HESJUSTSTUPID Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 I'm starting to go to counseling to help with my recent breakup and I'm always writing down my feelings. I have found it some what helpful ( I only started 2weeks ago) . The problem with me now is that every time someone mentions my ex's name I get angry. I can feel the rage build up when people talk about him without me being in control of the conversation, such as asking for advice. My ex and I got matching tattoo's for our 5th year anniversary. It was a star (five points, one for each year) the plan was to get another star added every 5years. We were together for 7 & though I love the tattoo & it isn't something like his name or anything I still get upset when I see it. Should I get it removed/covered up or will this pass? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shes2smart Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 The great thing is you don't need to make that decision right now. The tattoo will still be there (as will the removal/cover up options) when you get some time, distance & perspective on the relationship & the break-up. Making decisions when your emotions are at extremes generally isn't a good idea. How recently was your break-up? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jd1983 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 If it really bothers you, then cover it up. However, it may eventually pass. Just give it some time before deciding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gallop30 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 removing that tattoo wont matter much if you're still hurting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HESJUSTSTUPID Posted January 19, 2011 Author Share Posted January 19, 2011 The great thing is you don't need to make that decision right now. The tattoo will still be there (as will the removal/cover up options) when you get some time, distance & perspective on the relationship & the break-up. Making decisions when your emotions are at extremes generally isn't a good idea. How recently was your break-up? the breakup was 2months ago Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shes2smart Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 the breakup was 2months ago Yeah, in the larger scheme of things, that's not very long....especially for a 7 year relationship. While counseling can shorten healing time if you do the work, it still takes a while. After a break-up, most people don't start feeling better (consistently) until 6 to 12 months afterwards. If you feel like you need to do something NOW, what you could do is start researching options - removal, cover-up or incorporating the exisiting tattoo into another design - but hold off on a decision til, say, the year anniversary of the break-up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carus Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Ive got tattoos related to the two major BU's in my life... 1 from 2 years ago. 1 from 9 years ago.... Gallop* is right. Removing the tatt wont remove the hurt....Only time and positive actions will do that... After you've healed up and moved on, they just become a nice tatt.... 2 months is absolutely nothing in the healing journey. Stay strong. Keep walking* Ever Forward K2* 8) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fwdthinker Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 What if you choose to view the tattoo differently? For example, you could say this is a star that represents that God is looking out for you and will see you through this. Or that you are a star to be handling this majorly painful upset in such a healthy way by getting counseling, writing out your feelins and posting here. You could even see the points as steps in the grief and letting go process (denial, anger, bargaining, acceptance, healing) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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