BirdOnAWire Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 Indeed, you are correct. Can I still post her naked pictures and videos on the web? Or maybe mass email them to her entire company? LOL...kidding. No but really...should I? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fwdthinker Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 If you just want somebody to say it no you should not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justaglimmer Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Wow, this girl is a Class-A B****. I hope you didn't pay for her food today. So sorry she put you through all that. Though I'm sure your heart wants her badly right now, try your best to see her for what she really is. I know its definitely the worst thing in the world to fall in love with the "sweetheart" and then a few months later, they suddenly turn into the devil himself. I'm going through something similar myself, hang in there and try your best to use this experience as your form of closure. And no, don't use any nude photos you have of her to spite her lol. Show that you have more class than her. Just get rid of them, and get rid of her from your life completely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manicdogbert Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 be the bigger person and just cut off contact and delete her from your life. don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that any of this affected you. she clearly volunteered all of this information to hurt you and by posting nude photos, she essentially wins. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
diamond78 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I would send her an email, but something like this: "Thank you for coming to lunch today, but I must say your words and behavior during lunch were very rude and dare I say...unladylike. I think I finally met the real you. And I can honestly say that I won't be missing her at all. Take Care." -Birdonawire If you're going to send her an email, it has to be civilized yet also make her feel embarrassed for her behavior. It can't be a a full out rant or you'd look like the crazy ex. Be mature, but make it sting a little. This girl is a nasty piece of work! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
justaglimmer Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 i would send her an email, but something like this: "thank you for coming to lunch today, but i must say your words and behavior during lunch were very rude and dare i say...unladylike. I think i finally met the real you. And i can honestly say that i won't be missing her at all. Take care." -birdonawire if you're going to send her an email, it has to be civilized yet also make her feel embarrassed for her behavior. It can't be a a full out rant or you'd look like the crazy ex. Be mature, but make it sting a little. This girl is a nasty piece of work! i love this! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starrgrl Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 You know what's the best 'revenge??' Moving on, leaving them in the past and being really happy. Best thing about that is, you feel great and you leave all that crap behind (and if they come accross you being your new super awesome self, they would regret things and you'd be like =D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GotMyLifeBack Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 If you send her an email, just expect her to respond spewing more evil crap. I'd break this chain right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 I would send her an email, but something like this: "Thank you for coming to lunch today, but I must say your words and behavior during lunch were very rude and dare I say...unladylike. I think I finally met the real you. And I can honestly say that I won't be missing her at all. Take Care." -Birdonawire If you're going to send her an email, it has to be civilized yet also make her feel embarrassed for her behavior. It can't be a a full out rant or you'd look like the crazy ex. Be mature, but make it sting a little. This girl is a nasty piece of work! This is genius. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
diamond78 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 This is genius. She will feel it, believe me. It's all about the approach....You'll come off smelling like roses and she'll be sitting there with egg on her face. and then it's NC forever for you...no matter if she replies or not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JS1106 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Dude, don't believe anything she says. She can't be angry at you if she doesn't care, but what does it matter. She does sound evil. Seriously. I kind've wish my ex was this evil, I would have no trouble letting her go. I hope you can see how toxic of a person she is and I hope that helps you get over her. Don't play this game with her anymore. If she is like she seems, it will drive her crazy, but who cares? You need get as far away from this one as you can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gallop30 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I would send her an email, but something like this: "Thank you for coming to lunch today, but I must say your words and behavior during lunch were very rude and dare I say...unladylike. I think I finally met the real you. And I can honestly say that I won't be missing her at all. Take Care." -Birdonawire If you're going to send her an email, it has to be civilized yet also make her feel embarrassed for her behavior. It can't be a a full out rant or you'd look like the crazy ex. Be mature, but make it sting a little. This girl is a nasty piece of work! that's enough for her little brain to process. after sending it,do not reply to whatever she has to say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnm3 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I would definitely avoid insulting her as this will just spring defense mechanisms and undoubtedly leave you in more pain... just be