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Am I being a snob? Should I trust this guy?


sarah114

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Hi everyone,

 

I'm 23. I've gone out with this guy like twice. He's made it clear he wants a relationship and has not hid the fact that he wants to make out with me and go further. I don't trust him so I've kind of been going slow. My ex bf cheated on me two months ago and I have major trust issues with men now.

 

This guy makes comments sometimes that I find offensive. For example, I made a comment that he seems like he gets up really early. And he said something like "I guess you don't know till you sleep over". I find this kind of insulting, since I think I am pretty classy (though not conservative by any means) and I just don't sleep over guys' houses that I hardly know. I find it insulting that he would insinuate that I would. (I mean if it's a boyfriend it's different, but I've only seen this guy twice). Am I overreacting? I told him straight out I don't do that. Am I just being a snob or is he being creepy??

 

 

Thanks for any advice!

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I think he is trying to be funny and flirty but it really didn't have that effect. if you want to go more slowly, say at least a few months of dating before sleep-overs, then tell him that. you don't need to bring up 'trust issues' - but you can say that you believe in getting to know one another over a period of time and not rushing into anything. if he gets bored and moves on, so much the better.

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I think he is trying to be funny and flirty but it really didn't have that effect. if you want to go more slowly, say at least a few months of dating before sleep-overs, then tell him that. you don't need to bring up 'trust issues' - but you can say that you believe in getting to know one another over a period of time and not rushing into anything. if he gets bored and moves on, so much the better.

 

I agree with this!!

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I think he is trying to be funny and flirty but it really didn't have that effect. if you want to go more slowly, say at least a few months of dating before sleep-overs, then tell him that. you don't need to bring up 'trust issues' - but you can say that you believe in getting to know one another over a period of time and not rushing into anything. if he gets bored and moves on, so much the better.

 

+2 Good stuff.

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I think he is trying to be funny and flirty but it really didn't have that effect. if you want to go more slowly, say at least a few months of dating before sleep-overs, then tell him that. you don't need to bring up 'trust issues' - but you can say that you believe in getting to know one another over a period of time and not rushing into anything. if he gets bored and moves on, so much the better.

 

Thanks, you're right!

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