A reconciliation.

[ToF]

Hey all,

 

Thank you x1,000 to everyone who has offered words of comfort and advice during my breakup. Honestly, you all came through for me in a big way. I was floored by the quality of advice that I received. Thank you

 

He and I ended up getting back together a few days ago, which we're both happy about. I no longer live with him, and we've basically gone from practically married to just being boyfriend and girlfriend. I started staying with him very soon after we began dating over a year ago, so we never really had a chance to "date".

 

I'm now moving out of my parents' place and into a house with a couple of my closest friends. This will be happening next month. I've also got things worked out at school, which before was a major problem (not grades or anything, but I was having trouble getting my department to work with me). So that's all settled, and I'm on course to graduate a little early. I'm working in a neuroscience lab on campus as a research assistant, so that's been awesome. Just started that a couple of weeks ago.

 

Basically, I'm happy. I'm SUPER busy, but I'm getting things done. Now that I'm not depending on him for everything, I'm forced to do it on my own and I'm actually doing a pretty damn good job, lol. And he's able to have time to actually miss me, which was a big deal before. He's seeing what he needs to do with his life, and is working on his own issues. He's now got other friends besides me, which makes me really happy. We both needed that balance.

 

So here we are. Not back to square one, but ... yeah. We're here, and we're working things out. We talked extensively before we made the decision, and we know what the "ground rules" are. We're the same people, and it's the same love, but we're fixing what was broken in our relationship. We're both willing to work at it.

 

Any thoughts are welcome and very much appreciated.

 

ToF

[jonesyjakk]

i don't know what your story was but congratulations, i'm really happy that your making things work. my fiance split with me 6 weeks ago and i told her today i still wanted to work things out but she is adamant we are done, we have a 16 month old boy and its hell. We have both failed at our relationship which was 8 n half years long, we both made mistakes, where as i am desperate to work at them she is not, so well done to you, I hope I find that happiness and I sincerely hope this is right for you both and you live long and happy together. love is the most beautiful thing in the world, i just didn't know that until it was too late. Congratulations and best of luck!

[HeartGoesOn]

I'm happy to hear that you were able to work this out together. All the best for your future, ToF!