Guys: question...I dont' know if I made this clear in my other thread or not

[DreamerGirl27]

He said he can't be there emotionally for a girl. That he's just "all about sex". Well then, if he's all about sex, then why isn't he "all about sex" with me.

 

He said that he keeps multiple girls as friends hoping one day one of them will have sex with him.

 

Apparently that doesn't apply to me?

 

Usually, when a guy says that, doesn't that mean, he'll take anything he can get?

 

I mean, not to box all of you in the "horny, I just want sex from anything that moves" box...

 

but that's pretty much how I took that.

 

Like, he might actually CARE about me and doesn't want to hurt me?

 

That's really what I got out of the whole conversation.

[Lamour detruit]

You're over-analyzing it. If he was interested in you, you'd know it by now. Having read all your other threads, it's time to take care of yourself, forget about this guy..and find someone else. And yes, before you say anything else, there will be other guys out there that you'll be interested in, and who in turn, are interested in you.

[Batya33]

He sounds like a person who is very self-absorbed and thoughtless/tactless. Nothing to do with gender.

[DreamerGirl27]

Also, not to put myself up on a pedestal, but I pretty much know that he WILL take anything he can get because he gets into relationships with girls MUCH...well, there's no better way to put it. Uglier than me. yet, he constantly talks about how hawt HE is (at least he used to) and how he wants a really 'good looking' girl. Yet, he has been with some pretty much trailer trash looking, UGLY girls. (I'm not joking, his last relationship that lasted all of 2 weeks was with a disgustingly under average girl).

 

Sooo, that kind of leads me to believe that he really WILL take "whatever he can get" sex wise, but with me it's different?

[DreamerGirl27]

You're over-analyzing it. If he was interested in you, you'd know it by now. Having read all your other threads, it's time to take care of yourself, forget about this guy..and find someone else. And yes, before you say anything else, there will be other guys out there that you'll be interested in, and who in turn, are interested in you.

 

I don't know, he's confusing. If he wasn't interested, why keep talking to me at all? Like I said, he's the closest friend I have. My close friends who aren't interested in me are not my friends because they aren't interested in me, regardless of gender.

[Batya33]

Also, not to put myself up on a pedestal, but I pretty much know that he WILL take anything he can get because he gets into relationships with girls MUCH...well, there's no better way to put it. Uglier than me. yet, he constantly talks about how hawt HE is (at least he used to) and how he wants a really 'good looking' girl. Yet, he has been with some pretty much trailer trash looking, UGLY girls. (I'm not joking, his last relationship that lasted all of 2 weeks was with a disgustingly under average girl).

 

Sooo, that kind of leads me to believe that he really WILL take "whatever he can get" sex wise, but with me it's different?

 

I don't think describing someone else as "disgustingly under average" puts yourself on a pedestal - but it does show me that you are so insecure that you will settle for scraps, or else you wouldn't have the need to describe other people in that way in this context. Why do you want to associate with someone who objectifies and uses women in this way?

[PaintWithLight]

He said he can't be there emotionally for a girl. That he's just "all about sex". Well then, if he's all about sex, then why isn't he "all about sex" with me.

 

He said that he keeps multiple girls as friends hoping one day one of them will have sex with him.

 

Apparently that doesn't apply to me?

 

Usually, when a guy says that, doesn't that mean, he'll take anything he can get?

 

I mean, not to box all of you in the "horny, I just want sex from anything that moves" box...

 

but that's pretty much how I took that.

 

Like, he might actually CARE about me and doesn't want to hurt me?

 

That's really what I got out of the whole conversation.

 

This just makes me mental. Why why why do women think this way? He has openly admitted he is a dog boy. The fact that he is NOT a dog boy with you means he thinks you are special?? Take off the rose colored glasses! I am sure if you hang in there long enough, he will throw a worthless sexual encounter your way if you want, but what is there here for you? You have made an opinion of this guy based on your own hopes and are selectively viewing only information that supports this.