civilized, show class and confidence as you wish her the best "Thanks for coming to lunch today. I don't want to waste our time continuing a toxic friendship; it's best if we go our separate ways. You have my best wishes and sincere and heartfelt love. Take care." this girl is selfish and emotionally sadistic. every minute she is a part of your life will contribute to your unhappiness. you'll look back with pride at how well you disposed of this sick little woman Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oneironaut Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I agree with what some here are saying...first of all, she treated you HORRIBLY during lunch. Screw that. Second of all, IF you're going to write an email, make it short, sweet, and to the point, as some have suggested. Let her know politely that continuing any sort of relationship with her is not something you are interested in...that way, you are ending it on YOUR terms, not hers. And that is very, very satisfying. 8) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gallop30 Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 "Thank you for coming to lunch,and introduce me to the real you. I certainly don't want a fake friend,but regardless you have my best wishes,sincere and heartfelt love. take care." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Glowguy Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 I can't believe the lunch comment. Please tell me you didn't pay for lunch after that. This girl is a serious b****. I'm amazed that you held it together and stayed cool. I would have left after five minutes I think. Diamond's email is great and she deserves to be called out for her behavior, but I agree you should keep it very simple and direct. At least you have the closure you need now. Don't give this monster another minute of your time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissSMcc Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 wow, your ex sounds like a right cow! she 'kinda wanted lunch'?!!! oh man, if u didnt see it before, surely u see it now! beeee-atch. i have nothing constructive to say, that is just unbelievable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 wow, your ex sounds like a right cow! she 'kinda wanted lunch'?!!! oh man, if u didnt see it before, surely u see it now! beeee-atch. i have nothing constructive to say, that is just unbelievable. It really is unbelievable to me. It wont even let me sleep. This girl, "my baby" was the sweetest person I had ever met" is she mad that I stopped chasing her or something or was the month of not seeing or speaking to each other enough to reset things so her true colors could shine? I loved her with everything and she promised me the same...all the while knowing there wasn't a future? As I fell in love with her more and more each day, she was planning her get away? I can't even comprehend it. The fact that shes dating this guy is also eating me up. It's because I know she met him at work (she wouldn't tell me) when she switched jobs as the time line of her distancing behavior matches perfectly. Then, while she suddenly stopped emailing me all day, she was probably emailing him and building a nice friendship with him, aka, emotionally cheating. During this whole time she knew what she was up too and I was still 110% into the relationship. Then, when she reached a point with the guy where she knew she wanted to date him for real, she gave me the, "I need space BS" and hung me out to dry. I'm gutted over this, cant even sleep. Thanks for the suggestions y'all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissSMcc Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 i know what u mean about emotional cheating, my ex started distancing himself from me for about a month before the split, i asked him about it and he said he was just shutting himself off because his grandad is ill. funny how an old flame of his had just looked him up on facebook, right around the time he started shutting off from me. he didnt shut himself off from her though. he must think im blind or stupid. ur ex is obviously out for herself (the lunch comment alone proves that), and if she ever really was the 'sweet girl', she sure as **** isn't that now. whether she ever was or not, shes way below what u deserve now and its her loss Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Calblee Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 birdsonawire, i feel you. someone you know for a long time turn out to be a complete fragging * * * * * that you would have never got together had you known her true colors. people change. accept that then change for the better. relationships break so that a better one can come into one with us. =) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 I'm trying my hardest here but it's almost like I feel seriously compelled to stick up for myself on this. People shouldn't be allowed to do what she's doing. When we met she did the same thing to me. I truly believed that I was saving her from her now ex husband. I'm certain that this new guy believes that he's saving her from me. I can't let this go unpunished but I just don't know what to do. The pain is different now than before knowing what I know. It's different but it's as intense as ever and she has no regrets or remorse. If anything, my care free, brush it off behavior from yesterday just validated what she did to me and what she's continuing to do as if to say, ''ehh, no big deal right? No hard feelings even though you drug me through HELL". