LoveSoDeep Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I know this is going to sound silly....I'm starting to think guys are turning me down b/c I'm short! No really! I know that some shorter or average height guys (5'9 to 6') don't like tall girls (5'9" and up) and some tall guys(6' and up) would rather have a taller girl. But I'm trying to take some initiative and message guys on match and I have several that check my profile and never respond. I'm never married, no kids, don't smoke, have an average job, a college degree, and a dog...pretty normal stuff and the guys I'm messgaing include most of those thing in theri what they are looking for section including my age range which is lower 30s. So guys if a girl matches all those things and you check her profile what would be the number 1 reason not to respond? Is it just I'm not attrative enough? Could it be that 5'1" is too petite? Or would it really be something written in the profile? I can't really change the first 2 so if it's that then I can take it so just tell me...I'm just curious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newwave Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I doubt it's the height thing. I know several petite women and they've never been rejected for this. However I am taller and I have. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
guynextdoor Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Height has never been a concern to me when it comes to dating. I've dated women that were 4" taller and shorter. Height issue is more of a concern for women than men. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sara-pezzini Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 doubtful it's the height thing, i am 5,3 myself and my boyfriend 6,4 and it's never been a problem for neither of us Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lamour detruit Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Unless it is a major extreme, guys care very little about height. 5'1 is not too petite, and I doubt many guys would have a problem with it. Women care about height in general, men do not. They have their preferences, but unless it's an extreme, it does not matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoveSoDeep Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 See this is what I thought. I never thought it was a big deal. I've dated guys that were 6'3" that's over a foot taller than me and it didn't seem to be a problem. But I don't agree that 5'1" isn't an extreme...honestly I can't even by petitie labled clothing to fit correctly so I am in fact shorter thatn even what clothing manufacturers consider to be short. I have to always wear heels or get things hemmed. I just pick height b/c it is something concrete they can see and decide on right off the bat. It's one of the first things they see in the profile. Okay so if height is really the non-issue I thought it was.... Then what makes you pass on someone who has taken the time to send and e-mail and is obviously interested if you are? I know guys have hot buttons just like women do but not being a guy I have no idea what that might be. Really I get that I'm just not going to be every guys type it's fine. I'm just curious if I'm not what you want then what do you want (not that this would change me anyway just curious)? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoveSoDeep Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 Ha! Just b/c I was curious I went back and looked and 3 of the guys who did not respond actually had lower limits set in their profile for height. Two said 5'2" and one actually said 5'4" (he also said only slender and athletic and toned body types only lol). So I guess even if they were willing to give and inch I obviousy wan't following their guidlines and I can't balme them for ruling me out since I do the same thing sometimes. I guess I just shouldn't message guys who don't have my height listed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philos Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 I think I might have a problem with your height. I'm 6'2 so... I'd preferably like someone at least around 5'6 (if not 5'9 or so). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoveSoDeep Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 I think I might have a problem with your height. I'm 6'2 so... I'd preferably like someone at least around 5'6 (if not 5'9 or so). Honesty. Thanks. I totally understand why you would say that. I'm not saying I only go for guys who are tall (which to me is 6' and up) but I don't rule them out...on the other hand I am totally guilty of ruling out short guys (to me below 5'8" is short). I know if I do it guys must do it too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinnacle Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 I'm 6'3, the girlfriend is 5'1. The only thing that is hard is kissing when we are both standing. I have to bend and she has to stand on her tip-toes. But hey, she's still hot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wire Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Height is more of an issue for women than guys. I'd have no problem going out with a girl that's taller, but I don't think it's something I've gotta worry about really coz most women I believe want someone taller than them, the whole 'feeling protected' nonsense. It annoys me more when women have a specific height requirement - must be 'x' cm/inches taller than me, like she's some sort of amusement ride. