toad72 Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 Hi, I have an 11 year old son, he is healthy and seems to be happy!! He is a child who acts and looks older than he is. He does not communicated with me as I ask him too many questions he says, he is my first born and I would do anything for him. In the last couple of years I notice that he has a friend for a while and then they drift apart and then they do not hang out anymore and I do not think that it is by his choice. But he sees nothing wrong with it and does not worry about it.He is the first born and is the kind of kid that needs things his way sometimes but the he also at times is the most loving and giving child you would ever want to meet. He can walk into a room and talk to or with anyone he is not shy and he has a way to talk with adults and kids, he is also very good with younger. He had this one good friend and they were together all the time and now this friend is going to a house down the street to play all the time instead of coming to our house. My son says he doesn't care, but deep down inside I think he does. This friend that used to come here is a child that everyone used to talk about and I told my son that he needed to make his own mind up and if he liked the kid that he should be friends with him. At school kids say things to my son about this other child but then they play together and my son is excluded and not invited. I am so sad and worry that my son is doing things wrong and doesnot see it and that is why people are not including him. It is starting to be a battle at my house and I ask him 1000 questions everyday and then my husband gets mad at me and then we fight and then I do not want to go places or if I do my mind is always watching my son and how he is interacting with others and how they are interacting with him, I am being consummed by this and it is upsetting me and I just want to know if thre is anyone that has felt this way and how they stopped it and if their kids have ever gone through this. If you came to my house right now my son would give you the shirt off his back the food out of the cupboard and anything else that you would want. He shares his stuff and is a giving child. But I am so sad at the fact of friends not wanting to play with him as much anymore and worry that he is doing something wrong, and I want to help him somehow, not sure if I am getting my point accross but I am willing to losten to any help that is offered to me!!! I love my kids and I would die for them, I have to stop this worry as I have a younger child also and I donot want to have this happen with my second child too!!! Small towns are lonely as everyone knows your business and talks about eveyone and I find it very hurtful, I need to know how to show my children unconditional love no matter what and not to be afraid to go out and watch over my shoulder at them all the time, and not to worry what others are saying about my children and stuff like that. I wonder what the parents of this friend say about my son since their child does nto come here anymore and if it is just kids. PLEASE SOMEONE TAECH ME TO STOP WORRYING!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkSoul Posted January 22, 2011 Share Posted January 22, 2011 Hey there. I'm only 21 and don't have any kids of my own, but have a few nieces and a nephew. I am close with my nephew and he sounds a bit like your son, in some ways. Again, I'm not experienced at all in this matter, but what I would do is approach the parents of his seemingly lost friends and open up a discussion. Explain your concerns to whichever extent you are comfortable, ask them if they have noticed or been told about your son perhaps making some social faux pas without realizing it. Just ask for the facts, explain that you are worried about him and would like to find out if he is doing something perceived as wrong so you can work to correct it while he is still young. I think your worry is excessive but charming - I wish my parents gave two * * * * s about me as a child, when I started having problems. In the worst case you can take him to see a child psychologist, but I would first talk to some of the other parents and see what info you can get that way. Good luck, I sincerely hope that you are able to come to a peaceful and worry-free solution Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
toad72 Posted January 23, 2011 Author Share Posted January 23, 2011 Thank you for this, Today is the first time that I have ever been on this and I was in a need to talk. You are a very smart person for 21, I wish that it was as easy as talking to the parent but there is reasons that I can not or I guess will not!! Call it maybe my pride, not sure! Not sure if this ir right but I want to say sorry to you that you had problems and your parents did not care!! But... you have turned out to be a wise above your years person, who has compassion and took the time to answer a strangers cry!! So since your parents did not care you need to give yourself the pat on the back because you suceeded in life and you did it on your own, and I would be proud if my children did what you just did. Thank you for making this first time on here venting show me that there are still really good people out there!! I am the type of person that people tell their problems too and I can help them, but as you see I can never solve my own!! Thank you, I will think about what you said!! All the best to you !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarkSoul Posted January 23, 2011 Share Posted January 23, 2011 If you need any help or you need to talk feel free to message me, I am more than willing to offer what I have learned and experienced. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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