to back peddle and de-escalate situations before. I don't want to wander in any inappropriate territory at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted December 3, 2013 Author Share Posted December 3, 2013 Just about everyone has gotten their invitations, and the opinions/complaints/requests have come flooding in.... WHY IS THIS JUST AN INVITATION TO THE RECEPTION? WHY DON'T I GET TO SEE THE CEREMONY? OH HEY CAN I BRING A GAGGLE OF RANDOM PEOPLE DESPITE KNOWING FULL WELL THAT THIS IS FOR FAMILY/CLOSE FRIENDS ONLY? LET ME SEE YOUR ENGAGEMENT RING, OH WAIT YOU DON'T HAVE ONE. WHY NOT. F me with a rusty knife. This is the crap I didn't want to deal with, and why I only wanted my parents involved in this wedding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 Again, welcome to wedding planning. My husband had a huge fight with his mom in a restaurant bc she couldn't understand why we would not want kids at the wedding. She wouldn't drop it. Stuff like this just comes with the territory Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted December 3, 2013 Share Posted December 3, 2013 Yep, welcome to Hell. I promise it's better on the other side. We had 45 people RSVP yes to come to our wedding and not even 20 showed up. We spent something like $200 on food (we did it ourselves) and our guests took most of it home with them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted December 4, 2013 Author Share Posted December 4, 2013 Hers, we're not having kids attend either (under 12), and I'm bracing myself for the storm of our friends/family members who are parents of youngins. That sucks, OG. My parents are paying for the food, but still it's priced per plate and would be a huge waste if people didn't follow through on their RSVP. Though I'm secretly hoping half the people don't even send it in and I can write them off as not coming and just have a small, intimate dinner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted December 4, 2013 Author Share Posted December 4, 2013 My friend is going through some crazy relationship stuff, though she brings a lot of it on herself. She's a great girl but goes through so much BS with men. She's never dated anyone just once. After a break up, she gets back together with the guy at least one more time, sometimes more than once. Her longest relationship (about 4 continuous years) ended a few months ago. Well surprise, they've continued to talk, then hung out, and then fooled around, and now she's all confused and considering trying things again with him. She's not a dumb person, but never seems to learn from her relationships. She's "into psychology" but comes up with BS excuses and justifications for the guy's behavior and her own instead of just facing what's in front of her. She wants to fix and change things about this guy "for his own self-improvement". Right, like you're qualified to do that. And finds a way to shoot down everything I suggest, like no contact, because she "needs to find out x and y from him". We grew up together but our relationship experiences are vastly different. I've never dated anyone more than once and never talk to any of my exes. She just can't seem to do that. When we were in our teens, it broke my heart to see her return to crappy guys over and over when she clearly wasn't happy. But now I just sigh with disappointment. It never changes, but she's an adult now and maybe she'll figure it out eventually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted December 16, 2013 Author Share Posted December 16, 2013 -book ceremony date (December) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (DONE!) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (DONE!) -buy rings (DONE!) -get boyfriend's suit resized/tailored (asap) -apply for marriage license (DONE!) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (DONE!) -Brew wedding beer (DONE!) -Bottle wedding beer (December) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) So we got our marriage license! And RSVPs have been slowly trickling in. Mostly the in-laws and friends because my family sucks but WHATEVER. I am 100% fine with them not coming. Big Day is only 6 weeks away from Thursday! I am counting down the days until the end of the year. My first job still has me by the neck until the 29th. Today would have been a day off but I have to go in. I've also had to cover two other shifts last week, then go straight to work at my normal job, ugh. The extra money is nice but I'm in a position where I don't need it like I used to, and I'm tired of covering for other people's flakiness. But I got my health insurance card in the mail! It is so surreal to have health insurance provided by my job. Now to make that gyno appointment that I need. I've been attending the yoga studio for about two straight months now and I feel fantastic. I love feeling stronger and more in-tune with my body than I ever really have before. I did 3 hours of yoga (two 1.5 hour classes back to back) the day before Thanksgiving and loved it. A similar class set up will be on New Years Day and I plan on doing that too. My life feels pretty well balanced lately. My emotional and physical well-being are doing great, but life is not without its challenges, which I can appreciate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted January 10, 2014 Author Share Posted January 10, 2014 -book ceremony date (DONE!) