Aether Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 I've noticed that, for so many of us here when we go out for extended peroids, sometimes not even extended, we end up feeling beyond terrible, we get home and we burst into tears. For me I've noticed it's shopping, I went out just before xmas with my sister shopping, most women love it..it makes them feel better. At first I was fine...but after a coupleof hours I just started to feel awful, depressed, anxious..like death really, I just wanted to go home. I get home, I burst into tears, I came to the conclusion that for me at that time this was due to xmas songs in shops..they all seemed to be about being alone at xmas, obviously that would make the newly dumped feel like crap, but it happened a couple of weeks ago when I was shopping with my mother too, no xmas songs, no noticing happy couples like the time before I just ended up feeling utterly trashed emotionally, got home, burst into tears. Everyone says, go out, do things, it will make you feel better..if thats true when why does this happen? Does anyone have any ideas? It makes me wary of going out for a day anywhere... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SWEET_J Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 People become introverted when they are hurt or in pain, so it makes sense to want to hole up and feel sorry for ourselves. Maybe it is just too soon for you. There is no one saying you have to be happy yet...but sometimes, faking it till you 'make it' does actually help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
iBroken Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 When my ex left me last year, I could not leave my house without suffering severe anxiety. It was a chore and a half to leave my house to go to work. I used to leave for work and come home. If I had to go to even the grocery store, I would have the worst anxiety ever. As soon as I got home, I felt fine. But like all the other pain you suffer in a break, it will pass with time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Destiny2112 Posted January 25, 2011 Share Posted January 25, 2011 I'm sorry you are feeling like this! I went through the same thing in the early months after the break up... everybody told me, go out, meet friends, have fun, distract yourself but I just couldn't find the strength to do it and if I did, I wasn't really enjoying it, it somehow felt wrong and felt miserable still... In the beginning it was no big help for me, to see others being happy and only made me feel worse, like I'm the only one having serious problems... I preferred to stay home, read stuff on the internet, listen to music and just cry...but at home I was feeling terribly, terribly lonely and sooo many things in the house reminded me of my ex, it was hard to bear... what helped a lot though was talking to friends about the break up, about my ex, about my feelings, my fears, just everything...either my friends came by or we talked on the phone, for hours... that is what helped me most... after, let's say 3, 4 months I started going out more, meeting friends at a cafe, going to the cinema, out for dinner, shopping and stuff like that and felt ready for it, so now, at the stage im in, 5 months after the break up, it does help me feel better, it helps me to distract myself...but I still have my weak moments when I come back home, where I can't hold back my tears and feel sad about what happened though... it's a long hard journey for me still Don't push yourself...you will know when you are ready...don't listen to others, do what feels right for you! And it it's sitting at home crying, well, then that is fine, too... Time will do it's magic... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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