22n32 Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 So last Friday is the last time I talked to her. And we were talking on the phone. And she was saying I'm not ready for a rel now but I care about u! Before that one time she would always say I love u but I'm not ready for a real.. She admitted to me on the phone she was trying to be mean in general I never asked about the I care and she was being mean overall. So I would stop talking to her, She was pushing me away.. Not sure why it just hit me.. I know its waves of emotion.. But really she doesn't even loved me, and it so easily just went to care for her.. I hate that I'm feeling this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GotMyLifeBack Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 That kind of distancing behavior can be excruciating. My ex has done that with me. Because we work in the same building, I have to see her and every time she's avoidant, I have to reach deep down to get a grip on my emotions. I mean, this girl was the love of my life... how did it come to this? Protect yourself man. There's likely more of this coming your way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Share Posted January 27, 2011 That kind of distancing behavior can be excruciating. My ex has done that with me. Because we work in the same building, I have to see her and every time she's avoidant, I have to reach deep down to get a grip on my emotions. I mean, this girl was the love of my life... how did it come to this? Protect yourself man. There's likely more of this coming your way. Thanks..... I hate that I overanylize everything.. I dont think she meant it, well I hope she didn't go from loving to care just like that.. I hope she was just being mean to push me away! Still rude and selfish I just wanna be done with this pain.. and meet someone who I can enjoy my time.. I really hope this pain doesn't last forever.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToF Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Why not just go NC? It's apparent that she isn't taking your feelings into consideration as much as she should, so why put yourself through this? Just stop talking to her. I know it's easier said than done, but is this really worth it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fwdthinker Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I experienced similar... But worse. It hurts like hell but has been the catalyst for NC. I will never allow someone to downgrade/devalue and disrespect what the truth was like that. That was the end for me. NC! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
22n32 Posted January 27, 2011 Author Share Posted January 27, 2011 Day 5 Nc. It's diffucult. Just wanna be done with the pain Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
none2good Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 Day 5 Nc. It's diffucult. Just wanna be done with the pain It's time that you find a different person to share your interests. I didn't have any contact with my ex whom I was saddled with for more than twenty years, until after we had split for over a year. She contacted me wanting to "patch things up", but I had already been informed that she had fallen on hard times and wanted me to put a roof over her head. I have no need to rekindle that nightmare, again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnm3 Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 it sounds like you're over-analyzing here, she probably said that on a whim and didn't give much thought to it sounding cold. but in any case, even if she was or wasn't intentionally acting cold, she most certainly will in the future, so keep up the NC, it will save you from many more of these moments you're experiencing right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aether Posted January 27, 2011 Share Posted January 27, 2011 I'm living in "enforced" NC, he has disappeared, been 2 weeks now. I like to think he is doing this for my benefit as he knows I want to get back together..he's forcing me to go cold turkey maybe, perhaps it is for both of us and he is finding things harder than expected, right now I feel like I'm living in a bubble. When you talk about her pushing you away I almost feel like my ex did this towards the end of our relationship, feels like he manipulated things, especially since he claimed he knew I was unhappy yet never mentioned it or tried to help. I always thought he was emotionally intelligent and honest but when I think about the way things went down the less I feel inclined to believe it. As for my ex he never said he loved me, he would say he cares about me...I lost so much for him...such a lot to rebuild. The thought that he maybe waited for it die, so that I just couldn't cope anymore is so painful... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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