Sweetkisses22 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I will admit im still hung up over my ex ex. We don't talk anymore at all. Dont you ever wonder if they really do still miss you? Even if your both nc. Do you think they miss us just as much as we do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Dep if his connection with u was as strong as urs was with him.. Why are u still Hung up on him still? Who broke up with who? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetkisses22 Posted February 1, 2011 Author Share Posted February 1, 2011 I broke up with him. Idky im still hung up. I thought by now id be over it. I've met other guys. I guess maybe because I feel like we never had a chance. He never wanted to break up. I know he loved me a lot. But at the same time he always had his secrets and I wasn't having it anymore. But I still miss him sometimes and wonder where he is and what he's doing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wiley Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Depends if the other person is lonely I suppose. I miss mine when certain things remind me of her, or a certain song. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I broke up with him. Idky im still hung up. I thought by now id be over it. I've met other guys. I guess maybe because I feel like we never had a chance. He never wanted to break up. I know he loved me a lot. But at the same time he always had his secrets and I wasn't having it anymore. But I still miss him sometimes and wonder where he is and what he's doing. I know what u mean, my girl broke up with me too, she is 22 from mass, we loved eachother, but she wanted to be free and go live life.. I miss her and love her.. why don't u reach out to him? How long has it been? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LarsWB Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Yes - they miss us. Sometimes they even love us still. For some people though, it's not enough to want to come back and be with us. It's not enough to want to have a relationship with us again. That's the painful reality of it. Life is short. If you miss him, if you think about him, if you still care about him...then why don't you talk to him? Contact him. See how he's doing...keep the conversation lite and upbeat, friendly. Be prepared though, if you do, for the possibility that he's moved on completely and has no interest in getting back together. If he was hurt and was forced to move on and heal, he may have done so...and you might hurt yourself by contacting him. Good luck to you whatever you decide Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notgivingup Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Hi sweetkisses22, I think it depends; on how long you've known them, on how well you've known them, on how long you have been with them along with other factors. I've went from one guy to the next and I have not given myself sufficient time to let go of one before I gone on to the next. I am pretty sure that guy who just broke up with me three weeks ago still misses me, because he still loves me, he just isn't sure that love is enough to make us work. He also isn't sure if he wants me to be his girlfriend again. So I told him that we should go NC until he is ready to give me a second chance. He is just "drama" that I do not need in my life right now. I will not contact him again unless he is ready to give me a second chance. Yes it might seem like I'm being cold to him because I am not talking to him but I need to think of myself first and put myself first. And of course I miss my ex (I'm just not sure on how many of them that I currently miss). Notgivingup I will admit im still hung up over my ex ex. We don't talk anymore at all. Dont you ever wonder if they really do still miss you? Even if your both nc. Do you think they miss us just as much as we do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
notgivingup Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Hi LarsWB, Thats pretty good advice right now. But is the pain and hurt of contacting him again and knowing he's moved on and heal really worth it? Notgivingup Yes - they miss us. Sometimes they even love us still. For some people though, it's not enough to want to come back and be with us. It's not enough to want to have a relationship with us again. That's the painful reality of it. Life is short. If you miss him, if you think about him, if you still care about him...then why don't you talk to him? Contact him. See how he's doing...keep the conversation lite and upbeat, friendly. Be prepared though, if you do, for the possibility that he's moved on completely and has no interest in getting back together. If he was hurt and was forced to move on and heal, he may have done so...and you might hurt yourself by contacting him. Good luck to you whatever you decide Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidehop Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 They may, they may not. What matters is that there was a good reason it didn't work out and you just have to do your best in letting go in order to move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 It depends. When I was the dumper, no, I never missed them. When I was the dumpee, I missed them for a little while and then moved on. If the relationship wasn't working, why would you miss something that was flawed? For its good parts? Maybe, I don't know. There is only one ex in my entire life that I still think about sometimes and that is because we reconnected years later and became friends. Other than him, no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michelle21689 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I know for sure my ex misses me...I'm actually healing faster than I thought. I'm okay, I think about him all the time, I love him, miss him, some moments I hurt. We had a friendship at 14... dated at 16 for 5 1/2 years. We've been through EVERYTHING together. I don't know what happened. It's really sad to see a good relationship just end. Now I will forever wonder what could've been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I hope so in my case, because I was good to him and I want him to realise what he missed out on. But missing your ex, loving your ex, caring about your ex - are not the same as wanting to be with them again, and that is what's important. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 sweetkisses - you are very pretty. i'm sure you will meet someone better in time. to answer your question, no i don't think your ex misses you because i suspect he's had a wife or gf all along. i suspect he misses the variety though. you're better off without him. focus on healing, and then finding a guy who is not shady. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GotMyLifeBack Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I love the variety of opinions on ENA! Everyone has had such different experiences yet we have this one thing in common, that we have gone through a breakup and are trying to support one another's healing. Sometimes I think breakups happen when there is a basic incompatibility that makes the relationship unsustainable. It just happens sometimes that we find ourselves with somebody rotten - mean, abusive, deceitful, lying, cheating, etc. Other times, however, I think breakups happen because two people are at a growing edge, a decision point, when they have had to ask themselves if they are going to reach a little deeper and go through some pain for the sake of a deeper, more abiding intimacy, and they decided (or one person decided) that they didn't want to extend themselves that far. We live in a throwaway world. Relationship hit a rough spot? Throw it out. Get another one. Try again. Surely the perfect person is out there. It really pains me when I hear of people missing each other, and loving each other, but not putting their pride aside and having the guts to work it out. I'm not saying every relationship can work, so don't jump on me. I'm saying that a lot of people who do in fact love one another give up too easily, and don't realize what a gift it is to have someone to love and cherish, and that that love is deepened by figuring out and getting rid of the disconnects, instead of getting rid of each other. Sweetkisses, if you really love this guy, think about touching base with him. If it's more just about curiosity, it might be better for both of you if you just left him alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Sweetkisses, if you really love this guy, think about touching base with him. If it's more just about curiosity, it might be better for both of you if you just left him alone. no, this guy was way shady. he wouldn't tell her where he lived. he said that he wouldn't tell her because she's psycho. but he loves her. oh, and he would be talking to her over his mobile, while in the car in the driveway, not going into the house. obviously, there is another woman in the picture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
engraved2008 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 It hapenned to me....the bad thing about it that one year of relationship was harder to move on than over five years of relationship.We allways wonder what was the true and why they gave up on us so quick..The REAL true Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GotMyLifeBack Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 no, this guy was way shady. he wouldn't tell her where he lived. he said that he wouldn't tell her because she's psycho. but he loves her. oh, and he would be talking to her over his mobile, while in the car in the driveway, not going into the house. obviously, there is another woman in the picture. Whoa, either I read through this thread too fast and missed this or it was in a different thread. No, this guy is bad news. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Whoa, either I read through this thread too fast and missed this or it was in a different thread. No, this guy is bad news. oh, it's on some different threads. not here. the guy is very bad news!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rosarioT Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 Miss us? i don't know.... think about us from time to time... yeah, but not in the same way we think about them... just in a cold distant way... unless they are sorry for ever breaking up, and if they are then u'll know if they miss u cus they will show signs. I've always been the dumper but once... when i see things aren't working out, I run away on fear and end the relation... I hate being rejected... but I tell u what... from time to time u do think in a special way about those who were great to u, specially if u did them wrong.... also if the relationship was amazing and then they are going through hell, they may miss what they once had... but at the end everyone moves on and those who don't is because they continue keeping old memories alive... and ur brain is very powerful, u feed him memories and BS from the past and it will make u feel like he/she was the best ever love and u will never forget him, but if u suck it up, and start getting real, past is past and focus in the present, then eventually u will not miss anyone no more, at least not in that nostalgic painful way. IMO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pillowtalk Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 It hapenned to me....the bad thing about it that one year of relationship was harder to move on than over five years of relationship.We allways wonder what was the true and why they gave up on us so quick..The REAL true This is so true. I feel like longer relationships often times run their course into the ground, and there's nothing left at the end. With shorter relationships, you're always left with "what ifs" and strong, lingering feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hero Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I'm saying that a lot of people who do in fact love one another give up too easily, and don't realize what a gift it is to have someone to love and cherish, and that that love is deepened by figuring out and getting rid of the disconnects, instead of getting rid of each other. So true. Real love is hard to come by. Im not talking about the "honeymoon" phase of the relationship. Im talking about having somebody who will be by your side through thick and thin, somebody you can count on who wont let you down, a true partner who loves you for more than just your looks, money, etc. Real love like that is difficult to find and it sickens me how many people out there toss it away without atleast trying to fix the minor kinks. Now its different if you've already tried, or there were clear problems (abuse, cheating, etc) then perhaps it was for the best. Good luck OP you're not alone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aether Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 This is so true. I feel like longer relationships often times run their course into the ground, and there's nothing left at the end. With shorter relationships, you're always left with "what ifs" and strong, lingering feelings. Exactly this must be it, because it's just the same for me and could never work out why, 1.5 year relationship = the worst pain ever, 5 year relationship = painful but nothing at all like this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starrgrl Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 If someone gets attached to someone else, they will miss, it's a natural thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
calisurfer Posted February 1, 2011 Share Posted February 1, 2011 I will admit im still hung up over my ex ex. We don't talk anymore at all. Dont you ever wonder if they really do still miss you? Even if your both nc. Do you think they miss us just as much as we do? I really don't know. My bu was a little over a month ago and I still think of my ex. I know he cheated on me and is living with his new gf, so I doubt he thinks of me. Does it hurt? Yeah, but not as much as a few weeks ago. If your ex hops right into a relationship, I doubt they think of you. He or she is having a good time with the new fling and are going through the honeymoon phase. I really try not to think of my ex and focus on myself right now. Yes it does suck that I have to deal with the whole grieving process while he is having the time of his life with the new gf, but life goes on. Will the new relationship implode? Will he come back to me? I don't know and I'm getting to the stage where I'm caring less and less. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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