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetpea03 Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Honesty. Thanks. I totally understand why you would say that. I'm not saying I only go for guys who are tall (which to me is 6' and up) but I don't rule them out...on the other hand I am totally guilty of ruling out short guys (to me below 5'8" is short). I know if I do it guys must do it too. A lot of people have 'height requirements' just like you do. I used to not want to date anyone under 5'10. I liked guys to be taller than me by at least a few inches, as I'm 5'5", but my boyfriend is actually 5'7" and he is amazing. Don't cut someone off just based on height or you may really miss out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lamour detruit Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Honesty. Thanks. on the other hand I am totally guilty of ruling out short guys (to me below 5'8" is short). I know if I do it guys must do it too. Seems like a silly rule to me when you're as short as you are. Also, guys can't be compared to women in this regard. In general, guys don't care, some prefer their women a little taller, some prefer their women to be petite..but in general, they don't rule you out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wire Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 A lot of people have 'height requirements' just like you do. I used to not want to date anyone under 5'10. I liked guys to be taller than me by at least a few inches, as I'm 5'5", but my boyfriend is actually 5'7" and he is amazing. Don't cut someone off just based on height or you may really miss out. Out of curiosity why did you have specific height requirement? Given the average guy isn't even that tall it seems awfully large. Seems like a silly rule to me when you're as short as you are. Also, guys can't be compared to women in this regard. In general, guys don't care, some prefer their women a little taller, some prefer their women to be petite..but in general, they don't rule you out. I think us guys are way more open minded in regards to height. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
newwave Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Height was never an issue for me. In fact I had a crush on a guy who was 5'1. He was small to boot, balding and wore glasses. Definitely not a hot guy, but he turned me on (he wasn't interested though). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetpea03 Posted January 15, 2011 Share Posted January 15, 2011 Out of curiosity why did you have specific height requirement? Given the average guy isn't even that tall it seems awfully large. It was one of those childish girl dreams I had in my mind. I loved coming up to a guys shoulder and being hugged tightly. He just seemed more strong and dominant than those who were shorter. The stupid knight in shining armor feeling. lol. I'm glad I'm over the physical stuff. Don't have a looks basis for who I date and haven't been looks oriented since I was 18. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StopandStart Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I dont have 'height requirements' but i do tend to be MORE phyically attracted to shorties. Everyone has their prefrences Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MD Geist Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Most of the girls I have went out on dates with were taller than me and it didn't bother me at all in fact I found it kind of sexy. Now the other way around id think its only natural. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starrgrl Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I'm 5'7, so I'd PREFER a guy taller than 5'10. BUT that's being idealistic. Seriously, anyone taller than me is fine, personality matters so much more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Wire Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 I will say you do find that the taller a girl is the less height becomes an issue. A friend of mine is just shy of 6 foot and told me a while back she doesn't have much choice but to be open to going out with guys smaller than her. It's a case of 'it'd be nice if he was, but it's not a deal breaker'. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LAYAAN Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 As others have already pointed it out, your height OP should not be an issue. I have seen too many couples where the guy is about a foot taller than the girl. I have lost really great guys who were only 5ft 6in and they thought that I wasn't a match for them. If you are woman who is petite to average, you should not worry at all. If you were tall I would say yes, you have a reason to be concerned because most men dont' like to date women that are taller than them and also most women find it awkward to date guys that are shorter than them. But if you are shorter, most guys dont seem to mind. On a side note, don't read too much into why a guy wouldn't go for your profile on internet. Internet dating is for brave-hearted people. Learn to develop patience and tough skin or it would be difficult for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jd1983 Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 Honestly, I don't think height has much to do with it. It's also based on preference, but most of the time it's not even an issue. I know plenty of guys that would date a girl shorter than them (a majority of them would in fact). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sidehop Posted January 18, 2011 Share Posted January 18, 2011 5'1" is petite but I know for most guys I know it's not an issue. I've dated a girl that was 5'0". It's usually the other way around when the girl is much taller it seems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LoveSoDeep Posted January 18, 2011 Author Share Posted January 18, 2011 I guess I should be glad everyone seems to think taht height probably isn't the issue....but now who knows what it might be. I do think that guys over a foot taller than me might on a whim say no that's too short...but those aren't the kinds of guys I want to date anyway. I've seen first-hand how many guys like dating girls who are shorter than them and have always dated taller guys (obviously there aren't many that are shorter) but I do prefer guys that are 5'8" and above b/c I have found that shorter guys in my age range often feel like they have to compensate or overcompensate for their short stature by being really _something_ whether that something is funny, rich, outgoing....you name it. So for me it isn't the height that I find unatractive it's that underlying character trait that seems to, all too often, go along with that height. So I don't rule them out off hand, but many of them do get ruled out if they seem like they may be overcompensating. On the same token, I can see how I would be ruled out if guys thought shorter girls seemed to have a certain charcter trait....like they for example are less independent or like to be "protected" and taken care of...so it works both ways. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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