enigma69 Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I am 41 years old and suffer from depression and anxiety. I take medications for that. My problem is that my mother doesn't understand my depression. I have two aunts whom I love very much. Both are in declining health. My mom says that I am "mean" because I don't want to see one of my aunts. She doesn't get that when I see her, I become very upset, scared and panic seeing her with her Alzhimer's. I was used to seeing her strong but now, it breaks my heart seeing her like that. Again, she doesn't understand how I feel so she keeps telling me that my aunt is sick, making me more depressed. It gets to the point where I want to take more dosages of my medication or even to do something worse. I can't change the way I feel. What can I do to deal with this? Thank you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
annie24 Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 i am glad that you are getting treatment. what is it about visiting your aunt that makes you anxious/upset? obviously, she is ill and in declining health. but why does being near her exacerbate that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enigma69 Posted January 21, 2011 Author Share Posted January 21, 2011 The way she acts. It saddens me that way she acts. Fortunately, she still remembers us but now my mom tells me that she doesn't want to talk anymore. I've always been very nervous and depressed when I see people who are ill. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FuninHeaven Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 Medication alone will not help you get rid of depression. As a person who has suffered from depression for year, I can safely say that it is the result of poor health, physical weakness, a bad childhood, lack of self-esteem, and wrong thinking patterns. So how can you deal with this? The day you decide you have had enough and want outta this situation, you will start healing. I used a combination of Yoga, pranayam, NLP, and pranic healing to get rid of depression. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enigma69 Posted January 21, 2011 Author Share Posted January 21, 2011 That is my problem. Lack of self-esteem and always thinking that the worse is going to happen. I'll look into the info that you gave me of how to deal with this. Thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tique Posted January 21, 2011 Share Posted January 21, 2011 I understand what you are saying. You love your aunt and seeing her sick makes you scared because 1) you love her, 2) you have a personal connection with her, and 3) sickness usually means that you can lose the person anytime. You feeling is heightened especially since you said that she was strong before and you knew her when she was like that. One thing you could probably do is talk to your mother and explain to her exactly why you are feeling the way you are. Explain to her that you are not being selfish. Tell her that seeing your aunt in that condition hurts you more than she can imagine and it is just especially hard to visit her and see her in that state, knowing that she was healthy and strong before. Tell her to give you some a little time till you are ready. Also, you should remember that you aunt needs you. Possibly now more than ever. you will probably have to look past her actions and remember deep inside she is the person who you loved. I hope this helps. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
enigma69 Posted January 22, 2011 Author Share Posted January 22, 2011 Thank you Tique. I appreciate it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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