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (DONE!) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (DONE!) -buy rings (DONE!) -apply for marriage license (DONE!) -get cake(s) designed and made (???) -Decide wine/beer options (DONE!) -Brew wedding beer (DONE!) -Bottle wedding beer (DONE!) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (mid January) Just under 3 weeks until the day! The closer we get, the more I feel like I did in our first year of dating. Basically I have a huge crush on him, on top of being in love with him, lol. I miss him when he's not around, I'm swooning whenever I see him naked (he's been weightlifting, hhnnnnng). I'm just constantly thinking about him and wanting to touch him, talk to him, and be around him. It's great. Definitely no cold feet yet! I've been getting lots of positive vibes and inspiration about marriage, too. There's a couple I see at work pretty frequently who making me think, "that'll be us in ten years!". They have our exact age different and are exactly 10 years older than us, and have been together for 10 years. So they met at our ages and have been together ever since. We were talking once and the husband asked me, "does your relationship feel effortless?" I said, "yeah, it is for the most part." He answered, "When it's that easy to get along with someone, that's when you know it's right. The only thing is, time goes by so fast! It doesn't even feel like we've been together for 10 years!" I thought that was really sweet, and something we could identify with a lot. It felt like we had a lot in common with them, from relationship attitudes down to brewing beer, fitness and tattoos, lol. On the flip side, I've also gotten to know a vendor from work who's marriage is struggling due to his wife's cancer. They don't even live together at this point. She's staying with her family because she has relatives who are nurses, and they're helping with her care. He's hoping she will move back in a few weeks after her radiation therapy is done and she begins to recover. He sees her a few times a week and has been there throughout all of her treatment. He's a very positive, upbeat guy and never talks badly about his wife, though you can still see it's hard for him. But it's awesome to see him stay strong and be open about it, and especially taking his vows so seriously. It's inspiring to have two very different perspectives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted January 14, 2014 Author Share Posted January 14, 2014 -book ceremony date (DONE!) -find out our ring sizes (DONE!) -meet with restaurant for menu options (DONE!) -design & purchase invitations (DONE!) -mail invitations (DONE!) -buy dress (DONE!) -buy shoes (DONE!) -buy rings (DONE!) -apply for marriage license (DONE!) -Decide wine/beer options (DONE!) -Brew wedding beer (DONE!) -Bottle wedding beer (DONE!) -get back RSVPs and tell headcount/menu items to restaurant (DONE!) -Order desserts (Sunday) -Make place cards (ASAP) Aside from cakes and place cards, I just need to buy some tights to wear with my dress and figure out my bra situation (open back dress, can't show bra straps!). I will also need to make our beer bottles look pretty somehow, probably with ribbon. Somehow my main color ended up being a robin egg-esque blue, so probably something like that. We've been making steps toward booking our trip to Belgium later this year. I'm about to make a deposit on a super cute rental house. Getting so excited looking at all pictures of the city! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrKitten Posted January 24, 2014 Author Share Posted January 24, 2014 I will be a married woman in less than a week. People at work have been asking, "Are you ready? Are you freaking out? Are you excited?" etc. I'm just ready to take 4 days off and have a mini vacation! Marrying my dude is just a bonus. I've been working some overtime lately and I'm spent. Boss and I (well, mostly me) interviewed and hired a new person. Yesterday was her first day, and it went really well! I've never interviewed/hired someone before and boss thought it would be good experience for me. It was stressful, but I felt like I really learned a lot. And I was so happy yesterday because the new hire was working her tail off and doing a great job. Feels awesome that my first hire was a great one! But today I have to go in early to send rejection emails to those we didn't hire. Wah-wah. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hers Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 Yay!! Please post pics!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted January 24, 2014 Share Posted January 24, 2014 The number one advice I can give is really just take long, deep breaths and savour every minute. I promise you it goes by in the blink of an eye! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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