My final option.

[xxNPxx]

So I've already been in one relationship before. But the same problem I had before keeps coming up. I'm too shy with girls to go out and talk to them. No matter what I do I can't get myself to go and chat with a girl. I've tried self hypnosis, trying when extremely motivated, trying when I was tired or well rested, trying when I was sad or happy or angry, tried when my sex drive was really high, tried when it was really low, tried when I was excited or not. Everything turned out the same.

 

It's all still the same. No matter how much I push myself I'm always back where I started.

 

Trying to put myself out there has not made me less shy at all. I've been to clubs, bars, and other venues both with and without friends and I am still just as shy. I've still haven't been able to talk to any women. I can't talk to women in the real world and online dating has failed me.

 

I've exhausted all my options but the one that worked. Pre workout supplements. Taken just enough to not overdose, I've been able to talk with good looking girls that worked at a mall. It seems to be the only thing that will, and has worked before. It seems like it's my only option. It's also the only option I don't want to use because, well liver damage and things like that. But what the hell, I can beat my shyness that way. Sounds like a good trade off.

 

Besides, what else can I do?

[Meggan]

i could imagine you have already been told this and this probaly wont help much but... the worst possible thing that could happen if you approach a woman is for her to say no or tell you shes not interested... thats it. it might make you feel a little crappy but nothing worse will happen unless you were to be extremely rude, in which case a drink may be thrown in your face. i know i would be flattered to have someone show interest in me, you could also look at talking to some women as boosting there self esteem if that helps.

 

sorry if what i said doesn't help at all

[nobelle]

What's wrong with talking to not-so-good-looking girls? They might be easier to approach. They might be flattered by the attention, or, you won't care as much if they reject you. Also, you might find there is a lot more to talk about with them. People who don't rely on their looks usually have depth of character.

 

We women aren't a big mystery. One option you've left out is talking to a counselor. You clearly have a lot of anxiety about it, and someone professional can guide you through it. They can recommend even more options you haven't even thought of yet.

 

If you really want to change, see someone who can truly help you. No excuses.

[sidehop]

I recommend this book to many shy guys. Often times shy guys' childhood is very similar. The book explores the cause, understanding the problem and ways to overcome the issues. And it's a very realistic method, not just putting yourself out there to embarrass yourself but to take small steps in making you feel better about yourself and approach women in a different way. Shy guys tend to women on a pedestal often. But there's a reason fro that. Check out if you haven't.

 

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[xxNPxx]

Thanks side hop I think I will get that book. I've read a few books by various pick up artists and they have all been about the same and I've always ran into the same problem that I have now.

 

Nobelle, after a browse though the book sidehop recommended I will seriously consider a counselor at my college. Especially since it will probably be free.

 

I guess I haven't thought of everything just yet.

[sidehop]

A lot of shy guys you'll find out and especially if you know anyone with the shy tendencies share many traits including how they were raised. It happens to girls as well as but generally, the shyness isn't all genetic and often times it has to do with boundaries and what we learned, experienced, find comfort and identify ourselves as a child. It may be a big eye opener with this book; I also recommend it since it's really fun to read. I read the entire thing in one day, not a big book by any means but entertaining at the same time as I could really relate what a lot of these men have gone through. Best of luck, I do hope you do find some good information and ways to take steps in overcoming shyness.