Attraction

[Jetta]

First of all I'm not sure if this post will be allowed. But I seem to attract black men a lot and I don't understand why that is. I'm blond haired, blue eyed, your all-American white girl who gets the attention of black men a lot, and not often white men. At least they're few and far between and generally when I do attract them they're older, which isn't what I want either.

 

I'm thinking I must be how I look. But then again I just don't know if there's some aura I carry or what. Any tips on attracting a descent same race guy?

[BellaDonna]

I don't think there is any way to answer this post without resorting to unnecessary and inaccurate stereotypes.

 

I don't think you can project an aura that will cause only members of certain races or ages to be attracted to you. The only thing I can think of is to make a dating profile online and specify the age groups and ethnicities you prefer in the profile.

 

In the meantime, take it as a compliment.

[jonny15]

This thread is probably not gonna end well. So i'm gonna get my post in before it gets locked or deleted.

 

I think your probably gonna have to approach the white guys.

[magnoliasky]

Any tips on attracting a descent same race guy?

 

Does it seem like most white men aren't decent?

[magnoliasky]

I tend to attract a couple specific cultures, but honestly I am drawn to them too; So it's mutual. Don't know what to tell ya.

[jengh]

I tend to attract men of other races as well, specifically african american and hispanic. I've asked a few guys and they all have said it's my body type. Okay *enter stereotype*, it seems to me that in general, many white guys are attracted to thinner girls whereas men from other racial or ethnic backgrounds are attracted to a curvier body. Again, I realize I'm stereotyping and this doesn't mean EVERY white guy likes thin girls and EVERY black guy likes curvy girls. It's just been a general observation.

 

Jetta, what's your body type out of curiosity?

[jonny15]

Does it seem like most white men aren't decent?

 

I just noticed that too.

 

Seemed kind odd.

 

 

Do you not think their decent?

[Sparkly Eyes]

I just noticed that too.

 

Seemed kind odd.

 

 

Do you not think their decent?

 

How did you guys get that from what she said? What she said is pretty obvious. She would rather attract white guys that are decent. Here she probably means close to her age and nice people. She never said white guys are not decent, but that she wants the decent ones. Every race/culture has good and bad people in it.

[Lamour detruit]

First of all I'm not sure if this post will be allowed. But I seem to attract black men a lot and I don't understand why that is. I'm blond haired, blue eyed, your all-American white girl who gets the attention of black men a lot, and not often white men. At least they're few and far between and generally when I do attract them they're older, which isn't what I want either.

 

I'm thinking I must be how I look. But then again I just don't know if there's some aura I carry or what. Any tips on attracting a descent same race guy?

 

Its either because you're just that..the typical all-american girl..or you have a curvy body type, is what I'd say. Perhaps they are just more outspoken about it, but if you were to initiate talking to a white guy you're interested in, wouldn't be a bad idea if that is what you're looking for.

[waveseer]

In my experience certain cultures encourage their men to approach women more often and more aggressively. Rest assured you are attracting ALL types of men, but some of them are more inhibited than others.

[Sparkly Eyes]

In my experience certain cultures encourage their men to approach women more often and more aggressively. Rest assured you are attracting ALL types of men, but some of them are more inhibited than others.

 

This is very true. I get hit on by black men a lot too and I definitely think it's because they are more aggressive and free when it comes to approaching women.

[Doc Blaze]

there can be alot of factors...what clubs,bars you go to..area you live..hobbies...i dunno...all my friends are white...mostly italians and we go to areas and dance clubs where the majority is white...i get hit on by all white women because thats whats there...like i said...there can be mutiple factors in this situation

[Jetta]

I'm mainly talking about who I attract on-line, as I don't go out to bars and clubs much these days, however I live in the country yet if there is a non-white person around that is who hits on me. Yes I've had white guys from the bars but that hasn't turned into anything. One was promising but I was in love with another guy so I cut him loose and well now he was burned by me and hates me basically. He was so cute, but I was infatuated with another guy.

 

What I get from the white guys on-line is sexual inuendos and the black guys send complimentary e-mails. It's tough to reject the complimentary e-mails when you get sex fiends from your counterparts.

 

Yes I'm a curvy figure but my attire is fully covered really. I'm wearing a business suit in two pictures and button up shirt with jeans in another full shot picture. The last guy I dated said I looked respectable. I enjoy sex like the next person but I expect to be treated with respect.

 

I'm not sure if I show my sexy side to show them I have one, but the last white get sent a message telling me he was had a big you know what. I was taken aback. I was interested in him I initiated contact but that's what I got as a response.

 

Maybe I should be at the bars instead I have better luck. But a lot of descent people don't go to the bars anymore. I met my last husband at a bar, through friends. He was being set up with a girl who hates me in our friend group. She's married to a different guy, cuter IMO and has 5 kids now. But my ex and I hit it off I was drunk and very flirty. I never expected him to like me but he told me later he was always being set up with the other girl and just didn't like her. Things happen. Should have stayed married to him but now I'm back on the scene.

[pinkelephant]

I got quite a few dirty messages from weirdo white guys too (or they're white in their pictures, who knows if those pics are real!). I've been told it's relatively normal for weirdo's to do that over the net.

 

 

Perhaps you could modify your profile to make it sound more serious, then you could deter those creeps??

[oldenoughtoknow]

I tend to attract men of other races as well, specifically african american and hispanic. I've asked a few guys and they all have said it's my body type. Okay *enter stereotype*, it seems to me that in general, many white guys are attracted to thinner girls whereas men from other racial or ethnic backgrounds are attracted to a curvier body. Again, I realize I'm stereotyping and this doesn't mean EVERY white guy likes thin girls and EVERY black guy likes curvy girls. It's just been a general observation.

 

Jetta, what's your body type out of curiosity?

 

Bingo! I was just formulating how to say this in PC jargon, but you already did it for me.

[Doc Blaze]

def true what jen said and alot of my friends are def that way..not all but the majority are...

[JonasWaingaro]

In my experience certain cultures encourage their men to approach women more often and more aggressively. Rest assured you are attracting ALL types of men, but some of them are more inhibited than others.

 

This is spot on. All the body type stuff is fine but not accurate - simply an easy stereotype.

[Blue Spiral]

I got quite a few dirty messages from weirdo white guys too (or they're white in their pictures, who knows if those pics are real!).

 

In America, white people are the majority (for another twenty or thirty years, anyway). Therefore, the majority of weirdoes one comes accross will be white. Just a statistical thing.

 

I am white, and I totally send messages like that all the time. Nothing explicit, though. It's a habit.