lucklou Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 So i'm trying so hard with NC, best i've managed is 3 days, i know pathetic, i broke no contact after being out with friends, having a great time and having had a couple of drinks. I think LC will be better for me as i work with my ex, i do want him back and he wants to be friends, he's asking mutual friends whats happening in my life. What are the LC rules? obviosly i know its as little contact as possible but how long do i leave it if we are on frienly terms until i ask if we could go out, see how things are? Its been 3 months since we split, things where ok between us at first when we split, i pushed a bit and things got worse, getting a bit better between us now, i've asked about doing something together in the past and he said it was to soon, thats a good sign is it not? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 29, 2011 Share Posted January 29, 2011 I don't advocate LC if you were dumped. If NC is able to be established I think it's the best option. Don't ignore just don't reach out and make it known that the other person isn't a priority any longer. I tried NIC which turned to LC which failed and I regressed to completely ignoring the person. Ten days later and we were back starting over. Silence is a powerful tool but never use it to get them back. Use it to get you back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lucklou Posted January 29, 2011 Author Share Posted January 29, 2011 Thankyou so much for that, its hard not really knowing what sort of terms we are on, he's not the type to fall in love with the first thing he see's. I know he loved me truly, its just hard wondering how his life is. I am in the process of improving myself, for myself - just hope he notices! In a perfect world i would be happy going with NC if he just responded to me once! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 30, 2011 Share Posted January 30, 2011 Thankyou so much for that, its hard not really knowing what sort of terms we are on, he's not the type to fall in love with the first thing he see's. I know he loved me truly, its just hard wondering how his life is. I am in the process of improving myself, for myself - just hope he notices! In a perfect world i would be happy going with NC if he just responded to me once! It really does get easier you just have to train your mind not to wonder about him. The longer you go, the easier it will be. Master your thoughts. Let go and see what happens. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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