 

Again, women, please note the area in bold. Once again, a guy breaks the code of silence about "guy-girl friendships" and what he says is very very true for many men. They do not want to "friend you", they want to "bed you" and are hiding in sheep's clothing until that moment.

[DreamerGirl27]

I don't think describing someone else as "disgustingly under average" puts yourself on a pedestal - but it does show me that you are so insecure that you will settle for scraps, or else you wouldn't have the need to describe other people in that way in this context. Why do you want to associate with someone who objectifies and uses women in this way?

 

I think you misread what I wrote. I was personally saying I feel like the girls he has chosen in the past are "under average" for him, meaning I think I'm prettier. It's quite a... stuck up attitude to have, actually. I think very highly of myself, always have.

 

Yet, he constantly says that he wants a "good looking" girl.

 

Well hello...RIGHT HERE BUDDY!! haha

 

jk

 

well, no not jk....

 

well, anyway. yeah, i think you definitely misread what I wrote.

[DreamerGirl27]

This just makes me mental. Why why why do women think this way? He as admitted he is a dog boy. The fact that he is NOT a dog boy with you means he thinks you are special?? Take of the rose colored glasses! I am sure if you hang in there long enough, he will throw a worthless sexual encounter your way if you want, but what is there here for you? You have made an opinion of this guy based on your own hopes and are selectively viewing only information that supports this.

 

Again, women, please note the area in bold. Once again, a guy breaks the code of silence about "guy-girl friendships" and what he says is very very true for many men. They do not want to "friend you", they want to "bed you" and are hiding in sheep's clothing until that moment.

 

Okay, and the problem is? LOL i have already had this conversation with him, I KNOW men and women make horrible "friends". I have never once had the intention of being HIS friend either!

 

If he beds me, I'll be the happiest woman on the planet.

 

MY only problem is getting him to bed ONLY me FOR THE REST OF HIS LIFE.

 

I wanna marry this dude, dammit. LOL (okay, I'll take that back, I won't go that far)...

 

but I hope the first guy I'm with is the only and last guy I'm with. So, I'll just say I "hope" he does bed me and I "HOPE TO GOD" it's for good.

 

=D

 

P.S. I have no problem with this line of thinking if that's what you're getting at.

[LoveSoDeep]

but I hope the first guy I'm with is the only and last guy I'm with. So, I'll just say I "hope" he does bed me and I "HOPE TO GOD" it's for good.

 

=D

 

Whoa there....I haven't read you other threads but if you're saying that you are a virgin and you hope to only have sex with one man and for that man to be your husband... Does he know this? Or even have clue that you feel this way? Well DUH! THAT'S why he's holding back!

 

You seem to be saying you're okay with him just wanting sex from you but in the same breath you say that you hope to god if he does that you will get married....while that may happen once in while it is certainly not the norm. He's just protecting you from certain doom b/c he's not ready to commit yet.

 

I say make up your mind are you saving it for marraige or not....but either way I think you need to move on from this one.

[sara-pezzini]

agreed, if he knows you are a virgin and he doesn't want a relationship, just sex, then that is probably why he won't do it with you.....but to call some other girl ugly and you prettier is not very nice, maybe he did find her pretty and is not attracted to your type even though you feel you are prettier than her....

[DreamerGirl27]

Whoa there....I haven't read you other threads but if you're saying that you are a virgin and you hope to only have sex with one man and for that man to be your husband... Does he know this? Or even have clue that you feel this way? Well DUH! THAT'S why he's holding back!

 

You seem to be saying you're okay with him just wanting sex from you but in the same breath you say that you hope to god if he does that you will get married....while that may happen once in while it is certainly not the norm. He's just protecting you from certain doom b/c he's not ready to commit yet.

 

I say make up your mind are you saving it for marraige or not....but either way I think you need to move on from this one.

 

yes, I want the one to be the ONE and forever. Of course, who wouldn't? and why isn't that the norm? It seems pretty abnormal for me to have it any other way.

[DreamerGirl27]

agreed, if he knows you are a virgin and he doesn't want a relationship, just sex, then that is probably why he won't do it with you.....but to call some other girl ugly and you prettier is not very nice, maybe he did find her pretty and is not attracted to your type even though you feel you are prettier than her....

