public taunting from the ex

[Teaday]

I was at a bar with a new guy and ran into my ex, about a month after the break up. My ex began laughing and saying my name repeatedly. I know this will happen again, as it did a couple more times. Not only is my ex immature, but he is also completely predictable. I ignored him each time, but it's getting old.

 

I would like to know: Would it be better to be straightforward and tell my ex that this can't happen everytime he sees me in public? Also, from the perspective of the guy I was with, how can I handle it in a way that won't make a new guy think I'm not over my past or that I have baggage?

 

I'm over my ex completely, and I'm also completely over things being awkward when I see him, which inevitably will happen many more times.

[HeartGoesOn]

I would not say a word to him, and let him continue to make a fool out of himself. Be the bigger person, and refuse to stoop to his level.

[jenesaispas]

i would probably give him a snooty look and say "excuse me?" if you can raise an eyebrow, all the better. i tend to talk to immature drunks like they're 8, and since i substitute taught for years, i can pull off mean teacher pretty well. if he pushed it, i would clearly state that he had obviously had too much to drink and wouldn't he feel better someplace quiet? if he continued to press the issue, i would leave, probably saying to the guy i was with that i needed someplace quiet. then go somewhere else more pleasant with him.

if it happened again, i'd be more serious about it. get the establishment- ie: bouncer- involved. depends on how long it went on. he's trying to get a rise out of you, but you don't have to play it cool til it ruins your dating career. give him a no-nonsense chance and then be tough. what a jerk.

[Kaytie]

Take the high road and ignore him. If the guy you're with is worth being with he will realize you aren't reacting and behaving maturely. He'll continue making himself look like an idiot all by himself.

[RedDress]

Do you live in a small town? Why not frequent bars that you know your ex will not be at? I mean... I know it's possible to just run into him... but can you also not avoid him? Or at least be at the opposite end of the bar so you can't see/hear him?

 

I agree with the others. Ignore it and it will eventually go away.

[JusticeLaw9]

I was at a bar with a new guy and ran into my ex, about a month after the break up. My ex began laughing and saying my name repeatedly. I know this will happen again, as it did a couple more times. Not only is my ex immature, but he is also completely predictable. I ignored him each time, but it's getting old.

 

I would like to know: Would it be better to be straightforward and tell my ex that this can't happen everytime he sees me in public? Also, from the perspective of the guy I was with, how can I handle it in a way that won't make a new guy think I'm not over my past or that I have baggage?

 

I'm over my ex completely, and I'm also completely over things being awkward when I see him, which inevitably will happen many more times.

 

You'll do much more damage by starving your ex. He's trying to bait you into something. If he gets that rise out of you that he's striving for, he'll feel like he won. And it sounds like he's that small of a man that he needs that to boost his own ego. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction.

[Teaday]

Thank you all for your insight! I will continue to ignore him. I could find somewhere else to go, but I think I'm gonna to save that for a last resort if he really can't learn to be civil. The bar I see him at is my absolute favorite one--good music, fun people, clean--and he knows this. There aren't tooo many other places to go.

 

It seems so odd to me that he's acting like this when he's the one who broke up with me and started a new relationship. It's craziness. Either way, I really do NOT want to give him that satisfaction. I do feel better having vented a bit here

[Eclipse11]

Sounds a bit babyish to me...! It made me think of "American Pie"...or "Not Another Teen Movie"....