stingray Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Hi, I am currently seeing this girl right now and she said she wants to take it slow. I am fine with that but I feel like there needs to be some physical esclation in the sense of more physical contact. Cause right now all I really do is just play with her ears and sit pretty close to her. Tonight I am taking her to a friends birthday party and I think I am going to try to hold her hand while we walk through the city. Hopefully it flows and isn't weird... What is the best way to put your arm around a girl? I hear that if you put your arm behind her shoulder thats more a friends thing. Where should I place my hands? Also I want to have our first kiss pretty soon we have been on 2 dates with a third one coming up tomorrow. I have seen her in between but in a group setting as I will tonight! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mountains Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I wouldn't worry about arm placement. I would be making sure that I was paying attention to her comfort level first and foremost because you don't want to be the guy that is pushing physical escalation. It makes you uncomfortable to be around which is obviously the last thing you want to do with a girl you are interested in. I think the best thing to do is to build up to putting your arm around her with light physical contact throughout the night. Like if you are walking into the party start as simply as standing closer to her. If you have to go to the bathroom turn to her, put your hand on her shoulder and say, "Hey, I'll be right back." Keep your attitude fun and relaxed and build up to it. If it comes out of nowhere it might seem awkward for this particular girl since she is already a bit uncomfortable with the speed things were moving. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stingray Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 I think I might be the one with the comfort issue because I will put my hand on the small of her back occassionally but will only leave it there for a few seconds before I pull back. She doesn't have a problem with it or doesn't say anything about it. She told her cousin that she really liked the pace of things right now with me and that she loves how respectable I am being with her. We are really straightforward with each other, shes made it clear that she really likes me a lot and that shes thought of me sexually. But she hasn't really defined slow since its all perception based, whats slow to her might not be slow to me. Im going to try as much as I can to get more physically comfortable with her before going for a kiss. Hopefully, tonight we can get comfortable! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MD Geist Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I would say don't rush it or put to much anciptation on it or else you could make a mistake. My first kiss was very unexpected. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stingray Posted January 15, 2011 Author Share Posted January 15, 2011 I really like this girl I am afraid of getting friendzoned if I dont add a physical aspect to our relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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