Daniielle Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Im 19 Years Old & Was Sexually Abused For 4 Years, Worst Thing Was He Was My Aunties Fiancee, He Also Sexually Abused My 2 Younger Sisters. It Came Out When I Was 16 Because My Nan Had Told Of Her Ordeal With The Abuse From The Same Man And My Sister Had Told After. My Aunty Didn't Believe Me And Stopped Contact With My Whole Family. It Went To Court And He Got Found NOT Guilty On 7 Counts Due To Lack Of Evidence.. 2 Years On He Walks The Same Streets, I See His Dirty Horrible Scum Bag Face. And Hes Laughing. Im Finding It Really Hard To Cope With, I Cant Sleep. I Have Nightmares. It Really Affect My Relationship. I Cant Be Intermate Because I Feel Dirty And Disgusting. My Partner Says He Understands But I Know He Finds It Hard Too. I Just Want Some Advice From People Who Are/ Have Gone Through The Same And Tell How They Got Through It Because I Dont Feel Like Im Ever Going To Get Through It. I Get Really Depressed And Down And All I Want To Do Is Cry. When Will I Ever Feel Normal ? Ive Tried Councilling But Ive Got So Many Question I Need Answering Like How Can 12 People Decide Wether Or Not SomeOne Telling The Truth Or Not.. We Were All Children Having Our Innosence Taking Away. We Stood Up In Court And Faced Him And He Sat There & Laughed At Us.. Please SomeOne Tell Me How Im Ever Going To Get Over This ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abitbroken Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Continue with counseling and support groups. Juries are out to find out if there is reasonable doubt as to someone's guilt. If the evidence provides reasonable doubt that the person didn't do it, they won't prosecute. If all they have is your word, and no evidence such as a swab from a rape kit, no other witnesses, etc, then it is your word against his. It is not about you telling the truth but if you tell the truth and they can prove that he did it. I am so sorry that this happened to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 The exact same thing happened to my best friend, only it was her FATHER and he raped all 3 of his daughters!! My poor friend got pregnant by this monster and he ended up getting her a back alley abortion and she almost died. Years later her younger sisters came forward with their stories and they went to court. He got six months at a luxury jail (he spent his time there playing golf and being captian of the archery team). She decided to just live her life and enjoy it in spite of him. She married a wonderful man who is so good looking it's almost unbelievable and they have been happily married for over 20 years! She loves sex (she said her father was sick and disgusting, not sex or her) and they have a lovely 21-year-old daughter who is embarking on a professional singing career. She said she couldn't let him win, and he didn't. He ended up dying a painful death from cancer. She didn't let that bother her, either. You have the power over the rest of your life, not him. Get counseling, that might help you a lot. Good luck in the future and don't let this guy win another round, you hear me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniielle Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 ThankYou For Your Comments, But For AbitBroken, My Point Of View The Jury Shouldnt Be Able To Decide They Werent There .. And There Was Whitnesses, My Sisters, Nan And About 11 Character Wittnesses, Against Thr 4 He Had. I Think Its Wrong.. & TheJigsUp... I Agree In My Heart But My Head Tells Me Different. I Really Try To Move On With My Life .. My SIsters All Take It Differently And Find It Easier To Move On From It .. I Feel For Your Bestfriends But Wish I Had The Sort Of Will Power To Move On And Not Let It Ruin My Life. Shes A Rock For Not Letting That Happen Just Wish I Knew How, And How To Stp Feeling This Way ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
savignon Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Why not talk to your sisters and find out what strategies they have for coping with it? Did you all go to court and he was found innocent or he was never tried? I didn't understand that part. Unfortunately there's no way to "prove" guilt or innocence a lot of times and even with witnesses, it's up to a jury. Maybe with some counselling you could develop some new ways to talk yourself down from a bad place. Like when he enters your mind you can say to yourself, "that was the past. thinking about it is not serving me right now" (or something like that). I really can identify with you and hope you are able to come back into your power and not let this guy run the way you think/act/react/etc. He's not worth it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 She isn't a rock, she was just realistic. She knew she couldn't change things, but she wanted to get revenge in the worst way. Having a great life did just that. When her daughter was just a baby, she brought her over for a visit to her mom's house (she had taken the louse back). Just seeing his daughter so happy and content KILLED him. His mom said he cried like a baby over all he had done to her after she had left. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
savignon Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 She isn't a rock, she was just realistic. She knew she couldn't change things, but she wanted to get revenge in the worst way. Having a great life did just that. When her daughter was just a baby, she brought her over for a visit to her mom's house (she had taken the louse back). Just seeing his daughter so happy and content KILLED him. His mom said he cried like a baby over all he had done to her after she had left. the mom stayed with the dad knowing what he did to their 3 girls?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Daniielle Posted January 20, 2011 Author Share Posted January 20, 2011 It's Different With Different People. No Body Handle Pain The Same. Therefore In My Eyes Your Friend Is A Rock. Realisticly It Should Not Of Happened So How Can SomeOne Be Realistic About It When It Did Happen ? EveryBody Is Different, My Sisters Take It Very Differently Because No Body Handles, Fear, Pain, Hurt In The Same Way. I Know I Need To Move On And Let Go But Im Finding It Very Difficult Even Though I Have Seen A Counciler, Hense Why Im Asking For Advice From people Whom May Have/Currently Going Through The Same Things. Maybe Talking To People Might Help I Dont Know But Im Finding Out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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