ladeedah Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 I finally saw my crush for who he really is and after 7 years of running after him and loving him, I started freezing him out. Big shocker to him. I just cant let him back into my life after he caused me such pain for so long. We volunteer together. I know he was upset during the time i was ignoring him. He told my friend. The past couple of weeks i have softened a bit and started talking to him after 5 months of silence -work related stuff only. He seemed so excited that we were "maybe getting back on track". Making excuses to ask questions work related only. Testing that i want going to run away from him or not anser him. Well, here i am being nice and than he goes and blocks me from his facebook wall. Why wold he do that? Its only me. we are still friends but i cant see any posts etc..His wall is visible to my other firends. What is he doing? Looking to hurt me? Looking for some more attention?Playing games? I'm kind of hurt...i was the one hurt and even i didnt block him or defriend him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nace180 Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 My first assumption would be to say he's doing/saying something he thinks could jeopardize the progress you've made... but that would change if he's a game player, or a drama starter... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
im sandra dee Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 Why wold he do that? What is he doing? Looking to hurt me? Looking for some more attention?Playing games? When someone does something to hurt me, I try not to ask yourself the question "why"? That would be like trying to get into another person's head and trying to figure them out. Impossible, I think. Instead of asking yourself why did he do that, if it's important to you, then just ask him. If he hurt your feelings, then it's ok to tell him that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Drained18 Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 I can tell you right now that if you look too far into Facebook, it will make your head spin. Social networking, while fun, is extremely harmful to relationships. People in relationships tend to over-analyze as it is. "Why did you LIKE her picture?" "Why are you friends with her?" "Are you messaging anyone privately?" These questions never end and can make people extremely suspicious for no real reason at all. If I were you, I would tell him that you've noticed. Ask him what the deal is and tell him that you find the whole thing a little immature. Make him explain himself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 It's really EASY to over-emphasize what someone was meaning to do when you're not directly communicating in person (I can't stand networking sites such as Facebook. People lose touch with reality and over-analyze over small things). It's like receiving a text that just says, "ok", after you sent a text pouring out your feelings. You never know what the other person could be thinking/doing until you ask directly. You will only create stories/scenarios in your head and will become stressed possibly over nothing. It does suck what he did and you will never really know why if you don't ask. Never assume. It could be nothing what you're thinking. Sure is was immature and I feel you deserve a straightfoward answer, just don't beat yourself up. Know you're more than that. Until we meet again... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Captain Obvious Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 So basically you ignored him for 5 months and then are mad when he blocks you from facebook? Seems like he had a decent reason to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stormie Posted January 26, 2011 Share Posted January 26, 2011 It's really EASY to over-emphasize what someone was meaning to do when you're not directly communicating in person (I can't stand networking sites such as Facebook. People lose touch with reality and over-analyze over small things). It's like receiving a text that just says, "ok", after you sent a text pouring out your feelings. You never know what the other person could be thinking/doing until you ask directly. You will only create stories/scenarios in your head and will become stressed possibly over nothing. It does suck what he did and you will never really know why if you don't ask. Never assume. It could be nothing what you're thinking. Sure is was immature and I feel you deserve a straightfoward answer, just don't beat yourself up. Know you're more than that. Until we meet again... You are so right. I lost a friendship over this. In fact, I can relate to the other side: I was the one who blocked my wall from someone and they got offended and "unfriended" me. But the only reason why I did that was because I was hurt over something someone else did, and didn't want that friend to see that I was having this argument with the person who hurt me. (They are mutual friends). But it was useless- they both "compared notes" and they both unfriended me. I was very hurt by the experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanzi Posted March 22, 2011 Share Posted March 22, 2011 Does he know how you felt about him throughout these 7 years and that you were hurting? Or did he hurt you in another way that he is aware of? If he didn't know how you felt about him or that you were hurting then I suspect that he was equally as hurt, not to mention confused, that you stopped talking to him. Now that you are letting him back in again he may even more confused by what happened and as t why you are still treading carefully around him. Maybe it is a delayed reaction. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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