Does a womans 'hotness' have a lot to do with influence in a relationship ?

[SWEET_J]

I was having this discussion with a friend who believes that if a woman is VERY attractive, as opposed to'average' looking...or as some would say ' really HOT'...that a man is apt to be more 'whipped' and assume a more subservient role as to not lose

his 'trophy'....because men tend to be more visually challenged and that would be more appealing for him and what other people think of him.

 

I do not want to start a gender debate..because I am aware women do this too for different reasons.

 

Thoughts?

[Lady Rashomon]

I think this is true to a certain extent. My ex thought I was a goddess, and when our relationship was on the brink of collapse, he lamented to mutual friends that he'd never be able to find someone as hot. But that was just one aspect of our relationship. I don't think he wanted to "keep" me because he found me beautiful; he wanted to because he genuinely loved me. You can be with the most gorgeous woman in the world and find her completely vile to be around if she's just not that nice or cool a person.

[22n32]

Maybe if she is matched with an Avg looking guy.. dep on the guy.. but if she is matched with a guy similar to her look then no..because if she leaves him its just as easy for him to go out and get an equally attractive girl.

[sidehop]

I guess it's possible if one man's happiness is dependent on the woman's looks and not anything else which is a very flawed view of a relationship.

[itsallgrand]

No, I think that is influenced more by the intention and character of the man. While you might seem to see it more with uber-hot women, it happens plenty with average and not so hot women too.

 

I think it has more to do with certain men at certain times thinking and leading themselves with the wrong head and also having a kiss-your-ass idea of what it is to keep a woman around.

 

The opposite is common too; being a jerk as a way to keep the piece of ass around. Sorry about being crude, but I think the topic is crude. This stuff doesn't happen in relationships where the two people are partners and equals, it happens usually when people are looking to get what they can for themselves. And no, I'm not just talking about men. Both sexes do weird things out of selfishness or misunderstanding of what it is to be in a relationship.

[thejigsup]

I don't know about this, really. I have a good friend who is, and was, absolutely gorgeous with an amazing body to go along with it. I never noticed any of her boyfriends were "whipped". Many of them physically abused her, though. When I say she was beautiful, I really mean it. She competed in beauty contests, modeled, you name it. She is more beautiful on the inside, though. She is the kind of friend who is always there when it hits the fan...ALWAYS! I don't know why some of her boyfriends abused her, she is such a great person.

[resilient7]

agree with this

[SWEET_J]

Thank you for everyones honest opinions. I do think it is a very shallow way to view a relationship in this way....just wanted to know what other people thought.

[In the Dark]

Maybe if she is matched with an Avg looking guy.. dep on the guy.. but if she is matched with a guy similar to her look then no..because if she leaves him its just as easy for him to go out and get an equally attractive girl.

 

I agree with this.

As there's the whole thing about leagues this relates to it.

 

A man will also get hurt more for losing a female who they feel is out of their league.

Reason being is they feel it is going to be hard to find another female of such physical attraction interested in them.

Doesn't have to be about who the female is as a person, just the physical attraction.

Man will become whipped for sure to retain the relationship with the attractive woman regardless of how the relationship is doing.

Knowing that it is only supported by themselves.

 

So if a female is eh in the way of looks or of same physical attraction to a man they will not hurt as much if they do get dumped.

Also may even find it easier to leave them when their behavior becomes too much BS to deal with.

 

I feel this is the way the World work naturally.

Is it shallow?

Yes.

Is it right?

No.

But I feel it's the truth and sometimes the truth hurts.

[rocio]

Not if the guy has self-respect. Certainly it would be one of the factors that motivates him to stay with her. But it's a very unhealthy relationship when one partner is feeling pressured to behave a certain way out of fear of losing the other.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I've seen men whipped by average looking women and I've seen absolutely gorgeous women being taken for granted.

 

I think there are cases of a man valuing a woman's beauty to the point where she has complete control over him but I think that's just a case of a man with poor character.

[Day_Walker]

It depends on the guy and his preference for having a "hot" girlfriend. I think that generally more attractive people get more chances just based on their attractiveness. I would generally think this is true in relationships but I im sure some guys would be likely to become more "whipped" than they would with an average looking girl.

[Stay_home]

It's totally up to whoever is supposedly "subservient" to break away that mental block of believing that just because a person looks better than you do, that they're entitled to get away with a lot more. That is a defeatist view toward a relationship.

[Jd1983]

I think it's true to a certain extent.

 

I've seen some guys who would just tolerate whatever behavior from their partners just because they were 'hot'.

 

Then again, I have also seen less attractive women with men that truly adores them.

 

Ultimately, I think how you are as a whole is what matters most. You can be with the most attractive guy, but if he has a bad personality, then looks can mean nothing.

[ut804]

i think some guys only care about dating a hot women, because a lot of times hot women are b****** and they don't care because she's hot.

 

I remember a Dr Phil episode, for example. An ugly man was with a hot women, but she was really nasty and cheated on him and treated him like crap. Now c'mon, we all know that this dude can't get such a hot girl (he was unattractiv) so he puts up with it. if she were average he wouldn't tolerate it.

 

sad but true. but i think women can do the same. i make the mistake of being attracted to hot guys who aren't so nice. physical attraction is powerful.

[Blue Spiral]

Absolutely. I freely admit, I'll put up with more from a hot woman than I would from one that isn't. That only lasts to a point, however, and I have a much shorter fuse for this sort of thing than most men, who are used to the give-and-take nature of relationships.

[In the Dark]

i think some guys only care about dating a hot women, because a lot of times hot women are b****** and they don't care because she's hot.

 

I remember a Dr Phil episode, for example. An ugly man was with a hot women, but she was really nasty and cheated on him and treated him like crap. Now c'mon, we all know that this dude can't get such a hot girl (he was unattractiv) so he puts up with it. if she were average he wouldn't tolerate it.

 

sad but true. but i think women can do the same. i make the mistake of being attracted to hot guys who aren't so nice. physical attraction is powerful.

 

Absolutely. I freely admit, I'll put up with more from a hot woman than I would from one that isn't. That only lasts to a point, however, and I have a much shorter fuse for this sort of thing than most men, who are used to the give-and-take nature of relationships.

 

People are reluctant to admit the truth to the rest of the World who are lying to one extent or another.

 

When the truth is what ut said and true for both genders.

In this World this truth is so played down by people lol.

[Sparkly Eyes]

Yes, very true. Women also do it for the exact same reason too, the hotness of their guy or other reasons. I've known guys putting up with their girlfriends cheatings just because they were hot.