newwave Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 I knew I wouldn't be invited to the wedding in quetion but never expected to (nor would I go, not really knowing the guy). My former best friend said she regrets not inviting me but we are no longer friends (unrelated to this). Since I'll probably never get married (because God loves to punish me and this is yet another way) this won't be an issue with me.
newwave Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 The people invited aren't close at all to the bride and groom. They were not people that were close to the groom growing up either. This is the problem. They are people the parents know but he doesn't.
abitbroken Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 The end result is my parents completely severed the friendship. They did the right thing. That's very sad that your parents chose to do that.
Batya33 Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 The people invited aren't close at all to the bride and groom. They were not people that were close to the groom growing up either. This is the problem. They are people the parents know but he doesn't. No, the problem is that you and your parents are making assumptions about who is closer to whom -- for all you know the couple has become close to these people or want to be close to these people in the future. Or, they made an arbitrary decision -- which also is their right. It's their party.
newwave Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 No they haven't become closer to the couple. My parents know the other couples and one of them didn't even know his name.
abitbroken Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 I knew I wouldn't be invited to the wedding in quetion but never expected to (nor would I go, not really knowing the guy). My former best friend said she regrets not inviting me but we are no longer friends (unrelated to this). Since I'll probably never get married (because God loves to punish me and this is yet another way) this won't be an issue with me. Self pity, just as other posters have said on countless other threads, actuall gets one nowhere fast. There is no curse involved - we do it to ourselves. That's all I am going to say on that subject. No, the problem is that you and your parents are making assumptions about who is closer to whom -- for all you know the couple has become close to these people or want to be close to these people in the future. Or, they made an arbitrary decision -- which also is their right. It's their party. I agree. Looking back, I regret not being able to invite different people to mine. But I had to stop somewhere. No they haven't become closer to the couple. My parents know the other couples and one of them didn't even know his name. My boyfriend has close friends and I don't know their wives names. I might have met the wife once in a group setting and have forgotten their name. Not all people are friends with both sides of the couple equally. And then there is my boyfriend who is bad with names. Your name could be Nancy and he doesn't call you anything because he can't remember if your name is Cheryl or June if he doesn't see you frequently. A lso, closeness has nothing to do with frequency of seeing someone. And if your parents are willing to cut good friends off for not getting an invite to something, maybe your parents don't value the friendship or they are not really good friends to begin with. also, when choosing guests for the wedding, - Maybe they are close, but the other couple is more likely to be able to sit back and have a good time versus nitpick. I don't know and cannot speculate. It could even be just a numbers thing and they drew a line where the list had to end
newwave Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 Self pity, just as other posters have said on countless other threads, actuall gets one nowhere fast. There is no curse involved - we do it to ourselves. That's all I am going to say on that subject. . Of course it's self pity, I deserve better. Him: Graduated college on a 2.2 GPA. Mommy and daddy paid for his college so he never worked in college. Got a job in PR right out of college, and moved up into the field. His wife is a PR professional too. Me: Graduated 3.7 on a 4.0 with both my Masters and Bachelors. My parents couldn't afford so I took out a student loan and owe $40,000 which I can't pay off because I lost my job. As for guys, the only guy I want has emotional issues he's dealing with and might never become a husband. Even if he does, he's not a prize as he is ugly, didn't go to college, and doesn't make much. Yet because I am 39 this is about the best I can do without dating a divorced dad. Yes I deserve pity. I deserve the life I want! I worked hard and this happens.
newwave Posted June 5, 2010 Author Posted June 5, 2010 No, these people invited do not know the bride and groom AT ALL. They are not close friends of the couple's parents either. THAT'S THE ISSUE.
abitbroken Posted June 5, 2010 Posted June 5, 2010 Um...I thought this thread was about being invited to weddings?? No, I don't pity you at all. Grade points don't bring you happiness. And beauty doesn't either. It can fade over time or because of health so its not permanent. I am neither impressed nor feel sorry for you. But I do feel sorry that you cannot look around and see the blessings or the good fortune you have in your life. We get too busy wallowing in pity. They say "attitude is everything" and its true.
HeartGoesOn Posted June 6, 2010 Posted June 6, 2010 Moderator Note: Please stay on topic when replying to this thread.
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