annie24 Posted October 9, 2014 Share Posted October 9, 2014 Sounds great, fingers crossed!!!!! Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 10, 2014 Author Share Posted October 10, 2014 My clinic is always hiring. Just saying. hahaha, that option is always open! I have to say, the cats and dogs are getting along! We started out with the dogs barking every time they saw to the cats to now the two dogs are sat in the living room and Jasper is lying in the living room floor. The one dog gets up occasionally and does a low growl but no fur flying! We have had a few fur flying moments - such as the morning Jasper was under my blanket and the one dog stuck his head under and Jasper freaked the F out. But it's looking good! Link to comment
Seraphim Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Good luck with the jobs! Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 You are killing it, OG. I'm just so impressed with how you have pushed forward. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 10, 2014 Author Share Posted October 10, 2014 You are killing it, OG. I'm just so impressed with how you have pushed forward. Thank you Jenny. As I said before, my gut instinct knew from that first day there was someone else, so there wasn't that shock when I had it confirmed. I honestly wouldn't be surprised if the night I left she came over and all his tears were just an act. It is what it is. I can hold my head high knowing I acted with honor and respect during our marriage. Maybe he never did love me - that's for him to know though. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 10, 2014 Author Share Posted October 10, 2014 And I have amazing friends who have kept me laughing through it all - especially Hers, Dangletsbang, and Mama Met. Lord don't get Mama Met started! Haha Link to comment
jenny_mcs Posted October 10, 2014 Share Posted October 10, 2014 Thank you Jenny. I can hold my head high knowing I acted with honor and respect during our marriage. I think this is SO important. The other night I went to this lecture at a college near me, and his topic was ‘decisions’ and how you can break your life down into the decisions you make- thousands and thousands of them, every single day. They add up, and make you into who you are. Your decisions have been so honorable- remove yourself from an untenable situation, seek solace with people who care about you, continue taking care of pets that depend on you, find immediate employment (even if it isn’t the most desirable), seek legal counsel to ensure your welfare is protected, begin searching out a better job situation. Really- I can’t say it enough- you are amazing. Compare it to the decisions that L made to get him to this spot- it’s like one shady, dishonorable thing after another. So, the product of all this is that you get to look at yourself in the mirror and think- yeah- I’ve had some bad things thrown my way, but I’m still an awesome, honorable person. L.--- To have made all these poor, selfish decisions, one after the other after the other – there is no way he looks in the mirror and sees anything other than the d-bag he is. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 10, 2014 Author Share Posted October 10, 2014 Down another pound for a total of 4 lbs lost. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 10, 2014 Author Share Posted October 10, 2014 I helped my uncle rip up the laundry room floor today. Lord that worked up a sweat! It felt pretty damn good to take a hammer to some floor as well. After we finished that little project I went out for my daily walk. It started to rain when I was about half way through it - and I mean POUR - but it felt so damn good. There's nothing like walking in a downpour with Queen blasting in your ears. By the time I made it back to the house it had stopped so I did another loop. Link to comment
browneyedgirl36 Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 I helped my uncle rip up the laundry room floor today. Lord that worked up a sweat! It felt pretty damn good to take a hammer to some floor as well. After we finished that little project I went out for my daily walk. It started to rain when I was about half way through it - and I mean POUR - but it felt so damn good. There's nothing like walking in a downpour with Queen blasting in your ears. By the time I made it back to the house it had stopped so I did another loop. I agree with the others, OG: You're killin' it. You're going to be OK. Much, much better than OK, in fact. Isn't it great to have projects to do, and walks to take? These little things add so much to life. And, walking in the rain? There's nothing like that. Unfortunately, I live in California, where it has rained exactly ONCE in probably the last 5 months or so, so I may have to wait a bit to have that experience again. Keep on keepin' on. You're doing GREAT. A year from now, all of this will be a distant memory that you're too busy to even think about because you'll already be living a fantastic new life! Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Share Posted October 11, 2014 Thank you browneyedgirl. Yeah, we don't have that problem in the South - all you have to do is wait about five minutes and another downpour comes. haha We actually had a proper thunderstorm last night - pouring rain, lightening, thunder. I sat on the back porch and started my new blog while listening to it. Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Share Posted October 11, 2014 A member of the psuedo family also offered to take me out to a karaoke bar this weekend. Normally I'm not the bar type but what the heck, right? I've also never done karaoke before! Link to comment
hers Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 Karaoke is sooooo fun!! I love it!! Do it! Link to comment
luminousone Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 I helped my uncle rip up the laundry room floor today. Lord that worked up a sweat! It felt pretty damn good to take a hammer to some floor as well. After we finished that little project I went out for my daily walk. It started to rain when I was about half way through it - and I mean POUR - but it felt so damn good. There's nothing like walking in a downpour with Queen blasting in your ears. By the time I made it back to the house it had stopped so I did another loop. You rock, OG! Sometimes rain is a symbol of washing away the bad and entering into a new life... Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Share Posted October 11, 2014 You rock, OG! Sometimes rain is a symbol of washing away the bad and entering into a new life... It def. felt like a washing away. A friend told me a rumor going around the old work place that they plan on getting married after our divorce is finalized. All I could think was, 'wow, I really dodged a bullet with this guy!' Link to comment
annie24 Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 oh wow Hopefully that is a rumor and he's not stupid enough to jump from one marriage to another...? but I guess he has to stay in the country somehow... Link to comment
petite Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 That tells you exactly how much he values marriage. Zilch. You're better off. Too bad he's in the country. From now on you just have to think about you, Link to comment
notalady Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 Hey OG, just started following your thread, just want to say it's awesome how well you're handling the divorce! Onwards and upwards! Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Share Posted October 11, 2014 Hey OG, just started following your thread, just want to say it's awesome how well you're handling the divorce! Onwards and upwards! Thanks. Link to comment
Ms Darcy Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 OG - you are doing great! Keep up the laughter and activity (getting out and doing things, job hunting, walks) and I'm glad you have such a great support system. Link to comment
redrose85 Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 It’s just insecurity-- leaping from one relationship to another. I pity him, actually. I’m GLAD you’re moving on, growing, learning new things, getting healthy again. You can do some much better, truly. Never liked that guy and I’m not just saying that. How was karaoke? Also, do you get a lot of thunderstorms there? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted October 11, 2014 Author Share Posted October 11, 2014 Karaoke is tonight We do get a lot of thunderstorms, it's one of the things I love, love about the South. How it can go from beautiful sunshine to dark clouds and lightening in minutes. The greatest lesson I've learned from this experience is the meaning of friendship. I can not begin to thank the amount of people who have been there for me - either in just words, lent me a shoulder to cry on, opened their home to me, or financially. Dark times really show you who your true friends are. And for another positive note, I've started writing on my novel. Like legit writing on it. It may have taken almost 20 years and a divorce but the creative juices are flowing. Link to comment
renaissancewoman101 Posted October 11, 2014 Share Posted October 11, 2014 Do you guys ever just get lightning storms where the sky lights up with lightning bolts, the air is humid and heavy, but no rain for a while? I remember when I lived in WI, standing in the parking lot of my apt building during a summer's night, looking up at the sky and seeing the lightning streak accross the sky and hearing the crash of thunder. Good for you for having supportive friends. Link to comment
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