huntamis Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Hey all, new member here. I just found this forum and figured it would be perfect for asking for advice ha. But anyways, here it goes I met this girl when I was 17 and she was 16. We dated for almost 2 1/2 years. She was my first kiss, first screw, everything. She broke up with me on xmas and ever since than I really haven't been able to get over her. Every day I wake up with this pressure on my chest and I can't get rid of it. I've tried everything- talking to other girls, drugs, chillin with my boys. Nothing works though. We broke up because I had a little problem with blues and I know it's my fault I don't want to hear any of that * * * * . But she's already with another guy that she says she loves. What I don't understand is we were both virgins when we first met, and I loved that about us. It was pure, ya know? Now I'm off to rehab for 6 months on thursday and I know all I'll be thinking about is her, and be fiend out. What the * * * * do I do? I really don't even wanna wake up to see another day Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForumGuy Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 As hard as it is, you have to continue forward, Do things for yourself and it may take a long time, but it will get better. So many of us have been there and made it through and you can too, even though it doesn't seem like it right now. Take it one day at a time and be happy each day that you made it through. The chest thing will lessen, it hasn't even been a month yet. It took me about a month to start sleeping and eating somewhat normal. One day at a time..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
huntamis Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 I feel you bro and you're probably right, it's just such a crappy situation. Thanks for the words of wisdom tho Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ForumGuy Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Yeah, I wish there were some easy answers. You have to start somewhere and cut contact with her, it worked better for me than I could have imagined. I have 9 months behind me though and hardly feel a thing anymore....but I did start where you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnm3 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 you've already made a very positive decision for yourself, not only to get off drugs, but to grieve the loss of your ex: going to rehab. in rehab the focus will be 100% on you. don't talk to her at all, no contact 100%. every day you spend bettering yourself will lessen the pain a little, and one day you'll realize that you're not consumed in thoughts of her and it thinking of her with someone else hurts less and less. you'll be around positive energy and people coping with similar problems as you; I think rehab will boost your healing significantly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charity Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 give yourself a break,it is very early days for you. of course you feel a mess,of course you are sad and angry and thinking about her. healing comes from the inside. the things you've tried to get over her are outside influences-girls, drugs,friends..... they can distract you but you can't run away from feelings that are inside you . so just start to face the pain, think about what you will and won't do next time, focus on your self and getting better and lastly......be patient, give it the time it needs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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