cocopuffs239 Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 i do luv this girl and i miss her much, but she left me for her old 9th grade ex, it hurt lots and lots but i knew he was just a rebound anyways so anyways it was only a month that they dated and he broke up with her cuz she wanted to hang out with this guy and go to the movies and he wanted to drink with her(they have never meet before they knew each other through other people, but she never was going to drink with him) the reason she wanted to go was cuz she lost her best friend when she dumped me cuz her friend and me started talking and became good friends and she helped me out when i was feeling horrible and my ex didnt like that for her own reasons and got mad at her and stop talking to her and other * * * * happened later on but point is they are not friends anymore just yesterday they had a huge argument, so she tries to hang out with this guy and her bf dumps her and says you girls are all the same(had a problem with a chikc he dated for 3 years that left him(kind of its a long story but thats the bullet point u need to hear)) and he said no * * * * you and left her, my friend a while back said to my ex that i still loved her, i was like damn u shouldnt have said that but he didnt care cuz it was the truth and he doesnt beat around the bush so i was like w/e im still in NC and now that she got dumped she texted my step bro to see if me and her ex best friend are still hanging out this is what she said "Hey um I thought you should know that I talked to Alberts step brother and I guess kristyn has been hanging out with him almost everyday. That's low. I'm cooking dinner" one thing thing that i find strange is that she actually contacted my step bro to find out what i was doing with her ex best friend, but i didnt put to much attention into until now, but im still in NC im going to wait for her to contact me cuz im pretty sure she will if her bf left her she lost her best friend lol i thought there was no hope but now i feel like there is, i still like her but i cant help it feel so * * * * ing happy she is having such a horrible bad time with out me! im loving it lol, hope she has an even worse time , so if she does come back after a a week or 2 ill talk to her about whats happened for the last couple of months, god its a beautiful day out lmfao =] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FrenchFries Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 How old are you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Yeah, just how old are you? How can you say you love someone and feel happy they are having a tough time. That sounds more ego driven than love driven. But if you are very young, hey, it happens. True love does not seek revenge or justice. It just seeks good things for all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Share Posted January 18, 2011 Yeah, just how old are you? How can you say you love someone and feel happy they are having a tough time. That sounds more ego driven than love driven. But if you are very young, hey, it happens. True love does not seek revenge or justice. It just seeks good things for all. im 21, i still miss her and like her we dated for 2 years, it makes me happy she is having a bad time cuz when she left me she was a * * * * * , she started to yell at me cuz i cheated on her which wasnt true im more happy cuz she is trying to find out things about me even after the break up, cuz i thought there was no hope of getting her back, but i do hope for it, and im happy that she had a horrible time cuz now i know i have a chance with her this isnt ego driven its actually move love driven than you think lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 You, my friend, are delusional. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 18, 2011 Author Share Posted January 18, 2011 in what sense am i delusional? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Don't take it the wrong way as I'm not trying to insult you in the least. I just don't think you look at things correctly. You're other post was full of good, useful advice and you kept going and going without even acknowledging the people trying to help you and you certainly didn't consider what we were telling you. Not that you have to but at least consider the information being handed to you. Honestly, I found this post a little offensive. You claim to still care about this person and I admire your persistence, going against all odds and all, but then you say that you're happy that she's miserable? That's not love man. That's selfish, foolish, pride. Move on bro, you can be better than this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gallop30 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 coco,coco i don't even want to start .... you're 21 ,go out and enjoy the youth. and don't be happy about bad things happening to somebody. they're just getting what they deserve Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fudgie Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 I do agree with BirdOnaWire. When you love someone, you don't want to see them in pain. Your ego/pride is hurt and you're happy that she's not happy because, well, you're not happy. It's a very base emotion "I'm not happy so I don't think you should be either since YOU hurt ME." Time to move on from her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MakeItCount Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Perhaps you can be a little relieved but happy? Come on dude. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LillyLooWho Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 You may THINK you love her but if you truly did love her, you would want most for her to be happy -- with or without you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
askdan Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 I think that it's normal to feel somewhat vindicated when an ex leaves you and her life turns into dog s***, it's just a natural instinct to see that their new relationship is not working out. When my ex-fiancee left after 5 years, she had such a hard time, lost her job, lost her friends, went on a major depression, and was never able to make a new boyfriend. It will be 7 years ago this coming February (hence, my reason for joining this forum in 2004). It was the worse mistake she ever made. She keeps checking out my web site now and then to see how I am doing with my new model wife. It's a pity that exes regret only when it's too late and you have moved on. I guess that NC does work. Don't chase them, and if the relationship was valuable to them, they will eventually come back. If you read my previous posts, about how my ex went on a jealous fit when she learned that I was with a new woman, (after years of NC), she went completely mad and was devastated, and became even more depressed. I am so happy I came out of this difficult chapter as the winner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natalia486 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 Okay, okay.. you don't want to see them in pain, but you do want them to realize that they had a good thing going on with you (if they did that is)..I mean give the guy a brake maybe he didn't express himself soo good, but I know what you mean about being happy that things are not going good for her. Or am I misunderstanding too? I mean I was really good to my guy soo if he find a girl that treats him like * * * * I will be happy so that he can see that he really had it good...I think thats what he is trying to say..either way, you love them ..but it hurts that they left you , yes it s a pride thing too. Lets not be judgemental w all have out stories and this place has helped me lets not bomb someone out like that. Everyone goes through different emotions, but the only thing that is the same is the heart brake, some of us just go about it differently Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natalia486 Posted January 19, 2011 Share Posted January 19, 2011 @askdan. I'm so glad things worked out great for you. It must have felt good huh? Yes it does feel good..cause they threw u away Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thejigsup Posted January 20, 2011 Share Posted January 20, 2011 I had a man I truly loved leave me for someone else. I could have become bitter (I loved this man more than any other man I have been with my entire life), but I didn't because I LOVED HIM!!! I wanted nothing but good for him and he got it. They were very, very, happy together for many, many, years. Heck, they might still be together for all I know. I know that bitterness destroys you, not them, but love is a gift I could give both of us. Karma worked in this case. I met the most wonderful man I couple of years later who I have been with very happily for over ten years! Love begets love, bitterness begets bitterness. Which do YOU want in your life? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cocopuffs239 Posted January 20, 2011 Author Share Posted January 20, 2011 yea thats what i ment, i feel much better cuz i have more hope of getting her back now that it didnt work with her at the time bf, im still in NC and im trying to handle not talking to her now that she is single, its almost eating me up lol, but im staying Nc for a lil less than a month, will wait to see if she gets back with him(i hope not) and then after 2 weeks ill start on a plan to talk to her, then by the 3rd week ill call her and ask her to hang out with me for about 30 mins or so, see how it goes and if it doesnt work ill stick in NC and just move on,and if that happens ill let her know how i feel and then just move on for good, i just hope it doesnt end like that Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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