lesfleursdumal Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Ever feel like your ex, who dumped you, treats you like you dumped him/her? Also, what's the deal with exes who wonder why you aren't friends anymore? Similarly, why, when an ex reaches out to you, AND YOU RESPOND, do they then not reply back? I took some psychology college course, but I only have one definition for this: crazy. Let me know what you think! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SapphireNoir10 Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 I suppose sometimes it hurts the ex to actually do the dumping....or its easier for them to pretend like they hate you? I dont know its strange behaviour! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 LOL I think he's crazy playing the innocent victim card. Ex ended emotionally. I ended it cuz he couldn't do the "I want to end the relationship." Tomorrow will be my official 6 months of Strict NC. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lesfleursdumal Posted January 11, 2011 Author Share Posted January 11, 2011 I'm going to call my ex the passive aggressive ghost. He throws me a line and pulls it back before I can even reply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tired Tiger Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 I took some psychology college course, but I only have one definition for this: crazy. Would that be the WalMart School of Psychology? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GotMyLifeBack Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Yeah, my ex treats me like I dumped her even though she left me. She often acts angry and rude around me (at work). My therapist and a couple of my female friends think she's doing this because she still has feelings for me but wants me to stay away. I wish people would act like grownups. Geez. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DN Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Some people can't bear not being the victim. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartGoesOn Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 They're an "ex" for a reason. When all is said and done, does it really matter? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 Ever feel like your ex, who dumped you, treats you like you dumped him/her? Also, what's the deal with exes who wonder why you aren't friends anymore? Similarly, why, when an ex reaches out to you, AND YOU RESPOND, do they then not reply back? I took some psychology college course, but I only have one definition for this: crazy. Let me know what you think! These are the game players...they are arrogant and egocentric. It seems like there are a lot of dumpers out there like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mills Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 LOL my ex always acts like I dumped him ... he acts like I hurt him.. telling people negative things about me, and we will never get back together... when I havent done anything to him... then he will initiate conversations with me, telling me he has a date - when I know for a fact its a lie.... i dont get it. Why does he do these things? Hes nuts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Summer Tides Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Yeah, that's my ex for you. He broke up with me but acts like I broke up with him. I asked if he wanted to maintain any kind of contact, since he kinda left me with mixed signals in the end and emailed to ask if I was alright, and his answer was no. And then said he could only see us being friends, and that would be far in the future if he chose to extend that friendship to me. All I could think was * * * ? Shouldn't I be the one that decides if I want to extend friendship to him, seeing as he dumped my ass? Then he made his FB profile pic of a little girl letting go of a heart shaped balloon. Whatever, he chose this. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lesfleursdumal Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Would that be the WalMart School of Psychology? Why is everyone so damn feisty on this site!! No, TIRED TIGER, I took the course at a prestigious school, thank ya very much. Although WalMart is a great place to run a social experiment And to HeartGoesOn, if you found my questions to be pointless, why did you bother answering? I'm not trying to be mean, I'm being serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
natalia486 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 @The seeker- Same thing happened with me although I regret it,and e-mailed him telling him why i had done that, but he then he didn't respond to my e-mails or nothing i was just hurt. I only decided it was over caus ehe had already decided it was, he just didnt had the balls to tell me. I guess he wanted to drag it all till I got tired and would do it myself? Or was he trying to keep me on the side? Either way I am NC, cause at the end he is the one that blew me off, even though sometimes I feel like I did....but it was like you said. He had dumped me emotionally I did it physically Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 @The seeker- Same thing happened with me although I regret it,and e-mailed him telling him why i had done that, but he then he didn't respond to my e-mails or nothing i was just hurt. I only decided it was over caus ehe had already decided it was, he just didnt had the balls to tell me. I guess he wanted to drag it all till I got tired and would do it myself? Or was he trying to keep me on the side? Either way I am NC, cause at the end he is the one that blew me off, even though sometimes I feel like I did....but it was like you said. He had dumped me emotionally I did it physically Hey Natalia! Don't worry about why they ended it emotionally. LOL Boyssss these days. It's okay, it's alright. We'll get someone else and they'll get someone else. Right? