wai Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 There's this guy that I met in NYE party in New York. He's also Asian like me. I saw him kissing random girls on that night. He just broke up with his girlfriend too. His close friend likes me and he knows it but it didn't really work out between us. I danced with him on that night and we hugged too. We both were really drunk, so I doubt that he remebers everything. The bad thing is he lives in New York and I live in Kentucky. I'm planning on moving out of here when I can find a new job. I'm really attracted to him but I'm scared too since he looks very good and almost every girl he met likes him. I'm also cute but not drop dead gorgeous. Other than that my education and family background are all good. I have self-esteem issue because of the way my ex treated me. He comments on my Facebook sometime and looks like he likes me a little too but I'm not sure. What should I do to get closer to him? I really like him. I can't wait till I move to New York cuz I just started this job and I need to stick with it for about a year. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ClaraBlue Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Be cautious Here are some red flags: He just got out of a relationship He was kissing random girls (and you saw it) You have a history with his close friend You live in different places Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DanDee Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Yeah, it doesn't sound like this guy is planning on having a relationship any time soon. And you have to wonder why the broke up - his flirtatious ways? I'd try and put him to the back of my mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
In the Dark Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Well you think he is hot and you see the signs of him hooking up with people. Yet you are asking us if it is a bad idea. Are you just wanting a few of us to say, no it's all in your head and go for it? You know what? I'll say date him. You know the signs so you know the possible consequences. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dramallama Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 If you want to be played, then date him. But if you have any self-respect and judgement you'll steer clear. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jd1983 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 What outcome are you actually expecting from this? If nothing has happened with him, I would just let it go. You don't plan on moving down to NY until a year from now. Who's to say within that time frame, he won't already be taken or seeing several other girls? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyNinja Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 I hate to say it, but he's not really relationship material. Think of it. If you two were to hook up would you want to be constantly wondering what he's up to? (given his history and his charateristics/personality/reputation). Why did he break up with his last girlfirend? Just focus on your job for now and don't focus on him too much. Be his friend for awhile and see how he is with other girls. Keep it casual and don't expect anything. Just work on healing yourself from your past relationship. Last thing you want is to be played for a fool and have another shot at your self-esteem blown to pieces. Good luck. Until we meet again.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bostonbruins44 Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 Unless you plan on moving to New York within the next month or so I think you should forget abotu him for the time being. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 Sounds like a guy who would be here today...gone tomorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaydedgirl Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 Every player is hot and makes you feel attracted to him coz hes like the "bad boy" type of guy. But think about it,he was kissing random girls in front of you and he just got out of a relationship. You dont wanna be dragged into that mess,youll only end up having your heart broken and getting hurt. DOnt be fooled by good looks and charm...in the long run those type of guys will make you weep... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xyzzzz Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 sounds like you know what the worse case scenario is. however you still wanna go ahead. i was in the same boat. i ended up having sex with him. im not his gf but i enjoy the casual relationship. if you are like me,i'd say try it.you never know the result. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wai Posted January 20, 2011 Author Share Posted January 20, 2011 Thanks everyone for your reply. I'll just try to forget him and focus on my job. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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