 

May not be nice, but in this case, it was fact.

[DreamerGirl27]

Whoa there....I haven't read you other threads but if you're saying that you are a virgin and you hope to only have sex with one man and for that man to be your husband... Does he know this? Or even have clue that you feel this way? Well DUH! THAT'S why he's holding back!

 

You seem to be saying you're okay with him just wanting sex from you but in the same breath you say that you hope to god if he does that you will get married....while that may happen once in while it is certainly not the norm. He's just protecting you from certain doom b/c he's not ready to commit yet.

 

I say make up your mind are you saving it for marraige or not....but either way I think you need to move on from this one.

 

and yes, he does know I'm a virgin, he does know I want to marry whoever I "lose" it to, and he does know I'm very morally...conscious.

[sara-pezzini]

May not be nice, but in this case, it was fact.

to you....beauty is in the eye of the beholder.....

[sara-pezzini]

and yes, he does know I'm a virgin, he does know I want to marry whoever I "lose" it to, and he does know I'm very morally...conscious.

 

and that's why he doesn't want to sleep with you, he doesn't want a relationship, just sex

[Capricorn3]

He said he can't be there emotionally for a girl. That he's just "all about sex". Well then, if he's all about sex, then why isn't he "all about sex" with me.

 

He said that he keeps multiple girls as friends hoping one day one of them will have sex with him.

 

Apparently that doesn't apply to me?.

I know it's difficult for you to understand, but it means that he is NOT interested in YOU at all - not in a relationship way, NOR in a sexual way. He simply does NOT want to get involved with you in any way. You have to learn to accept this. There's no point in beating a dead horse. You're living in fantasy land if you think he'll come around. Trust me, if he wanted "sex from any girl" you would have been on the list. The fact that you're not should tell you something, no?

 

he does know I'm a virgin, he does know I want to marry whoever I "lose" it to

 

There ya go. He does NOT want to get involved, nor get married to you.

[bulletproof]

He's not interested in you that way. He keeps you around to feed his ego, and maybe because he enjoys your company on a limited basis. Just because he's not trying to have sex with you does not mean he is secretly in love with you. This is some seriously warped thinking you're having.

[DreamerGirl27]

Then someone tell him to stop IMing every 5 seconds!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Capricorn3]

Then someone tell him to stop IMing every 5 seconds!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're feeding his ego. He's enjoying the feeling of having a woman fall at his feet and worship the ground he walks on. Still doesn't mean he wants a relationship or sex with you. He's playing you and as long as you feed the ego, he'll be there.

[DreamerGirl27]

You're feeding his ego. He's enjoying the feeling of having a woman fall at his feet and worship the ground he walks on. Still doesn't mean he wants a relationship or sex with you. He's playing you and as long as you feed the ego, he'll be there.

 

he also comes over to me in class and sits next to me like we're best of pals

[Capricorn3]

So, if you really believe he is into you, then can you explain WHY he is not with you, or ever approached you for sex?

[DreamerGirl27]

So, if you really believe he is into you, then can you explain WHY he is not with you, or ever approached you for sex?

 

I don't know, like I said, our conversations can turn pretty sexual...

 

he is 4 years younger than me if that explains anything.

[DreamerGirl27]

So, if you really believe he is into you, then can you explain WHY he is not with you, or ever approached you for sex?

 

he has done little things like grab my hand while showing me where to put my hand to play guitar and again our conversations can turn PRETTY SEXUAL and he is 4 YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME AND I AM NOT ANCIENT MYSELF

[Capricorn3]

he has done little things like grab my hand while showing me where to put my hand to play guitar and again our conversations can turn PRETTY SEXUAL and he is 4 YEARS YOUNGER THAN ME AND I AM NOT ANCIENT MYSELF

And STILL he is NOT interested in you. In other threads you have told us that HE himself has told you upfront that he's not interested in a relationship with you. What don't you understand here??