Has anyone got back together with their ex, if so how did you do it?

[yelwed]

I was just wondering if there are any stories out there on how people got back with their ex's. Was there anything in particular you said or done and how long did you wait to apporach them again? It might give those hope out there who want to get back with their ex in the future.

[Snowy]

A miracle for me. I happen to be there with an umbrella when she was getting soaked in the rain.

[ForumGuy]

Gave her the space she needed and waited for her to get back in touch with me. Luckily, she loved me and did get ahold of me and we were married for 14 years. When it was over after the marriage, we were both done and wished each other the best.

[mitsuv6]

Yes I did it, and I was amazed it actually worked as our break up was a massive fight that lasted several weeks. Basically she dumped me in the end and I even went through the whole desperation and begging in attempts to get her back (shameful and embarrassing but true). None of that will usually ever work it just makes your life look desperate and lame and something no one wants to be part of.

 

It was firstly about making sure I was good in myself, no one will ever love you if you don't love yourself first. Then contact the other person in writing (hand written is better but sod that I just texted her) and agree with the break up, say it was the right thing to do. This confuses the hell out of them and they'll probably think you've met someone else or smth like that. Wait a bit more time and then call them out of the blue, if no answer don't leave txt messages, no answer phone messages, wait a couple more days and then try again. If you call several times in a row their just gonna know Mr or Mrs desperate is back again.

 

If you manage to make contact arrange a friendly and non pressurizing date like coffee or smthing (obviously no cinema or dinner!) When I called I was only gonna try once I had no intention of trying more than that and she didn't pick up, I was gutted to be honest, but then the next day she txts me saying she's been thinking about me and I was literally over the moon Another tactic to use is jealously, once I was good in my self I went on a date with another girl, and also went on the pull a lot (A camera and facebook are evil tools he he).

 

Any way not sure if these tactics will work for getting blokes back but it got me my girl back.

 

However and this is a big however are you sure this is what you really want and the right thing to do! I'm on this site right now cause I'm getting advice on this relationship I just mentioned, we broke up for a reason in the first place and for me it's only been a matter of time before the cracks started to show again. We really do have feelings for each other but we fight all the time and our needs are different. Saying that I still like to think if things were good once than they can be good again but realistically I'm preparing myself for another broken heart this week.

 

Do you really want to put yourself through all this again, it is a lot of effort and may end in more pain. I haven't regretted it yet!

 

Like the guy says above giving her time and space is crucial!

[In the Dark]

Her car broke down in town.

 

I should have not have helped her.

[Brownstone322]

I've written about this before.

 

During college, I got back together with my first college girlfriend. We had been going out about a year and a half, then she left me for another guy. I did everything wrong at first (you know how that goes), then I simply gave up -- I went on with my life and paid her no mind. I had never heard the term "NC" at the time, but that's in effect what I did. Within six months or so, I was cool with the whole thing and looking forward, not back.

 

About a year and a half after the breakup, she called me out of nowhere. It turns out New Guy had turned out to be Loser Boy, just as I always thought. Anyway, I was in a really good place, and she and I got back together for about six months. We had been apart for as long as we had been together. She wanted to be serious, but I was in it for the sex the second time around (sorry, but it's true). We parted amicably and continued to hook up in hotels here and there for a few more years.

 

That story may not sound romantic, but my "formula" was to let go, get my act together and carry on.

[jimmajam]

Atta'boy Brownstone.

 

The only true formula is to do what others have just said. Get over it, move on, live your life and if they still harbor feelings or you get a chance meeting to get to know each other again it will happen. It's truly out of your hands as far as "making it happen". That would just be manipulation anyways and it wouldn't last. If you don't do these things they may still come back and you'll look like the same pathetic chump that you were after the breakup. You don't want that .... you want to improve and find someone new and have a healthy relationship or start fresh with the ex.

[iBroken]

I got my ex back by throwing my dignity out the window and letting her come back around when she was done sleeping with her neighbour.

 

I got her back my losing my self-worth by taking her back after so many false promises. I got her back by being at her beck and call like a loyal dog.

 

Than we broke up again for good and I realized I should never have gone back to her after the 1st, 2nd or 3rd split.

[Brownstone322]

I got my ex back by throwing my dignity out the window and letting her come back around when she was done sleeping with her neighbour.

 

I got her back my losing my self-worth by taking her back after so many false promises. I got her back by being at her beck and call like a loyal dog.

 

Than we broke up again for good and I realized I should never have gone back to her after the 1st, 2nd or 3rd split.

I wanted to PM you about this. You need to clean out your PM box, apparently.

[iBroken]

Ya I got the notification via email.

 

I have too many infractions so my PM's might be disabled lol. I'll try to clean my imbox out later and see if that helps.