jimbo87 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Hello, I've always been a bit of a worrier my whole life and while as I have matured a bit (I'm in my 20s) I have stopped worrying about many things, there is one thing I still obsessively worry about: getting someone pregnant. Since I have been sexually active I have never been able to stop worrying every single month about getting my girlfriend pregnant. Last year my gf had a bit of "irregularity" and I couldn't stop worrying for months on end! Clearly it turned out ok. Because of that time, we took a 'break' from sex (6 months or so!) and now that we have begun to have sex again, I start worrying about it again. She is on the pill and takes it every day at roughly the same time. We always use a condom (with plenty of lubrication) from start to finish (haven't had one break yet) and I even pull out a few seconds before finishing. This may even sound crazy but I always go to the bathroom afterwards to "check" the condom by using a water test to see if there are any leaks. None so far. Even though we take precautions, I still always worry about the "what if?". Yes, sex is fun while you are having it, but then I get nervous for the rest of the month. Am I just crazy!? Do I really have anything to worry about? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OptomisticGirl Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 If you are taking all the precautions you can you an't worry your life away (and this is coming from the world's best worrier!). She is on the pill, she is taking it properly (and make sure she knows she can get pregnant if the condom breaks and she is on antibiotics, a lot of women don't know this for some reason :s), and you are not only using a condom but being vigilant on it's use. You can't get any safer than this than not having sex. Maybe that is a decision you have to make for your own sanity, no sex before marriage simply to give you some peace of mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loxxt Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 Well of course there is always a risk of pregnancy when you have sex. I think the bigger question to ask is if you want kids. If you don't, I would bring it up with your girlfriend as soon as possible. If she does happen to get pregnant you don't want her to be all smiles and then have you springing he news on her that it's not what you wanted. Of course having a baby is nothing to shrug off, so you're right to be takin proper precautions. It just sounds to me like you're more than just concerned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 pill + condoms, you really shouldn't be getting her pregnant. and if you do, there is always the morning after pill or abortion. speaking of which, what would you do if she did get pregnant? and didn't want to abort? how would you feel? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BellaStranger Posted February 2, 2011 Share Posted February 2, 2011 The only fool proof birth control is abstinence. Maybe if your so worried you should consider it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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