user83 Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 went out for dinner first time last week. had a great time. lasted almost 2 hrs. had alot of laughs. could tell she was having a good time. dont know if she was looking for attn or flirting but towards the end she would be like "awww, but i love sports" after i said i didnt like sports or trying to explain to her how my boss was (because she called) and she said "how do you know im not like that,hehe".....she held eye contact none stop and enjoyed telling me stories....I walked her to her car and went for a kiss but she backed up. She said "ill give you a hug". I didnt know what to think, but 15mins later she texted me and said she had a really nice time, thanks. my friend suggested i try again so I invited her out sat night. she said "sure". but then we started talking and it wasnt going to work out because I had work and she had to get up early, so she invited me out next weekend with her friends to a club. I told her I already have plans, if she wanted to meet during the week. she wants to see a movie. I was thinking this would be better then dinner since we are closer and i can try cuddle with her. But, should I? She rejected my kiss. am I friendzoned? I dunno what to do!!! I was also thinking maybe dinner, I would be more comfortable the second time and will beable to flirt and be a little more direct. i dunno??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
collegegirl21 Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 just chill out on trying to cuddle! she will want you more the more you hold out on the kissy, stuff... let her be the one to make that move since the first got rejected. just show her a good time and be yourself Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asthesparrow Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 You aren't quite friendzoned, or else she wouldn't wanna go to the movies with you one on one. Don't try and cuddle her. She might not be into moving that fast. Keep eye contact, keep trying to make her laugh, make her feel really comfortable... She knows you want to kiss her, so wait until she REALLY shows signs that she wants a kiss before you try again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
buddha55 Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 let her initiate the physical contact. she turned you down the first time, so let her go at her pace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TidalWave Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 Been there, done exactly same thing,..your story is the carbon copy of mine, and I went for cuddling on the 2nd date... results are - it didn't work out (later on I was told she was surprised and that I was moving too fast) Avoid making the same mistake. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
user83 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Share Posted January 10, 2011 i hate this, because then it leaves me hanging and unsure what she is thinking. i mean it was just a kiss. oh well, i will see what happens. is it safe to assume nothing happens 2nd or 3rd time she has friendzoned me? and tidalwave, when did she tell you, you were moving too fast? the 2nd date? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TidalWave Posted January 10, 2011 Share Posted January 10, 2011 i hate this, because then it leaves me hanging and unsure what she is thinking. i mean it was just a kiss. oh well, i will see what happens. is it safe to assume nothing happens 2nd or 3rd time she has friendzoned me? and tidalwave, when did she tell you, you were moving too fast? the 2nd date? No, that would be a wrong assumption. People are different, and she might be just that type of a girl that likes to get to know people more and takes things slowly. As the girl I was with. (I too kinda believed that if I don't make my move now, I'd be screwed.) When the date was over and I got home, she was online, and for some reason, I felt both great and terrible at the same time about making moves on her. Great because it's just so 'not-me' and I defeated my fear and hesitation of going after things I want at last, and terrible because I kinda sensed it might have been seen as an inappropriate behavior of mine. So I decided to go ahead and message her, apologize for what I did, and explain why I did it. It was then, she told me I was moving too fast for her taste. I left it at 'if you feel like hanging out again, let me know'. I wanted to leave the option of having a relationship with her open, under condition she shows initiative. If not, at least I hope I secured friend-zone by being straightforward and honest with her. After all, if friends is all she wants to be with me, I'm cool with it. Not only I'm on a quest of finding someone to grow old with, but I'm also looking for as many friends as possible ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
user83 Posted January 10, 2011 Author Share Posted January 10, 2011 we will see what happens. its suppose to snow Tuesday night, hopefully it doesn't start till later. this is what happened. but she backed up.....and then gave me a hung. i was walking to my car saying man, i really suck at reading signals cuz i thought she was having a good time. she texted me when she got home saying she had a really nice time, thanks. thats what made me ask for another date 2 days later. and im surpised, there is no texting in between. i srs want to really bad, but i am holding off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Archived
This topic is now archived and is closed to further replies.