Shudder Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 So i just got back from a first date.. i'd like to see this girl again but am unsure when and how soon to contact her.. should i send her a message tomorrow saying i had a good time? or should i just wait till mid week to ask her out again? Link to comment
abitbroken Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 Definitely call her tomorrow and tell her you had a wonderful time. Tell her that you would like to see her again. As old fashioned as it is, some gals still think that if the guy doesn't contact them the day or so after the first date, he isn't interested. Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 6, 2010 Author Share Posted June 6, 2010 and what if they don't return the call? how do i know if she is still interested? Link to comment
waveseer Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 and what if they don't return the call? how do i know if she is still interested? Returning your call is common courtesy. You definitely don't want to date a woman who doesn't return your calls. Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 6, 2010 Author Share Posted June 6, 2010 and what if a message i leave doesn't seem to need a response? Link to comment
waveseer Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 and what if a message i leave doesn't seem to need a response? Tell her that you had a good time and would like to see her again. Ask her to return your call to make arrangements. Link to comment
adamt Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 and what if a message i leave doesn't seem to need a response? then you move on. nothing is lost. maybe if you get no response you can send anther email a few dys later just asking what she has been upto and how she is doing. if she doesnt respond then she isnt that bothered Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 6, 2010 Author Share Posted June 6, 2010 Tell her that you had a good time and would like to see her again. Ask her to return your call to make arrangements. so basically as her out again tomorrow? Link to comment
waveseer Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 so basically as her out again tomorrow? If you'd like to see her within the next week and it could take a day or two for her to return your call, then it really isn't too soon to begin the process. Link to comment
Ammy Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 Contact after the first date should be within a few days. I love it when I hear from someone the very next day - it makes me feel special. If she doesn't answer - leave a voicemail or text. It's common courtesy to reply and she will if she likes you. In the message you could ask her out again directly and then there is a question that needs replying to. Don't say '"I''d love to do it again, let me know if you would.."leaves it too open... be more specific like "I was wondering if you'd be free on the weekend to see a movie / go to dinner" etc.... Ammy Link to comment
BriarRose Posted June 6, 2010 Share Posted June 6, 2010 Call today or tomorrow! For me personally, if I go out with someone and they don't call me until days later, I won't go out with them again - to me, it's a sign of lack of interest, so you don't want her to think that..... I even like it when they call me shortly after the date just to tell me they had a good time... Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 7, 2010 Author Share Posted June 7, 2010 eh... i dislike leaving voicemail messages Link to comment
BriarRose Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 eh... i dislike leaving voicemail messages You don't need to mention asking her out when you leave a message, just a "hi" is fine, lets her know you are thinking about her and still interested. And everyone has caller ID, so you may as well leave a message. Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 7, 2010 Author Share Posted June 7, 2010 You don't need to mention asking her out when you leave a message, just a "hi" is fine, lets her know you are thinking about her and still interested. And everyone has caller ID, so you may as well leave a message. i did just that anyway.. but i messed up the message in a way that she could tell i sounded a little on the nervous side.. oh well Link to comment
BriarRose Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 i did just that anyway.. but i messed up the message in a way that she could tell i sounded a little on the nervous side.. oh well That's okay... Link to comment
citymouse Posted June 7, 2010 Share Posted June 7, 2010 That's okay... Yeah, really! She's not going to hear the voicemail and think "Oooh, he sounded nervous." She'll be jumping up and down and saying, "Ooooh, he called!" LOL Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 7, 2010 Author Share Posted June 7, 2010 Yeah, really! She's not going to hear the voicemail and think "Oooh, he sounded nervous." She'll be jumping up and down and saying, "Ooooh, he called!" LOL yea thats if she's interested back Link to comment
Curious_Girl Posted June 8, 2010 Share Posted June 8, 2010 i did just that anyway.. but i messed up the message in a way that she could tell i sounded a little on the nervous side.. oh well That's sweet! Not a turn-off. Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 9, 2010 Author Share Posted June 9, 2010 well she got back to me and said that she was sorry she missed me call. i had mentioned doing something on friday evening and she said she's leaving for a week long holiday then and asked if we could do it when she gets back. i know she isn't lying because the topic of her going on vacation casually came up in conversation when we met. i told her i'll call her befor the week is over. now i haven't really had this kinda obstacle before.. should i bother calling her? I'm just wondering if i will lose interest in two weeks or something.. has anyone had any kind of obstacle like this before? Link to comment
addictedblue Posted June 9, 2010 Share Posted June 9, 2010 Lol, a week isn't that long. What you should do is make specific plans for a day or two after she gets back. When you call her this week say something like, "So if you're getting back the 19th...should I clear my schedule for the 20th or 21st? How does bowling/the beach/a movie/whatever sound?" Link to comment
Shudder Posted June 9, 2010 Author Share Posted June 9, 2010 perhaps i should ask her the date that she is leaving and coming back and then maybe schedule something there and then when i still have her on the telephone? Link to comment
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