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissSMcc Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 If anything, my care free, brush it off behavior from yesterday just validated what she did to me and what she's continuing to do as if to say, ''ehh, no big deal right? No hard feelings even though you drug me through HELL". that makes a lot of sense, like ur letting her get away with hurting u so bad and in some way even telling her its okay to treat people like that, and there wont be any backlash for her to face. but if u told her off, do u really think she would care, or even listen and accept that she treated u badly? from what u've said about her, i'd think she'd be more likely to use it as an excuse to justify her actions. (no wonder i left him, look at what he sent me, hes so mean, blah blah etc) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 that makes a lot of sense, like ur letting her get away with hurting u so bad and in some way even telling her its okay to treat people like that, and there wont be any backlash for her to face. but if u told her off, do u really think she would care, or even listen and accept that she treated u badly? from what u've said about her, i'd think she'd be more likely to use it as an excuse to justify her actions. (no wonder i left him, look at what he sent me, hes so mean, blah blah etc) Yeah she would most likely take that route. She blamed me for EVERYTHING. Literally, everything. Check this out...the waitress asked if we wanted dessert yesterday, I say no and ask my ex if she wants any. She says, ''No, I never get dessert. That was one of your biggest downfalls." I was stunned and said, ''wait a minute...you never getting dessert is a reason we broke up?" She says, ''yes, I put that on the top of my list for the next guy. Dessert, or, really to never question me or try to control me." I never tried to control her...I'm a nutritionist, she asked me to help her eat better!!!! No wonder I became so frustrated last summer...she was emotionally closed off to me. I spent months trying to figure what I was doing wrong and I couldn't come up with anything but minor stuff that everyone does. No wonder I became clingy after my surgery in July, I felt her leaving me. It was then where we laid in bed and I told her, ''Don't ever leave me'' and she promised me she wouldn't...that if I ever left her, she'd just be single for the rest of her life because she can't imagine being with anyone but me. She would ask me in her stupid little baby voice, ''Are we gonna be together forever?" and I'd always say yes and she'd smile, kiss me and say, ''I hope so". All that was a front? There's no reason for me to accept that. I never had the problem, she did. It should be justice enough knowing that she will never, and I can say this without doubt, find someone to love her like I did. I loved her in a place where nothing else existed. It's not though, I have to let her know that what she did was wrong. This girl is a spoiled brat and NO ONE has EVER scolded her or confronted her on her actions and if they tried, she moved on, fast. !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissSMcc Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 well if you feel the need to let her have it, go ahead. god knows, she deserves it. but keep in mind that once something is said it cant be unsaid, and she may use it as an excuse to make you look bad, and it may not change her behaviour. im assuming you are not hoping to get back with this girl? because the chances of that happening after you unleash on her are pretty slim. she sounds totally ridiculous though so i can't imagine why you'd want her back. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 well if you feel the need to let her have it, go ahead. god knows, she deserves it. but keep in mind that once something is said it cant be unsaid, and she may use it as an excuse to make you look bad, and it may not change her behaviour. im assuming you are not hoping to get back with this girl? because the chances of that happening after you unleash on her are pretty slim. she sounds totally ridiculous though so i can't imagine why you'd want her back. I do want her back. I want ''my baby'' back...the girl I fell in love with. The girl that sat accross from me yesterday was a complete stranger. The funny thing is, I could always and am still capable of seeing through her words and see that there's more there than she lets on. She was trying really hard yesterday to convince me or herself of something. Was she over compensating in an attempt to really make me disdain her? No, she's a narcissit, she wants praise and people to love her because she doesn't love her self. She bragged, she boasted, she gloated, she continuously threw up her guard as if to say, ''See, I'm fine. Told ya I would be ok with out you. Now, run along, I don't need you! I don't need anyone. I'm dating too......oh but it's not the reason I left you and I haven't slept with him. It's nothing serious, its ONLY dating. It's no big deal, I mean, it's ONLY dating." What is this game? Damn my overly analytical mind. Something isn't sitting right with me on this one guys. Something just doesn't smell right. If she checked out in early June, why was she surprising me with gifts and visits for lunch and telling me how much she loved me? Why were we saving for a house? Why were we house shopping in September? Why was she crying because I couldn't be there to snuggle with her in November? Why, in December, after I told her that if it's what she wants, I'll walk away and she won't hear from me again, did she call two hours later, crying, telling me to just stay on the phone with her until she falls asleep because she can't sleep without my voice? Is she just completely F'd in the head? I feel older than time here and I'm 24 years old. I mean, I was hurting thinking of ways to get her back and thinking that there was hope. Now, I'm hurting because I know all hope is lost. Nothing will ever fix this. Nothing. She is so easily manipulated and impressionable and she has evil people surrounding her and all I want to do is protect her and catch her when she falls. The person I seen yesterday...I have never seen before, in two years of knowing her. People don't change that much, that quickly. Something is wrong here. My intuition hasn't been wrong yet so I have to trust it. The hardest part is knowing that I'm right, something is sketchy and also knowing that there isn't a single damned thing I can do about it. I'm sorry for all the essays. Thank you so much for reading them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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