anjabars Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Okay so I really need your help. I have worked at my job for just over 6 years. For the past year I have had a crush on my much older boss (he is 20 years older). He is single, nice, shy and just an overall great guy. He is divorced and hasn't been in a relationship in 7 years (since his divorce). This whole situation is wrong on so many levels. I think he likes me too but is afraid to take it further. He flirts with me sometimes, stares at me all the time, gets jealous when I'm talking to other guys, etc.. How can I get over it? I see him everyday and it is so hard. When I try not to look at him a lot he gets angry. Even if I try to avoid talking to him unless I have to, he gets pissy. Neither one of us plan on taking this further obviously since it's been going on a year. Help me get over it......please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mauxly Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Why get over it? Why is it so wrong? Dating at work is risky and you may have to move to a different department, but maybe he's the one? 20 year age gap isn't the trauma that people make it out to be. Those relationships can be extremely fulfilling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ichin0se Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 I agree with Mauxly! Are you happy being around him? See what he feels and thinks. Work something out, if you're both willing. I don't know how your company or workplace would view or handle the relationship, but keep it secret if you have to! That can be very thrilling and add an extra spark to the romance, i know ... ^_- But if you're both feeling it, it's silly to deny it and you may be passing up the one you'll be most happy living your life with! (p.s. age doesn't matter in love!) Hoping for the best~! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
anjabars Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 No it is obvious we both like each other. I think he is afraid to make a move because of his position. I am worried about if it wouldn't work out, that would be awkward still working together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carrottop Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 Could you not ask for a transfer to a different department so that you arent working together and so that he isnt your boss anymore. Keep in touch with him and see what happens once he is no longer ur boss... worst comes to worst, if he still doenst want to take the relationship further at least you wont have to see him everyday and will be able to get over him and move on. This relationship is def worth a shot though! what have u got to lose!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
countach360 Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 yea i'm in a slightly similar situation, as mentioned in my prior thread. except the manager is a girl. though she is no longer now that i'm in a different department. i think we both know we're attracted to each other, but nothing has happened yet. never even talked to her much in the first place. i think i'll figure out how to go about my situation, but as far as you, fortunately in your case, guys don't say "no" very often to girls. lol. so if you follow everyone's advice on here along with just being even-keeled and doing it in a cool, hanging out kinda way (not like you're both getting married tomorrow or anything), it should be all good. worse case scenario, you won't be any further back than square one anyway. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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