Max123 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 There's this girl that I've been really interested in recently. It seems like we've gotten closer and closer over the past few weeks. I've been flirting with her more (making some sexual comments, teasing, tickling, touching, etc), but there's this mutual friend who seems pretty close to her as well. While he does have a girlfriend, he still seems pretty close to the girl I'm interested in. It's hard to pinpoint exactly what, but his behavior just feels a bit odd. Should I discuss that I like her with him at all? Or should I just go ahead and try to get a date with the girl? I know that neither she nor I have had much experience dating. I wonder if that helps or hurts me. Does she see the flirting as just us being friends? Or does she realize that it's because I'm interested? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainDrop 2911 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 If you have been making sexual comments, then the girl you like has probably caught on by now, considering it has been a few weeks.. if you don't feel right making a move on her without talking to the mutual friend then maybe ask him if he has any feelings for her (although he should be concentrating on his girlfriend!) Not having experience in dating won't hurt you, and may even help your matter if she is also inexperieced, as she may feel more comfortable knowing that you are as new to this as her. i recently had two guys interested in me, and one of them was unsure wether to pursue things with me, as he knew the other guy (a friend of his) was also interested.. another thing to take into account is, does she have any feelings for the other guy ? because i had no feelings for the other guy, but was interested in the guy who had the worries.. anyway. gooooodluuccck Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max123 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Thanks for the reply! True, it seems like she may have caught on by now. Another mutual friend today commented about how we seem to have gotten really close recently. I'm not entirely sure if she has feelings for the other guy, unfortunately. I just feel like telling her straight up that I like her and then asking out on a date might be better because of both of our inexperience. But I wouldn't want to make it weird with that. Should I also tell her that I'm inexperienced? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainDrop 2911 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 no worries.. i think you should tell her your inexperienced.. people always say girls love confidence in guys, but that doesn't mean knowing everything.. it can mean being confident in yourslef enough to let her know how you feel, and let her know about yourself. this will show her that you're willing to be open, and that she can trust you. but when you tell her, don't say it like you're afraid of what she'll think. tell her that you're new to this but want her to be the one you enter this with. this will make her feel special (: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max123 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Would it be okay to maybe do this over the phone? Or should I do it in person? It's snowing right now, so classes may be canceled tomorrow and I was planning on maybe giving it a shot tomorrow. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainDrop 2911 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Even though i'm a girl, i know it is hard for some boys to ask a girl out or even communicate. but if you are already good friends, and you want to take this chance then exactly as alby10 said, just get on the phone and while your talking, just casually throw in, would you like to go see a movie together? if she really is a good girl then you have no worries, she'll let you know she's not interested in the best way she can !! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max123 Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Okey-dokes! If there's no school tomorrow, I'll give her a call! Will report back with any information! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainDrop 2911 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 okay .. good luck !!! i shall be interested to know how it goes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanyru Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Call us when the wedding bells are ringing. I'm rooting for ya. And no, you don't have to check with your friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acfan Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Ask her out. If your friend keeps flirting with her tell him you like her and he needs to back off. If he has probablem with it, he is not your friend and you don't need somebody around that you can't trust. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TidalWave Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Does she see the flirting as just us being friends? Or does she realize that it's because I'm interested? When I start reading people's minds I'll tell you... lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max123 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Share Posted January 13, 2011 Hi, here's an update: I talked to her about an hour ago. I told her that I liked her, and then she said she knew. She said she'd have to think about it. I asked when I would hear back. She said after the weekend. I left her, and then while I was walking, she called me and asked me to meet with her tomorrow after she gets off work. So I guess I'll be seeing her tomorrow. No idea what any of this means. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max123 Posted January 13, 2011 Author Share Posted January 13, 2011 ^ What... exactly is that supposed to mean? Haha... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainDrop 2911 Posted January 13, 2011 Share Posted January 13, 2011 Hi, here's an update: I talked to her about an hour ago. I told her that I liked her, and then she said she knew. She said she'd have to think about it. I asked when I would hear back. She said after the weekend. I left her, and then while I was walking, she called me and asked me to meet with her tomorrow after she gets off work. So I guess I'll be seeing her tomorrow. No idea what any of this means. wooooh! your a legend sounds like she's a smart girl, seeing as she said she'd think about it, (thats what girls say when they don't want to rush right into anything but want to make sure they're making the right decision for them) ... as to the meeting, alby 10 is right... wait to hear everything she has to say (: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Max123 Posted January 14, 2011 Author Share Posted January 14, 2011 Well, so much for that. She said no and that she didn't feel the same way. She said she still wanted to be friends and that she hoped it wouldn't be awkward between us. She said some other things too, and then we talked a little bit about our classes. That failed miserably. Still can't get anything to work. Everybody just sees me as a friend. Sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
acfan Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Let yourself feel bad for a day and then move on. I would not hang around her because it's going to hurt too much. Find your next target and get going and remember to not think you did anything wrong or there is something wrong with you. Being friends when you want more is hell. You can make plenty of other friends and not have to put up with the drama. Keep your head up and forget about her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RainDrop 2911 Posted January 16, 2011 Share Posted January 16, 2011 awww, i feel for you. dont be hard on yourself. you didn't do anything wrong, she just wasn't interested. agreed with acfan though. it will hurt to keep her around as a friend when you're going to want more, so keep your distance. Better luck next time though mate ! Don't let it play on your mind, move on to someone new. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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