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SethSLC Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Hey Natalia! Don't worry about why they ended it emotionally. LOL Boyssss these days. It's okay, it's alright. We'll get someone else and they'll get someone else. Right? Hey now, we're not ALL bad ;P You'll get someone else /nod Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 Hey now, we're not ALL bad ;P You'll get someone else /nod But SethSLC, you're not a boy. You're quite a gentleman. ;] Hehehe! Ha ha, hopefully I get someone else! Probably the one I'm currently dating. It's probably going to be lots of rumor and drama. [sighs] Can't wait LOL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DooWop Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 He had dumped me emotionally I did it physically Well said. I stopped our relationship but he was the one who destroyed it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mark33 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 These are the game players...they are arrogant and egocentric. It seems like there are a lot of dumpers out there like that. Yes, I know many girls like this. They did not care about their relationships at all, and at the smallest sign of disinterest from their boyfriend who until then, put all his heart and time on the line for them, the girl is screaming "Oh My God you are the worst, you ignored me for a whole afternoon and didn't answer my messages, ok your choice, we broke up because you wanted so" which is just insane. But they are usually very attractive girls so they get away with everything.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lesfleursdumal Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 Yes, I know many girls like this. They did not care about their relationships at all, and at the smallest sign of disinterest from their boyfriend who until then, put all his heart and time on the line for them, the girl is screaming "Oh My God you are the worst, you ignored me for a whole afternoon and didn't answer my messages, ok your choice, we broke up because you wanted so" which is just insane. But they are usually very attractive girls so they get away with everything.... I would consider myself to be attractive and since single have realized that other men quickly tell me this, but I had my heart broken! Not every attractive girl plays games, many are the ones getting played. Right now my ex is seeing someone a hell of a lot less attractive than me. So maybe looks doesn't have everything to do with it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I would consider myself to be attractive and since single have realized that other men quickly tell me this, but I had my heart broken! Not every attractive girl plays games, many are the ones getting played. Right now my ex is seeing someone a hell of a lot less attractive than me. So maybe looks doesn't have everything to do with it? Probably sex does. LOL And ego boost. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lesfleursdumal Posted January 12, 2011 Author Share Posted January 12, 2011 @ The Seeker Sex definitely does, what a pig... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Seeker Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 @ The Seeker Sex definitely does, what a pig... Some women and men are all about numbers. LOL ;] Hey at least we don't have to deal with losers. Besides, I'm thankful I'm saving mine ha ha ha! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Einah1281 Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 LOL my ex always acts like I dumped him ... he acts like I hurt him.. telling people negative things about me, and we will never get back together... when I havent done anything to him... then he will initiate conversations with me, telling me he has a date - when I know for a fact its a lie.... i dont get it. Why does he do these things? Hes nuts. Sounds like my ex.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BirdOnAWire Posted January 12, 2011 Share Posted January 12, 2011 I see a lot of women in here. Maybe this behavior usually comes from us guys? My ex kind of does this, in fact, she played the victim card and swore that I threw her down the drain for months on end by...wait for it...wait for it...watching football on Sunday and playing video games...AFTER she was sleeping or if I had a day off and she didn't. Awesome. I took ONE day to spend with friends and watch football from 1-4 pm and I suddenly chose my friends over her. She never remembers all the times I blew everyone off for her. Bummer. She is very, very attractive so maybe you guys were right on with that. In fact, I'd say that she is the most attractive girl I have ever personally seen in my entire life. The problem is, she knows that. Oh well, at last I over achieved for a while! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lesfleursdumal Posted January 13, 2011 Author Share Posted January 13, 2011 Yeah my ex has friend requested me on facebook twice and taken it back twice... I had a right to defriend him. He dumped me and is now with someone else. But does he have a right to act like a little puss and play games with me? Not. Really. You know what, I'm so cool with my man having interests that don't revolve completely around me. If you want to watch football, why let someone else dictate your life and tell you not to??? It shows you have your own identity which is better than just doing everything your partner wants to. As for your ex being attractive, you must be pretty attractive too to have gotten her in the first place. She is not the end all be all of pretty girls, open your eyes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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