Am I overreacting?

[Lemonie]

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little more than a year now. He used to be a lot more vocal about wanting to have sex, and now, we do it only about once a week (sometimes never). And, I feel like I'm always the one who wants to do it. Once, he even joked about me being a sex maniac. He never initiates it anymore, but he's almost always willing when I want to. Sometimes, he hints he wants to do it, but by the end of the day nothing happens.

 

When I ask him about it, he says there wasn't a chance or that it "slipped his mind". How can something like that "slip" your mind?? I am getting more and more frustrated because I'm starting to feel deprived, but I don't want to push it on him because I'm afraid he's just starting to get tired of me. For some reason, he's always reassuring me about his feelings for me, but everything else just "slips his mind".

 

Don't get me wrong, he's perfect in every way, but sometimes I feel like I'm becoming way too demanding. Am I really being too demanding, and is there any way for me to feel less deprived without me wanting to just nag him about what I want? Am I overreacting??

[Jd1983]

I don't think that you're overreacting. I just think that you're not on the same page sexually.

 

Perhaps, the honeymoon phase has waned off? If that's the case, you can possibly try to bring the spark back into the relationship by planning a getaway together, trying something new etc.

 

Is he still affectionate towards you, aside from not wanting sex?

 

I think the best thing for you to do is talk to him and let him know how you truly feel.

[Lemonie]

Yes, he's still affectionate. And I do try to tell him how I feel, but I think he sees it as something petty that I'm getting frustrated at this. I really don't want to come accross as needy and demanding, so I don't want to push it much. But my frustration unconsciously comes out in other matters, like, I can be * * * * * y when he talks to me. Anyway, thank you for the response.